How To Get And Keep Attractive Gals Of Your Type

[Paul Wong]

Good morning bros,

Recently this ktv gal keep jio-in me go out chiong n dancing.
She say she will jio her frens n ask me bring some guys fren out too.
Do know what she up to. I scare waste time n eat no meat.

Senior & experience bros, pls advise. Is it true sometimes there are these prc gals wking in ktv feel long n like to chiong n hv fun. And bringing them go chiong isit veri good chance to eat them after party. Or mostly just wanna make use us bring them out for fun n carrot us.

[Scorp888]

Originally Posted by Paul Wong

Good morning bros,

Recently this ktv gal keep jio-in me go out chiong n dancing.
She say she will jio her frens n ask me bring some guys fren out too.
Do know what she up to. I scare waste time n eat no meat.

Senior & experience bros, pls advise. Is it true sometimes there are these prc gals wking in ktv feel long n like to chiong n hv fun. And bringing them go chiong isit veri good chance to eat them after party. Or mostly just wanna make use us bring them out for fun n carrot us.

Bro Paul Wong,

I'm not a senior here and I'm learning alot from the other kind Big Bros here who share their knowledge skills experiences and advice with me.

But I wanna say if I were u, I would be happy to take her out to chiong for at least one night, maybe two, becoz u get to knw her more closely n have chance to "bond" with her so u get a closer look and feel about her character. Your frens also come along and share the bills - one man one gal, not so heavy burden mah. A bit of $$$ need to be invested in order to give yourself the chance to eat her, just budget accordingly, don't go to 5-star restaurants in MBS, go to places that are not costly but fun, where u and her can be relaxed.

PRC ktv gals are also quite smart they know S'pore guys have some $$$ but always want to eat them, so depends on how you play the game to remove their defences.
At least she didn't start by asking u for gifts. Ktv gals have plenty of men chase them but they play hard to get. So maybe you already have a good start.

[cuscorex92]

newbie here too...reckon she might b spreadin net,c hw many fishes gt caught up & start milkin them accordinly wif subjective approach

[warbird]

Good morning!

Man-woman RS is quite complex. I like to share a brief report written by a guru MS on:


5 WAYS TO BECOME P-WHIPPED WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING WHAT HIT YOU


There's always a lot of emphasis placed on not giving one's power
away when relating to women. Yet, the exact meaning of this
concept continually eludes a lot of guys out there.

It's easy to see why this would be the case.

On one hand, the vast majority of us don't want to be controlling
I/Js (Idiot/Jerks).

But on the other hand, we see countless instances on television
of guys in sitcoms who think they're "large and in charge", but
who in reality are nothing more than, well...p-whipped.

It's pretty much your biggest nightmare when it comes to
relationship management, isn't it?

As a man, you know you're supposed to provide leadership and a
sense of security to a woman in a relationship. But there just
aren't a lot of shining examples out there with regard to how to be
effective at it.

It used to be that men knew how to quarterback a relationship. Men
were men, and the women loved us for it.

But somewhere in the latter half of the twentieth century,
something went awry.

Perhaps this all started way back in the Stone Age of television,
when "The Honeymooners" graced the black and white screen. In
case you're curious, I'm way too young to remember that also, but
therein lies part of the problem.

You see, a major subplot of the show involved Jackie Gleason's
booming, demanding, larger-than-life persona and how he related to
his wife.

Though seeming to have a "my way or the highway" attitude, whenever
the chips were down he would crack under pressure and become an
indecisive, self-loathing ball of confusion.

It was then his wife would step in, take care of business and save
the day.

Why was the show so funny? You guessed it: The genius of Jackie
Gleason was, of course...ironic comedy.

Men didn't REALLY act like that. So when you saw it happening on
television, it made you laugh.

Years later, The Flintstones were basically modeled after the
Honeymooners. In between Ricky and Lucy had come along. And the
die was cast.

Fast forward to today, and nearly EVERY television comedy involves
a guy who is full of sound and fury, but in the end...p-whipped.

And because such scenarios have been a fixture on television for so
long, most of us no longer remember when they weren't.

The danger is that we as guys begin to see that kind of
relationship as NORMAL, rather than the comedic aberration it's
meant to be.

The cold hard truth is this: Though women will test your ability
to lead and provide security to a relationship, they really don't
want to "own" you. Not in real life.

In fact, show me a woman who "wears the pants" in a relationship,
and I'll show you a bitter, resentful woman.

Think about it. Running through the file cards of your mind, can
you think of any woman you know who has her boyfriend in her back
pocket but also respects him and adores him in the way most men
desire?

So no doubt, it's time to get in touch with exactly how we as guys
tend to fall into a dangerous state of having been "pwned" by the
chick we're with.

Granted, I don't think any of us decide from the outset that we're
going to become p-whipped. For most guys who end up in that zone,
it all happens so gradually that one day you wake up and it dawns
on you that you're already there.

Crazy, huh?

Here's a little 20/20 foresight for you. What follows are five ways
you can get p-whipped without ever even realizing what hit you:



1) Her Controlling You By Weakness


She's feeling sick or is too tired, so you cater to her (again)
because you feel sorry for her. And since you are sick of the
place looking like hell, you also do all the dishes ...and pick up
all the trash ...and clean the bathroom ...again.

I'm not saying that the opposite should be the case and that she
should do all the heavy lifting. I'm simply demonstrating how the
balance shifts from a reasonable place to "all you all the time".



2) Stepping In When She Messes Up


OK, well she has burned your dinner and/or put too much salt in the
spaghetti sauce one time too many. So you cook dinner from now on.

And she threw a red t-shirt in with your white socks again, ruining
every pair you have. So you do the laundry from now on.

And whenever she does the grocery shopping, she has this way of
buying $100 worth of stuff...and nothing to eat. Or drink, either.

If she demonstrates incompetence--or even perceived
incompetence--enough, you'll pretty much take over everything...right?



3) Dreading Her Drama Over Even The Little Things


Face it, we as guys can't stand theatrical demos and hurt feelings.

The last thing the typical guy wants to handle is having made a
woman cry.

So instead of dealing with the fallout from potential conflict, we
avoid it altogether.



4) Considering Her "Out Of Your League"


If you are not used to having high-quality options when it comes to
women, you may very feel you've hit the friggin' jackpot when a
true hottie walks into your life.

If your mindset is such that you feel you're going to have to be
"Mr. Perfect" in order to pull off keeping her around, you're toast.



5) Thinking It's Harder To Break Up And Start All Over Than To Just
Let It Ride


You may see yourself becoming a bit resentful and dissatisfied with
how things are going in the relationship. But in your mind it
sounds like too much work to end this relationship and have to find
another woman.

After all, how bad can it possibly get? Some people have nobody in
their lives, so at least you have someone.



Do you see a pattern here? The irony of how most guys get
p-whipped is that they initially see their decisions and subsequent
actions as being rooted in strength rather than weakness.

Amazingly, they really believe themselves to be leading. They
believe their acting courageously in "toughing it out" and staying
the course.

It's easy to enter into any of the situations above feeling like
you're taking the proverbial "bull by the horns" and making
something happen YOUR way and by YOUR rulebook.

But the subtle and insidious reality is that you quickly fall prey
to tolerating passivity from the woman you are with, which--in a
twist of ultimate irony--puts her in complete, utter control.

Worst of all, she probably never really wanted it that way.
Ultimately she loses respect for you, and her attraction towards
you goes away along with it.

Wear the pants, gentlemen, lest you lose your shirt.


Be Good,

MS

[S.B.Y.1]

gOOd insights bRuR warbird

[warbird]

Originally Posted by S.B.Y.1

gOOd insights bRuR warbird

Ths bro S.B.Y.1.

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Good morning!

I'm going to slow down in my practice of BY-ing. I hv a lot more than I can handle at this time, in SG n in PRC. I'll not be actively looking for any unless she is exceptional...

BTW, there r 3 very pretty n cute SYT students in PRC who r ready to come to SG. They want 35 to 50K RMB a month plus expenses. Unfortunately, they r only 17. I shall wait patiently for them until they turn 18 next yr, hahaha. I know my style of BY-ing may not sit well w/ some frens n bros cuz I'm more than 3X older. Why not? They r willing n ready...in fact, they r most perturbed when I explained to them why they couldn't come now...no pun intended.

I'm thankful to my kakis n SBF bros here who hv given their advice n support to my BY-ing activities in my formative yrs. I hv the right ecosystem...hahaha.

There is an article I like to share w/ bros here.

Knowledge Alone Won’t Change You

Dear Bro Warbird,

So last week, I spent 6 days in the Caribbean working with a group of men and some women on facing fears, stripping away noise and honing in on deepest strengths.

Everyone stood and gave a talk on their deepest wisdom, their core power.

And I want to share with you the core concept of one of the talks – given by a Silicon Valley dealmaker.

The core is this: knowledge can change you only a little. What will help you truly transform is to build an ecosystem around you that supports you.

What does that mean?

It means you surround yourself with ideas, books, programs, audios, videos, podcasts, youtube clips that nourish your ambition and feed your advancement.

You jettison junk media that clutters your mind with trivia and you hone your mental instrument.

It means you surround yourself with PEOPLE who not only support your rapid evolution but who, like you, live lives that are devoted to growth and evolution.

You jettison those who want to keep you in your place. Who want to keep you limited. Who want to crunch your potential down to fit the convenience of their perception and imagined hierarchy. As you grow, as you change, as you gain skills, your very advancement will often threaten the status quo and role of your parents, your brothers, your friends. Be on guard! A few choice words from them may send you reeling back through weeks, months or even years of hard-gained wisdom.

As I see it, there are two types of people. First – those who are committed – almost like soldiers – to expand their minds, improve their bodies, deepen their ability to know and feel their emotions, to open their hearts to feel the reality of others, to achieve greatness at every chance and to love fearlessly no matter what.

And second – the living dead. Better looking that the Walking Dead – but no less in stasis. Just existing. Without a sense of adventure, growth or change.

If you are with me, then you are devoted to ever-greater success with women, ever more internal power and confidence (grounded in truth, curiosity and vulnerability).

And despite your highest estimation of yourself – you can’t to this alone.

We are social beings. We need tribes. We thrive on ecosystems of support.

So this weekend I want you to think about your ecosystem. What are reading? What are you watching? Who are you hanging around with? Are you getting coaching? Do you attend workshops? What are you studying? Who is supporting you?

Additionally – how can I support you? What do you need to learn? To do ? To practice?

Improvement is your choice.

So is the ecosystem you choose to live in.

Leave your comments below – let me know what you need. What you want. And where you want to go.

To Your Best Life,

GA, The Guru

[chenzong]

Originally Posted by warbird

I'm going to slow down in my practice of BY-ing. I hv a lot more than I can handle at this time, in SG n in PRC. I'll not be actively looking for any unless she is exceptional...

Bro warbird, I doubt you are able to slow down, even if you have more than you can handle, and even if you are not actively looking.

How would I know? Your last phrase "unless she is exceptional". And trust me, I suspect the universe is already sending out feelers for more of these exception ones to cross your path, since you are already in that "ready" state of mind.

Take care!

[sportserj]

Due to my philips TV broke down on Fri,(just bought for 6 mths, will not buy philips products anymore) I have been surfing and reading some interesting threads.
Found this thread very informative and interesting. I envy TS job able to earn so much and not the no of syt he is BY.
Anyway thanks for sharing.
Wonder what u work as

[warbird]

Originally Posted by chenzong

Bro warbird, I doubt you are able to slow down, even if you have more than you can handle, and even if you are not actively looking.

How would I know? Your last phrase "unless she is exceptional". And trust me, I suspect the universe is already sending out feelers for more of these exception ones to cross your path, since you are already in that "ready" state of mind.

Take care!

Dear bro chenzong,

"An exceptional gal" is very, very rare, n to me at least, she must hv many desirable attributes in addition to my type of beauty n proportionate figure. She is someone 可遇而不可求, n one could only meet such a person by chance n serendipity, not by conscious n active seeking...hahaha.

Will I ever hv such a gal as my long-term lover? Yes, but I'll leave everything to predestined affinity.

BTW, I'm going to slow down in BY-ing cuz I'm reminded of a saying:


Whatever you do, do it in moderation.

Throw moderation to the winds,

and the greatest pleasures will bring the greatest pains.


Will I see u in SG soon?

Best

Originally Posted by sportserj

Due to my philips TV broke down on Fri,(just bought for 6 mths, will not buy philips products anymore) I have been surfing and reading some interesting threads.
Found this thread very informative and interesting. I envy TS job able to earn so much and not the no of syt he is BY.
Anyway thanks for sharing.
Wonder what u work as

Hi bro sportserj,

Phillips electronic products, like Jaguar motocars, r notoriously unreliable...an Ang Moh fren in America had his brand new Jaguar towed 5 times in 12 months, once he had to call AAA to tow his car which was parked outside a zoo!

I used to hv a self-employed career in Gotham City but dun hv a job now. Zero earned income. I subsist entirely on passive income from various sources. I hv been lucky in that I hv made a little extra money on equities investing n position trading, just enuff to BY all these chio SYTs, haha.

Cheers!

[chenzong]

Originally Posted by warbird

Will I see u in SG soon?

I'd in SG this week and next week. I'm still seeking out possible openings in China, and if I really cannot get, I'd return to SG. SG really difficult to find suitable jobs for me at a pay I can accept.

[warbird]

Originally Posted by chenzong

I'd in SG this week and next week. I'm still seeking out possible openings in China, and if I really cannot get, I'd return to SG. SG really difficult to find suitable jobs for me at a pay I can accept.

Hi bro chenzong,

I'm going to miss u again. I'll return to SG in abt 2 wks.

You should develop multiple streams of income n not rely solely on ur pay checks...

Best,

Bro WB

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Good morning,

Lately, I hv started a new strategy in BY-ing. If a gal n her sister or best fren r both my type, I boldly make clear that I want to BY them, together under one roof.

The results r better than I expected. In the last 3 1/2 months, 3 offers n 3 yes's!

I made the 4th offer today. She is a tall (169) n chio 24 yo Havelock Rd gal YX who accepted my BY last yr but I never upped her cuz of bad timing. She is now in PRC. The other day, I saw a pic of her younger sister NX who is very beautiful!! She is 22, though shorter at 165.

I told YX playfully via weixin that I want both of them to come to SG to be my mistresses, haha. She was very surprised: 真的吗？I said yes. She will try to convince her sister, hahaha. Everything would depend on their visa app...

Cheers!

Bro WB

[chenzong]

Originally Posted by warbird

Hi bro chenzong,

I'm going to miss u again. I'll return to SG in abt 2 wks.

You should develop multiple streams of income n not rely solely on ur pay checks...

You are right indeed. How do I successfully go about it, that's another bag of monkeys entirely.

[warbird]

Originally Posted by chenzong

You are right indeed. How do I successfully go about it, that's another bag of monkeys entirely.

Dear bro,

Changes r inevitable in life.

Be bold. This could be your golden opportunity...

"穷则变，变则通，通则久."

Good luck!

Bro WB

[sportserj]

Hi bro sportserj,

Phillips electronic products, like Jaguar motocars, r notoriously unreliable...an Ang Moh fren in America had his brand new Jaguar towed 5 times in 12 months, once he had to call AAA to tow his car which was parked outside a zoo!

I used to hv a self-employed career in Gotham City but dun hv a job now. Zero earned income. I subsist entirely on passive income from various sources. I hv been lucky in that I hv made a little extra money on equities investing n position trading, just enuff to BY all these chio SYTs, haha.

Cheers![/QUOTE]
Yes, luck plays a part. ;-)

[warbird]

Originally Posted by sportserj

Yes, luck plays a part. ;-)

Hi bro,

Luck, chance n randomness actually play a pivotal role in life...

However, there is also some truth in the maxim that luck favors the prepared mind.

May luck be w/ u always,

Bro WB

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Good morning!

I hv mentioned my new MO in boldly offering to BY 2 gals together, if they both happen to be my type n if they r either sisters or best frens.

Being bold, overtly sexual n radically different must be attractive as YX has suddenly warmed up to me. She has been sending her sexy photos, hahaha.

She is not from Fujian.

I can't deny that my liking for FJ gals could be a Rashomon Effect.

IMHO, in SG, the best quality SYTs in terms of looks n figure r Fujian gals who worked at KTVS, 3-4 yrs ago. Unfortunately, they were poorly educated n most of these gals don't even come anymore...I hv found only 2 who meet my lowered criteria in the last 2 yrs.

Cheers!

Bro WB