If marriage is for companionship, why do married people still feel lonely?

[BroRock_]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

Explore outdoor sex and EIP when you are bored of bedroom activities. Sex serves to bond a marriage, not bond you with another women.

You probably got one or more of the above wrong. Which is why you are lonely. Bec you made some poor choices somewhere.

Be careful when you are having sex outdoors . There will be many eyes watching .

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by MoeLanYong

When you play your part well, I don't see any reason why she won't play her part. A common problem is men expect their wives to play their play first before they will. This is not how it went when you wooed her hand in marriage, isn't it?

With all due respect, you sir have used your "powerful logic" as I have listed above. And as I have said, the women kind do not respond to powerful logics. They respond to love.

you are wrong, i never used the so called powerful logic cos i never believe that winning the battle means the winning the war. But my experience is, women now a days expects much more. I don;t expect my wife to make any first move...i play my part try to compromise, give in play the fool just to let her prove her "powerful logic"..

[hil169]

Bro MoeLanYong is apparently quite well off. I could imagine having financial stability plays a major part in having a fulfilling marriage?

[sadfa]

Originally Posted by hil169

Not making sense. Why? Is it because the duration of marriage? Too bored? 7 year itch? Not contented?

It makes sense .
If it doesn't, the problem is with u.

Ppl change, circumstances change, times change. The 20 yr old ger u married, can change in character ten years later. You can change too. Priorities change. The wife more concerned with children n making money but u still like baby. Think of sex sex sex

Your question is lousy. U don't think.
Like those cb spore women who say married men is fucked up for fucking pros. Do u also ask why married men must fuck other women besides their wives like cb garbagement .They don't think . So pls think la

Even the replies here poor without me
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Exchange points make sense ma

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

you are wrong, i never used the so called powerful logic cos i never believe that winning the battle means the winning the war. But my experience is, women now a days expects much more. I don;t expect my wife to make any first move...i play my part try to compromise, give in play the fool just to let her prove her "powerful logic"..

You have chosen wisely. My apologies for reading too much into it

[peekaboo]

Personal experience with educated women. Education did not make a women wiser but greedy. The meaning of companionship has been blurred by piroity in life. If life becomes a burden, then companionship will die by itself.

[MoeLanYong]

Originally Posted by hil169

Bro MoeLanYong is apparently quite well off. I could imagine having financial stability plays a major part in having a fulfilling marriage?

I wouldn't say I am well off. I started out poor with my wife too. We did quarrel over money when we were younger. Not often though. This is how I learnt that quarrels over money is simply not worth it. So I am battle scarred, not ignorant.

Does financial stability play a major role in a fulfilling marriage? It depends on how you view things. What is financial stability? How much is enough? There are couples who are rich, and yet drift apart precisely bec he can afford mistresses. There are couples who are poor and are happy together.

I don't remember college kids needing a lot of money to fall in love. Somewhere along the way, people let complexities in life rob them of their happiness. You have to ask yourself what you prioritize in life. Your marriage or money. It is wickedly ironic that in our chase to provide a better life for her, we give up that better life.

[DragonInn81]

Originally Posted by peekaboo

Personal experience with educated women. Education did not make a women wiser but greedy. The meaning of companionship has been blurred by piroity in life. If life becomes a burden, then companionship will die by itself.

Agree with you on this

[hil169]

Who are the married people feeling lonely here? Share why please.

[edwintantan]

U see why I log in so late .. my wife which is full Tai Tai .. is sleepy away next to me ..We have 3 kids she don't have to border much .. maid is there to look after them and do housework .. she goes out as often as I go for my meetings .. when we talk a bit more sure end up quarrel.. maybe life becoming too plain like tap water ..

[frankincense]

Originally Posted by hil169

Who are the married people feeling lonely here? Share why please.

Not exactly lonely but sometimes, I feel I've been neglected.

Housework, kids with their hw and revision take up most of our time. Hb sleeps at 10 and no pillow talk. Casual talk yes but that's about it. I really prefer our lives before the gadget's invasion. More quality time spent together back then.

You know the saying, so near yet so far? Hb's right next to me and yet, it's as good as he's not.

Marriage is hardwork and it takes 2 hands to clap.

[frankincense]

Originally Posted by edwintantan

U see why I log in so late .. my wife which is full Tai Tai .. is sleepy away next to me ..We have 3 kids she don't have to border much .. maid is there to look after them and do housework .. she goes out as often as I go for my meetings .. when we talk a bit more sure end up quarrel.. maybe life becoming too plain like tap water ..

That happened to me last night.

Hb asked me what was wrong, told him I felt neglected and whoaaaa, before I can finish my sentence, he'd defend defend defend and pointed the fingers back at me. Win already.

We've got 3 children too and no maid.

He said I could talk to him when he's doing the dishes. Hilarious. He wanted me to talk his back while he faces the wall? With his tablet (news channel on) right next to him, casual talk is fine but that wasn't the kind of talk that I wanted. I want to be asked how are things, how am I and all with 100% attention on me. Not when he's doing something else but he doesn't get it.

So yeah, after defending himself aggressively, I also sian. Why can't he just hear me out if he really wants to find out what was wrong?

I really think I should just go back to work.

[edwintantan]

Yes .. that what happen to me every night .. my wife will laugh to her phone and reply tons not lots of texts.. then charge her phone and goes to sleep .. she only need her phone charger and bed.. can't really talk to her .. she treasure her phone so much so that when phone battery drop to 50% she need phone to be charged .. boring .. she have married to her HP

[frankincense]

Originally Posted by edwintantan

Yes .. that what happen to me every night .. my wife will laugh to her phone and reply tons not lots of texts.. then charge her phone and goes to sleep .. she only need her phone charger and bed.. can't really talk to her .. she treasure her phone so much so that when phone battery drop to 50% she need phone to be charged .. boring .. she have married to her HP

I ever rejected hb when he asked me out to eat. Why? Because all he needs is the phone. I really don't have to go.

But after that, things improved. He'll make effort not to touch the phone when we're out.

Perhaps you can use a gentle tone to talk to her? If you're gentle and nice, definitely won't quarrel one unless she's unreasonable.

[MoeLanYong]

All these sound so familiar. Handphone addiction, kids, chores etc. Btw I have more than 3 kids. I have a maid too. I looked at my handphone every time our family went out. I caught myself and stopped. When she did the same, I reminded her. Of course, she was not happy. No one said maintaining a marriage is easy. She was forever fussing over household matters. Buying groceries, managing the maid, teaching the kids homework.

One thing I found. Women have no mood for intimacy when they are stressed. We man gladly want sex even though we are stressed. So I reverse engineered. I got involved to take her mind off them. I managed the maid. Told her to buy the groceries, not madm buy. There was a period of resistance from my wife. Eventually, she gave in. I buy my kids books, stationaries and clothes. Except bra for the girls. That one I dunno how. Sent them for tuition. Attended PTM for all kids. Practised spelling and 听写 with my youngest. Signed off school letters at night. It is freaking hard work. So that she can go for her zumba.

She likes korean drama. I like english action movies. She falls asleep 10 mins into my shows. So nowadays I learn to watch Lee Min Ho. Orto k. Wei. Kamsahamida.

Weekdays are bad for sex. Everyone is tired. Quite silly to want intimacy. It is going to enjoyed by one party at the expense of the other if it ever happens. So I fix a date night every friday. Get away from it all. Movies, clubbing, whatever. When back, we have sex. When bored, we do not have to be back to have sex. This way, both minds are conditioned, and ready for sex. There is no rejection.

She appreciates my effort and tries to please me. This is how we spin around each other. I haven't cured her texting to everyone on planet earth at night. C'est la vie. You can't win it all.