Since the day I started to cheong again... hello to all bros by the way, I'm new here, also a new cheongster in this fine country, pardon me if I said anything wrong.

I have always reminded myself not to be a kai-zhi. As the chinese saying goes: yang mao zhang zai yang shen shang (goat furs are from the goats), if you don't want to be taken advantage of, don't make yourself look like one who can be taken advantage of.

I'll share my recent experience...

Case 1: I was in Shanghai for couple of weeks, met a SYT at one of the barbershops. Had a session with her at the shop (fucking run down place). We exchanged numbers after the session.

She called me couple of days later, asking when will I be paying her visit again. I told her frankly that, no doubt I like her service, but I hated to do it over there. I asked if she would come to my hotel. After some negotiation, she agreed and took on the "onsite assignment", and of course, she was compensated accordingly.

Cut the long story short, my stay in SH has come to an end. She called me on the evening before I flew off, asking if we could meet up for dinner. Happened so I was meeting couple of Samster bros who are in SH for a farewell session, so I thought I might as well bring her along. So she happily joinned us for the drinking session. After the drinking session, I asked if she wanted to follow me back to hotel, she happily agreed too. So we were back to my room. That night, we bonked twice.

Next morning, she helped me packed up, had breakfast together, she companied me to the mall for some last minute shopping -- and she did not ask for money at all (she even offered to pay for my groceries). Until it was about time for me to make my way to the airport, I decided to shaft a couple of hundred yuan to her. She didn't want to take it, but I insisted. In the end she accepted it.

The conclusion of the story: I really could have gotten away without paying a dime (hows that for a double shots session). But I still insisted to compensate here, for two reasons:
1. I never like to owe anyone any favor
2. I was rewarding her for her sincerity (I think she had fallen for me, she called me couple of times after I've come home, but, oh well... sigh...)

What is the point I'm trying to make? I believe not every girl, although most of them (even 99.9%) are out to catch kai-zhi (can someone help me find this word in english?) There are some who are sincere, who would do their job in professional way.

However -- if you present yourself as a good-catch, you are stuck up, or you look like an idiot who likes to show off, don't blame the girl for wanting to pull a fast one from you; even people like us also would look forward to freeload some off you.

Just my two cents...