FB? FwB? NSA? Sex Partner?

[Reoxy]

Originally Posted by smartke

FB (Fuck Buddy) - a partner tat meet up occasionally jus for the purpose of SEX. no commitment & there shld NOT b any emotional involved in tis case.

FwB (Fren w/ Benefit) - abit similar to the "FB" definition above, in which, 2 frens involved in sexual r/ship w/o commitment. but wif 1 slight diff... it's a r/ship in between frenship & boy-ger r/ship & MAY end up in a serious r/ship.

NSA (No String Attached) - quite similar to FB, a r/ship tat is non exclusive, w/o conditions, obligation & expectation in watever form.

Sex Partner - 2 opposite attraction havin casual sex. in general, all of the above...

any bros/sis care to share ur definition & views esp on FB & FwB? many thks...

To me everything above has the same meaning: Fucking with Someone Other than Wife/ GF without having to pay cash for the Fuck

Originally Posted by zacarie

Haha. nice. so mine should be..

Zac Female Looking for HELL OF A GOOD Sex..
Height 166cm
Weight 60kg
Vital Stats 36-30-37
Requirements None

wahahaha. just kidding....

..

I meet all your requirements.

So...要去吗？

[smartke]

Originally Posted by Reoxy

To me everything above has the same meaning: Fucking with Someone Other than Wife/ GF without having to pay cash for the Fuck

yup... those terms shared 1 common thing: SEX. while some may jus njoy the sex freely, some may buy things for his/her partner.

the thing here is... y ppl wan to hv FB or FwB & etc? i can understand frm guys point of view of cos. but, wat abt gers? wats their stand in such 'r/ship'?

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by Reoxy

I meet all your requirements.

So...要去吗？

Haha. even a dildo meets it. and can be customised with options tt comes along w it...

Originally Posted by smartke

on the oth hand, i felt tat all of the terms above also hv slight diff definition/meanin by each individual.

thks for sharin...

Yea. everyone has a different defination of these terms.
Most welcome!

[Reoxy]

[QUOTE=zacarie;6657917]Haha. even a dildo meets it. and can be customised with options tt comes along w it...

[QUOTE]

You have not answered my question: So..要去吗？

[smartke]

Originally Posted by zacarie

Yea. everyone has a different defination of these terms.
Most welcome!

oh ya... if dun mind, can share ur view on FB or FwB, whichever tat u hv experience wif?

jus tryin to understand frm a lady perspective on such 'r/ship'. then probably, I 'may' (probably) understand a lady better...

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by smartke

oh ya... if dun mind, can share ur view on FB or FwB, whichever tat u hv experience wif?

jus tryin to understand frm a lady perspective on such 'r/ship'. then probably, I 'may' (probably) understand a lady better...

Hahah. i suppose u have seen my other posts in another thread regarding my so called FB who wouldnt let go..

It started off as an agreement of NSA FB. but soon became FwB and then it lead to being lovers. Emotions came into the picture. He was a married man and also my first FB.. after leaving my husband.

I personally feel it is not easy to have a long term FB. unless u are someone who knows u wont fall for tt other person. n being able to meet up just to satisfy ur sexual needs.

Cause i'm sure there will be a time where it will end. and i think some will be upset, angry, sore tt they got dumped or whatever. esp if it's because the other person found someone better.

So whatever terms u give to the relationship u have. be clear w what u want. dont let all the different feelings and emotions get to it. So i guess a person really have to be someone who can be on firm gound to really be able to handle a FwB relation. FB some ppl can. have heard of stories. but i dont think i can cause i still want to be friends w the person i'm having sex w. have a converstion n things like tt.

Hope this ans u...

Originally Posted by Reoxy

You have not answered my question: So..要去吗？

Go loh. u write out the pointers for customising a dick. i dont want default type. Write out already then we go choose. u be the advisor. since u have so much experience w one and more (note AND not or).. So how? 要跟我去吗？

[smartke]

Originally Posted by zacarie

So whatever terms u give to the relationship u have. be clear w what u want. dont let all the different feelings and emotions get to it. So i guess a person really have to be someone who can be on firm gound to really be able to handle a FwB relation. FB some ppl can. have heard of stories. but i dont think i can cause i still want to be friends w the person i'm having sex w. have a converstion n things like tt.

Hope this ans u...

sis, thks alot for sharin ur exp. at least now i get to learnt somethin. greatly appreciated!

seems like the situation quite close to my definition of those terms.

Originally Posted by zacarie

Go loh. u write out the pointers for customising a dick. i dont want default type. Write out already then we go choose. u be the advisor. since u have so much experience w one and more (note AND not or).. So how? 要跟我去吗？

muahahahaha... sis, u r cheeky & bein notti...

[cherrignon]

Regardless a NSA, FB, FwB or Sex partner, common understanding and view of the parties involved must be aligned.

breaking up should not be a prob for those who have the right understanding. for those who don't: might end up as a psychotic stalking, family wrecking or even suicidal case.

and it does happen (from experience).

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by smartke

sis, thks alot for sharin ur exp. at least now i get to learnt somethin. greatly appreciated!

seems like the situation quite close to my definition of those terms.

Hey not a prob. anytime will share more when the situation calls for it..

I'm no love guru n nvr thought i was. wonder y ppl say tt. Mine is all based on my experience. which i think was a horrible one cause it made me see the true colour of the person. I'm here to share. i named no names and at no point gave a hint of who this guy is. so i see no wrong in sharing my opinions and experience.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by zacarie

Hey not a prob. anytime will share more when the situation calls for it..

I'm no love guru n nvr thought i was. wonder y ppl say tt. Mine is all based on my experience. which i think was a horrible one cause it made me see the true colour of the person. I'm here to share. i named no names and at no point gave a hint of who this guy is. so i see no wrong in sharing my opinions and experience.

no worries, sis. it's the spirit of sharin (ur exp) tat we all need & it's def not wrong. all we need is the 'wat' (& probably a 'why'), we dun require oth dtls such as 'who', 'when' & 'where'.

in fact, really thk u for sharin the last pt in ur prev post (which i replied). u hv basically sum up ur exp & tats really a gd one! will share a story later, when time permits.

p/s: u will hv my 7 'lovely kisses' for sharin. jus gimme little time to clear my 'stuffs'.

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by smartke

will share a story later, when time permits.

p/s: u will hv my 7 'lovely kisses' for sharin. jus gimme little time to clear my 'stuffs'.

Will wait for ur story
And thanks for the 'lovely kisses'..

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by smartke

for the 1st 3 terms, any diff in the frequency of physical contact, aka SEX?

Personally, I dun relate the differences in terms of frequency or intensity.
It's more the differences in terms of venues or care & concern.

FB - this is purely for sexual gratification.
Therefore, the venues are limited to hotel rooms, her place, my place, her office, my office, parks, beaches, etc ... meetings are always limited to the 2 of us & wil happen as long as 1 party has the urge.

FwB - this is mostly friendship (ie, it comes with care & concern), with some sexual gratification ocassionally thrown in.
Therefore, the venues will be expanded to restaurants, cinemas, group gatherings, etc ... even when 1 party has the urge, the other can say "sorry, I'm not in the mood".

NSA - this is almost the same as FwB, except you just want a very superficial friendship.
Therefore, the venues plus "the right to say no" are identical to that of FwB.

These definitions are of utmost importance for extraordinarily active married men ...

[smartke]

Originally Posted by KingEros;665$$$$

Personally, I dun relate the differences in terms of frequency or intensity.
It's more the differences in terms of venues or care & concern.

FB - this is purely for sexual gratification.
Therefore, the venues are limited to hotel rooms, her place, my place, her office, my office, parks, beaches, etc ... meetings are always limited to the 2 of us & wil happen as long as 1 party has the urge.

FwB - this is mostly friendship (ie, it comes with care & concern), with some sexual gratification ocassionally thrown in.
Therefore, the venues will be expanded to restaurants, cinemas, group gatherings, etc ... even when 1 party has the urge, the other can say "sorry, I'm not in the mood".

NSA - this is almost the same as FwB, except you just want a very superficial friendship.
Therefore, the venues plus "the right to say no" are identical to that of FwB.

These definitions are of utmost importance for extraordinarily active married men ...

bro, thks alot for sharin ur extensive knowledge! wise word indeed...

well, probably it's quite norm for guys to hv FB. wat i dun quite understand is gers to hv FB. dun get me wrong, it doesnt mean tat they cant hv. instead, wat the gers wanted to achieve at the end of the day?

in fact, most gers tt i heard/known, r those tt hv no prob gettin themselves a bf. yet, they din. so it makes me wonder & makes me more curious abt their thots & views in such 'fb'/'fwb'/'nsa' r/ship.

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by KingEros;665$$$$

These definitions are of utmost importance for extraordinarily active married men ...

These terms are indeed important for not only married man but anyone getting into it. mind asking what u guys do when ur girl want to call it quits.. do u just let it go?

Have a qns. a lil off topic. say if ur gal after ending it. shared her experience like i did. Does it bother u? And if it does. what would u do?

Originally Posted by smartke

well, probably it's quite norm for guys to hv FB. wat i dun quite understand is gers to hv FB. dun get me wrong, it doesnt mean tat they cant hv. instead, wat the gers wanted to achieve at the end of the day?

in fact, most gers tt i heard/known, r those tt hv no prob gettin themselves a bf. yet, they din. so it makes me wonder & makes me more curious abt their thots & views in such 'fb'/'fwb'/'nsa' r/ship.

Times have changed and we girls know more abt our sexual needs. n tt it is no longer to just fulfil the guys desires. We want someone to loves us n care for us. and we too want someone to fulfil our needs which the bf/hb may not be able to.
i guess sometimes we just dont want to get tied down. Thus the NSA FB.

Like myself. i got out of my marriage. but i still do have my needs. sexually. N so came my ex fb. who fulfilled it. but as time goes it became a realtionship where i feel very suffocated. with all his qns when i wanted to make new friends. frm sbf. so it's almost like being tied down once again. which is not what i want.

i want a friend who can fulfil me sexually but at the same time give me respect. and being able to be there as a friend too when i need one. Not always thinking about sex. And we can have a decent meetup with no thoughts of sex which would be really nice. But if the friend took all lil movements frm me as a hint tt i am asking for sex. then i guess all he could think abt was sex.

So it's really not easy to find someone who can do tt.. And when a person do find one. they will be cherished deeply cause it is not easy to find one. esp after having a bad experience i think one wil be more wary of who they are are going with..

[smartke]

Originally Posted by zacarie

Will wait for ur story

Originally Posted by zacarie

These terms are indeed important for not only married man but anyone getting into it. mind asking what u guys do when ur girl want to call it quits.. do u just let it go?

Have a qns. a lil off topic. say if ur gal after ending it. shared her experience like i did. Does it bother u? And if it does. what would u do?

no, it's not off topic. tats the main purpose of tis thread.


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ok, allow me to share 'his-tory', since managed to squeeze out some time...

let me start off wif the old fashion way...

once upon a time.. there's tis guy, let's call him K. single, & a party animal tat party every (or almost every) nite cos he likes to hv fun (who doesnt? lol...), & therefore, knows lotsa 'party' frens.

1 day, 1 of his 'party' fren intro a gal, J. they hit off very well & soon, J asks K for drinks for the 1st time. tat nite, J got drunk. so, K sen her home. as she stays alone, K stayed bk to take care of her, w/o oth intention.

but, things happened the nex mornin when she woke up... long story short... K got to know tat J got a very unstable r/ship.

anyway, frm tat mornin onwards, J will always call K to meet up for SEX, & always tell K how impotent her bf is & how horny she is. she even pick up K frm his drinkin plc so tat she can hv wat she wanted!

as time goes by, K started to fall for J, probably due to the great sex they always hv. at 1st, things work out fine for both of them. but later, when J attitude started to chg, K was hurt. but when K started to give up, J asked to b 2gether again. tis process has been thru 2-3 times as K always give in. one fine day, K totally given up cos he is quite tired of the whole thing & everythin ended.

moral of the story? well, 1st of, K is not suitable for 'such' r/ship, or rather, he was not prepared for 'such' r/ship at tat moment. till date, he is still quite skeptical abt havin fb and/or fwb, cos he was hurt very badly. on the oth hand, J is frickle minded. her indecisive has made K suffered alot.

thk u for readin.

pls do pardon tis lengthy (lo sou...) post frm poor ugly overweight ah pek...