Sexless Marriage...

[rams]

Originally Posted by stray

Was he the same before marriage on sex ?

That, I'll have to ask his ex-gfs.. haha

[sundial]

can he be homosexual?

[rams]

Originally Posted by sundial

can he be homosexual?

Unlikely, if thats the case, he won't be surfing porns of milf!!

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by rams

Yes, I believed a couple can be happy if there is love with no sex but to me, I feel that his selfish nature just shows that he doesn't love me.. so maybe i should change the topic to loveless marriage.

I think for a guy it is simply hogwash...a man can bring himself to have sex with a woman he does not love but it is more difficult for a woman, (dun compare with FL and WL) to have sex with another man if there is no love in it...

Yes my rsm admitted to me, she cannot bring herself to have sex with me cos she feels there is a barrier between us and we don't seem to understand each other anymore...on the other hand my rsm discomfort with my efforts to sex her up serves to only alienate me further from her..cos if she cannot even feel comfortable with me in bed, how can i feel close to this woman in our every day life...

Originally Posted by gent

Any married man here experience this??

I am currently in such a situation... after my first kid, my spouse totally avoid having sex with me. She is giving 100% to the kid now. It seems to her that sex = baby! If no plan to have baby, then no need sex! Ridiculous right!!

Had been trying hard to convince her(that sex is part of marriage) and even prepared to go to visit experts on this but she refuse to go. Claiming that sex is the least priority in her life... I am very annoyed and depressed by all these comments.

Those who encounter and overcome this before, please enlighten me...

Bro,

do not worry la. I'm 1 like you also but after 2 -3 months your wife will come back to you 1 la. Must give her some time to recover mah....

[condor]

please dont encourage someone else to leave their husband. you will be consider a bitch if you do have sex with another men before divorce. Rams, if you need more sex than what your husband can give you, please do what pleases you. to be label as bitch or dignified loyal wife.

for those samster that are patient with your wife even though they dont wana to have sex with you. good on ya. im not that patient. we are still young, energetic. i dont have to live a sexless life and yet try to console myself to be happy and when i am old and looking back, leave a whole lorry of regret and ponder whether you can still bonk or not.

if your wifer care about you, why not take care of your physical needs? contrary your wife would challenge are you after her for sex if she dont like sex. so where the ending point. for ppl like us married, do what you want. am not going to encourage who to do what. do what you want to be happy. one reminder, dont leave a container full of regret when you are old. we jus live once.

[stray]

Originally Posted by rams

Unlikely, if thats the case, he won't be surfing porns of milf!!

Maybe he prefer more mature lady...."milf"

[Lioncity]

Rams says "I would die of guilt....... can a couple have lotsa sex and not love each other? "


Is a big YES for me, I have lots of sex with gal and we didn't love each other. We just enjoy sex for the fun of it but sad to say they are not easy to find.

Like yourself, you enjoy sex but you don't want to do with other guy cos u will die of guilt. So is not the sex you have a problem with, is the love you crave in a loveless marriage. Then the arguement would be why do woman with high sex drive like yourself not go get sex like the man? Because they will die of guilt!!! So they rather die then have their sexual fulfillment. Hmmm wat logic is that, maybe can turn it to become a research topic and write a thesis for a doctorate degree.

[rams]

Originally Posted by Lioncity

Then the arguement would be why do woman with high sex drive like yourself not go get sex like the man? Because they will die of guilt!!! So they rather die then have their sexual fulfillment. Hmmm wat logic is that,

You must understand that men and women are wired differently. Its abt a moral issue here we are talking about. I'm not saying that those gals you had are immoral but they may not have a family or another man at the back of their mind. Men are commonly driven physically but woman emotionally. Most women would rather divorce, come clean then continue their search for love in a loveless/sexless marriage but man can differentiate love and sex like how you separate a apple and orange. That's the difference.

[hohoho613]

Originally Posted by rams

You must understand that men and women are wired differently. Its abt a moral issue here we are talking about. I'm not saying that those gals you had are immoral but they may not have a family or another man at the back of their mind. Men are commonly driven physically but woman emotionally. Most women would rather divorce, come clean then continue their search for love in a loveless/sexless marriage but man can differentiate love and sex like how you separate a apple and orange. That's the difference.

Ya, men and women are wired differently but both emotionally driven to certain %. Guys are easily to forgive and forget. Gals, they expects the guys to forgive them for their wrong doing but they will not even give a chance to the guys for their mistakes (one way traffic) when their closed their door to them.

[blackeagle10]

Hi rams
Men are commonly driven physically but woman emotionally. Most women would rather divorce, come clean then continue their search for love in a loveless/sexless marriage .[/QUOTE]

Exactly right and that's what my other half told me when we were going through a rough patch last year. Almost send a PI in to investigate her activities.

Your values/beliefs about not having affairs outside yr marriage are commendable. Think the fact u are more successful careerwise hv put a damper on his libido. Men are basically hunters by nature and yr husband is not comfortable with reversal of roles. If he can still surf porn, he can still have an erection and he has to satisfy that need somewhere..

So better hv an open dicussion with him about yr frustrations and ask him honestly whether things are going well for him business wise. You will be surprised what is actually causing this rift in yr marriage. Sex is probably a secondary issue here. If u can tackle the primary cause, the intimacy will follow naturally. It is better to tackle it now than signing divorce papers 12 months down the road.

Once you resolve the primary issue,send yr kid away to be taken by yr relatives for a weekend. Have a weekend all by yrselves. Men like to relive their 'honeymoon' all over again.

Cheers

[Snowy23]

Before going to bed.

Husband : Dear, would you like to have a panadol ?

Wife : No. Why ?

Husband : So you don't have a headache. Let's fuck !


Can try if your wife giving you excuses for not having sex.

But for me, I am the one giving excuses.... especially if the bullets already used up

[gent]

Originally Posted by Getz

Bro,

do not worry la. I'm 1 like you also but after 2 -3 months your wife will come back to you 1 la. Must give her some time to recover mah....

If it's 2 -3 months, it's ok. But it's 2 years now, and no improvement at all.

[blackheart]

Originally Posted by rams

You must understand that men and women are wired differently. Its abt a moral issue here we are talking about. I'm not saying that those gals you had are immoral but they may not have a family or another man at the back of their mind. Men are commonly driven physically but woman emotionally. Most women would rather divorce, come clean then continue their search for love in a loveless/sexless marriage but man can differentiate love and sex like how you separate a apple and orange. That's the difference.

Based on my experiences with other married women, most of them don't seek divorce purely because of their children. As a result, they try to seek for emotional satisfaction among other men while still engaged in a loveless/sexless marriage. Unfortunately, for many such women, they find that they will inevitably need to provide physical satisfaction in exchange for that emotional need. IMHO, most married women who had affairs, didn't do it initially for the sake of sex. They had sex in the hope that the third party could fill the emotional void in them.

Blackheart

[geylangbonker]

Originally Posted by blackheart

Based on my experiences with other married women, most of them don't seek divorce purely because of their children. As a result, they try to seek for emotional satisfaction among other men while still engaged in a loveless/sexless marriage. Unfortunately, for many such women, they find that they will inevitably need to provide physical satisfaction in exchange for that emotional need. IMHO, most married women who had affairs, didn't do it initially for the sake of sex. They had sex in the hope that the third party could fill the emotional void in them.

Blackheart

yes...i agree strongly.....!i don;t understand spore women....they have a family and kids....what's so desirable about their void emotions in themselves.it's like
giving their husbands wearing a green hat.