[MoeLanYong]

All these sound so familiar. Handphone addiction, kids, chores etc. Btw I have more than 3 kids. I have a maid too. I looked at my handphone every time our family went out. I caught myself and stopped. When she did the same, I reminded her. Of course, she was not happy. No one said maintaining a marriage is easy. She was forever fussing over household matters. Buying groceries, managing the maid, teaching the kids homework.

One thing I found. Women have no mood for intimacy when they are stressed. We man gladly want sex even though we are stressed. So I reverse engineered. I got involved to take her mind off them. I managed the maid. Told her to buy the groceries, not madm buy. There was a period of resistance from my wife. Eventually, she gave in. I buy my kids books, stationaries and clothes. Except bra for the girls. That one I dunno how. Sent them for tuition. Attended PTM for all kids. Practised spelling and 听写 with my youngest. Signed off school letters at night. It is freaking hard work. So that she can go for her zumba.

She likes korean drama. I like english action movies. She falls asleep 10 mins into my shows. So nowadays I learn to watch Lee Min Ho. Orto k. Wei. Kamsahamida.

Weekdays are bad for sex. Everyone is tired. Quite silly to want intimacy. It is going to enjoyed by one party at the expense of the other if it ever happens. So I fix a date night every friday. Get away from it all. Movies, clubbing, whatever. When back, we have sex. When bored, we do not have to be back to have sex. This way, both minds are conditioned, and ready for sex. There is no rejection.

She appreciates my effort and tries to please me. This is how we spin around each other. I haven't cured her texting to everyone on planet earth at night. C'est la vie. You can't win it all.