Is there true love between us and PRC WL

[thunter]

hey bro, just want to wish you all the best!
i just started cheonging and always feel some emotional attachement to the WLs. wonder if i can handle it if something like that ever happens to me.

[azzaro23]

dear thunter bro, play safe & be firm think me gone case already, think i will kenna until very very jialat then i learn my lesson.

[azzaro23]

guys any good methods to control the raging emotions i had for her now?

The more I think she going out to her work letting other men touch her I get very agitated. Also I very scared that if she get caught i cant get to see her again.

I have no right to stop her as her purpose to come here is to work & earn $$$ but yet I cant afford to give her the money to ask her to stop working till the time she go back to china.

Dont know like that I can last until end of june when I go back with her to china.

Now as long I alone I keep thinking & thinking, even got a very stuip idea of taking up a loan so to give her the $$$ to stop work. I know if i do that I am a goner. Plus I be the laughing stock of all ppl I knw & in sammyboy forum.

Need advice really bad on how to control all this running out of control emotions...

[azzaro23]

Update on the situation I am with her now.

Now she pestering me to buy her a gold chain quoting that gold prices are cheaper in singapore than China. Wonder if there any true to that? Maybe it is a plot to chop carrot head?

She say that another reason to buy her it becos when she go back to china with me she can proudly show off the chain that is her BF which is me buy give her one. She quoted so can show off in front of her friends so she got face.

Really want to buy give her but me on a tight budget but sacred she might take it a wrong reason what i don't love her she want me to get her by this week damm headache.

any bros have any ideas to settle this matter than will benfits both partys? Too clouded in my mind to think.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

thanks gniwgonwk bro for your adivce, actually I am the one who suggested i go back with her on this trip to visit her & I am touched to say she didnt say no and she suggested that I stay over at her apartment to save $$$. (Maybe it is a plot to squeeze $$$ out of me?)

Anyway she will be planning to bring me to see her family and do some sightseeing. Maybe it is my 1st time over there & i am going alone with her so kinda of like exciting & worried. just really hope it turns out all well. Just hope I don't into another statics for the growing number of con sillyspore men.

6 weeks more to go, must learn to control my emotions if not think i end up at woodbridge...

Hmm... u juz know her for 3 weeks so dun rush into things

As I said, if fate decides that you should be together, you will be..

Go in with your eyes open and expectations clear... meeting the family may or may not mean anything.

Juz do things within your means and dun overstretch yourself (both financially and emotionally)

[newbadass]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Bros what advice can you give me this love smitten fool?

1. Get a hobby that doesn't involve girls.
2. Go on a sex-intensive holiday, bonk till you drop.

[azzaro23]

hi aczeta76

Thanks for the encouragement knowing that from a bro who has gone through similar issues.

Now my major issue is how to survive each day without thinking of her until like i want to die. This kind of feelings is affecting my life in a negative way. Everything also no mood to do, everyday in a daze.

Really hope someone could give me advice on what to do....

Also recently she is pestering me to buy her jewellery to let her show her to her family that I am a caring BF and to prove my feelings to her. Still thinking if i should do that.

I really don't want this relationship to turn in a honeytrap...

[warbird]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

...But really sacred what happen things doesnt come true over there & 2nd thing this is my 1st time traveling alone to China & I am also worry about my personnel safety over there.

Bros any advice for me? kinda of desperate for a solution.

Bro azzaro,

Does she live in a major city? For foreign visitors, major cities are much safer than small towns or villages. Beware of pickpockets because they are ubiquitous. Always eat fully cooked foods & drink bottled water n beverages.

Here is a useful link on recommendations on health n personal safety when traveling to China (for Americans but most of them also applicable to Singaporeans): China Adviser - Health and Safety _immunizations

Hope that u stay safe n find true love in China.

[azzaro23]

yup she is living in the city but there will be 2 days i be going to the country side to visit her family...

[Mr.romantic]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Juz sent her off at the airport.. she shld be hm before mid-day

Feeling a little lost now but then I will be meeting her in ZH on 16 May.. yippee..

bro aczeta76,

not to pour cold water on your relationship with a PRC FL or ex-FL. but have you been to China before? do you know what kind of culture and scene they have over there? it is unbelievable how big and complicated the P4P scene is in China. Geylang PRC FLs are only the tip of the ice berg.

a lot of PRC FLs in Macau and Hong Kong use Zhuhai as a transit base. PRC FLs who travelled overseas to FL are not newbies! the real sua ku newbie chicks are all in the kampungs! those FLs i encountered in Macau are super street smart. really 佩服 them man. i am sure many bros here can attest to this.

[azzaro23]

It is another Monday of another week.

Don't know how going to survive another day in officer thinking about her the whole day. think of her my heart miss her until aches...

Must really find a way to control my emotions if not i wouldn't last till end of June to go on my trip with her.

Seeing her tonite again for dinner only after that heart wrenching part of leaving her to go home.

Sigh....

Any bros with advice can give me to control my raging feelings?

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by Mr.romantic

bro aczeta76,

not to pour cold water on your relationship with a PRC FL or ex-FL. but have you been to China before? do you know what kind of culture and scene they have over there? it is unbelievable how big and complicated the P4P scene is in China. Geylang PRC FLs are only the tip of the ice berg.

a lot of PRC FLs in Macau and Hong Kong use Zhuhai as a transit base. PRC FLs who travelled overseas to FL are not newbies! the real sua ku newbie chicks are all in the kampungs! those FLs i encountered in Macau are super street smart. really 佩服 them man. i am sure many bros here can attest to this.

No worries.. cold water always helps to keep our heads clear.

Anyway, I know she has been in similar lines since 17 y/o but juz not Zhan Jie.

Also, she is definelty street smart and knows her way around things better than me in PRC but it is okay. I have feelings for her and if she is taking me for a ride, so be it.

Willing party here so no regrets... I juz count my blessings and take them until we decide to call it off.

Meeting her in China is our way of deciding if we should go on... On the learning part, all cultures are different lah so I guess we will all learn along the way and become smarter

Cheerios

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

hi aczeta76

Thanks for the encouragement knowing that from a bro who has gone through similar issues.

Now my major issue is how to survive each day without thinking of her until like i want to die. This kind of feelings is affecting my life in a negative way. Everything also no mood to do, everyday in a daze.

Really hope someone could give me advice on what to do....

Also recently she is pestering me to buy her jewellery to let her show her to her family that I am a caring BF and to prove my feelings to her. Still thinking if i should do that.

I really don't want this relationship to turn in a honeytrap...

Dun go into it thinking about a honeytrap..

My MM has gone back for 2 weeks now and though we have phone chats, the feeling between us in now different since we dun see each other so often and I am not stressed by the fact that she is in GL and feeling sad.

So now, I continue to work hard (normally) and life is back to normal... remember, u control how you go about life, not her so unless you wanna lose your job and any chance of a good future (with or without her) .. best buck up and draw a clear line between work and love

Gold jewellery... hmmm.... dun buy unless u got cash to burn. The caring BF thing is BS... u dun need to give $$ / Gold to show your feelings so dun be conned...

I dun care much about meeting family but in my MM case, she already mentioned that she will not let me meet her mum till she is serious with me so that is why I am looking forward to it.

[gniwgonwk]

Bro Aczeta76,

Condolences and also all the best for your trip to Zhuhai in the next few days.

Do be careful as Zhuhai is a bit of a cowboy town and anything goes - so be careful on the road for pickpockets and con-men. Just ignore anything that is none of your business and don't try to be a ice guy - and you should be alright.

I'll be in another town about 2+ hours from Zhuhai later this week, and if you r interested u can PM me for my contact just in case of emergency!

Nice of you to be able to accept your GF for what she is and not judge her for the circumstances she is in. But do be prepared for the worst and tough times ahead as this sort of long distance relationship can be VERy tough!!!

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

No worries.. cold water always helps to keep our heads clear.

Willing party here so no regrets... I juz count my blessings and take them until we decide to call it off.

Meeting her in China is our way of deciding if we should go on... On the learning part, all cultures are different lah so I guess we will all learn along the way and become smarter

Cheerios

Bro you have express to what I am trying to say out all this time.

This trip I am going with her is not to bonk her silly for 1 whole week, if so I can always take one week off everyday go geylang bonk her day to night.

My idea of going back with her is to see if we have a future together, if things doesn't go as plan which i don't wish it to happen I just treat it as a bad but happy experience for the time spent, $$$ go down the longkang, quietly come back to singapore licking my wounds clean & try to move on with life...