Hurting someone who is deeply in love with you - Page 3

canary · #31 09-04-2005, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by KGB_LK

You owe money u can pay back, but love, you just live with the guilt for all the wrong things you have done and not reciprocated. Its just something which you cant make up for and thats where it truly hurts

Exactly. haiz....

orbit_beer · #32 09-04-2005, 07:25 PM

Just my humble opinion:
The woman u might marry,may not neccessarily be the woman u loved most in your life....But why do u still marry her?Deep down in your heart,u and i knows the most,who's the forsaken one,yet u might chose another.Maybe that's what we call FATE.

vesfreq · #33 09-04-2005, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by MachoDevilX

So, all bros who are thinking of playing around with girls' feelings, please spare a thought for them. If you don't love them, please don't make them feel that you love them. In the end, if you still have feelings as a human being, you will be the one who feels the pain...

Sad to say that, this is a self-perpetuating cycle. Guys cheat girls and girls turn around to cheat guys.

It is somewhat easy to know girls who have been cheated at some point in their lives by some jerk or lamer. However, there is nothing that can be done. Even if their grief, hurt and/or sorrow is/are eased and/or healed, the scar will and always be there to remind them of their painful past.

For men of integrity, honour and good principles, knowing these girls (however virtuous they are) is no longer an easy task. For a girl to have been hurt before, the only tendency is to develop greater closure and callousness of emotions, thereby raising the immunity to other more deserving men who may so happen to be more sincere about developing or cultivating more mutually beneficial relationships.

Thats probably why a foreseeable increase in number of older spinsters and they are, likely, to develop a cynical outlook towards relationships. This is, by and large, inevitable.

If not for the natural tendency of humans to greed and/or lust, why would there be a sudden rise in pre-marital abortion and the increasing disrespect towards marriage (as a vow to take care of each other till death do them apart) through divorces and extra marital affairs?

Somehow, the way some girls are mistreated is due to the way society is developing. With greater wealth, there is an even greater temptation to "err". Expectations of higher quality companions will make it even harder for relationships to last longer, in the near future (, if not today itself). Ever increasing crave for materiality will, to some extent, ensure the decline of sincere truthful relationships.

Perhaps, only in our grandparents' photo will we witness what we have often known today as true love. I was completely moved when my friend recited this line on her grandparents' photo "it was not death that I feared, but the thought of not seeing you again..." Human emotions have never been put through a greater test, than ... probably death, itself. I may be wrong, however.

Lovely romantic lines, like the above which I quoted, are cliche, which are so easily forgotten when things turn awry, as usual.

PS: Note that I'm not saying that I'm flawless and free of such sins.

Just thought of writing some of my opinions.

oxilary · #34 09-04-2005, 08:33 PM

life is full of regrets.. the only thing we can do abt it is to try to have lesser of 'em.

#35 09-04-2005, 09:51 PM

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Originally Posted by oxilary

life is full of regrets.. the only thing we can do abt it is to try to have lesser of 'em.

yea.. and i regretted loving her so much, putting in 101% of my feelings.. and wad i end up? i end up getting hurt so deep dat my heart still hurts when i tink of her.. wads the pt of loving some1 so much, when she end up leaving u.. wads wif all those promises to be wif u forever, go thru thick and thin wif u for eternality, love u until her last breath.. all BULLSHIT! yea i truly regret loving her and being in a relationship wif her, coz i end up wif nothing but sorrows and tears

oxilary · #36 09-04-2005, 11:56 PM

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Originally Posted by gam3r

wads wif all those promises to be wif u forever, go thru thick and thin wif u for eternality, love u until her last breath.. all BULLSHIT!

yeah.. those promises of love.. love me pls. i rather u lie to me 4ever than to tell me u don't. haha. i've learnt never to make or believe such promises.

We can love someone.. but nv put a 100% needless to say a 101% into a relationship

Deztruct · #37 10-04-2005, 12:27 AM

I left someone who love me alot despite all my flaws for someone whom i tot was the most suitable for me...in the end i was dumped for another jerk

as much as i tried...i cld neva forget the guilt..no matter wat i do now..the 1st ger doesnt wan to stay in contact with me..during lonely nites, sometimes i cry..thinkin abt how i hurt her so much to be with a ger who doesnt even bother whether I am alive anot..if i can ever go back in time, i wld choose to be with her no matter wat...i wld learn how to be a beta man for her even if she is not the one tat i love most for i realise now tat the times i spent with her were the happiest times of my life..no matter how hard i failed then..i noe tat she will always be behind me supportin me all the way

In the end, i failed her..i guess i wld forever hv this guilt in my mind for she neva chose to hate her but juz leave away quietly

Deztruct · #38 10-04-2005, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by gam3r

all BULLSHIT! yea i truly regret loving her and being in a relationship wif her, coz i end up wif nothing but sorrows and tears

i understand how is it...few mths before we broke off..she told me tat i am the one she loved most and i neva will understand how much she love me..in the end she left me for another guy

she is rite on 1 count tho...i never understand how much she love me for she neva love me at all...she juz like the way i teng her so much

oxilary · #39 10-04-2005, 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Deztruct

the 1st ger doesnt wan to stay in contact with me..

i was in the same situation as u.. but honestly i still love the girl who i left her for..

of cos i felt vv guilty.. retribution is a vv vicious cycle, end up with nothing..

anywaes.. the girl who i let down oso didn't want to stay in contact with me, but after a good few years, we're on talking terms and sometimes still meet for lunch and stuff.

Deztruct · #40 10-04-2005, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by nirvana

she live forever deep inside my heart
i wish her all the best..
she is the only and last gal i ever love..

^_^

Once is enough,.....

I salute u..maybe i not close enuf to u to call u bro but deep down inside u hv my respect...i hope 1 day i can attain the same nirvana as u

000 - Love Once n Only One

Deztruct · #41 10-04-2005, 12:42 AM

[QUOTE=oxilary]i was in the same situation as u.. but honestly i still love the girl who i left her for..

of cos i felt vv guilty.. retribution is a vv vicious cycle, end up with nothing..

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Up to now..i still love the ger who i left her for too....hopefully 1 day me n the 1st ger will be on talkin terms ok..i told myself tat if 1 day, she ever need my help..i will do it even its cost my life

after all these exp..i lose faith in love lioa...there is no such thing as true love nowadays..pple juz stay together becoz they are scared of loneliness...n the tong hua lyrics at the bottom of ur signature..its the song tat me n the 2nd ger i like alot..and its something tat i told her before after we broke off..i told her i am willin to be her angel without expectin in return even if she was in the arms of another guy

oxilary · #42 10-04-2005, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Deztruct

Up to now..i still love the ger who i left her for too....

heh.. i still have feelings for the girl.. 5 yrs and counting, but i've somehow or rather moved on, dun intend to put a 100% into any relationship.

the first girl.. time will heal and if u are still there trying. she'll talk to u 1 day. as for the 2nd girl.. u gotta either do something abt it or move on. All the best bro

Eternity_Gal · #43 10-04-2005, 01:03 AM

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Originally Posted by oxilary

heh.. i still have feelings for the girl.. 5 yrs and counting, but i've somehow or rather moved on, dun intend to put a 100% into any relationship.

Hmm. That's indeed a record. Didnt know you were that sentimental.. Hah! Seriously, it's no good for you to put in a lot, while she doesnt seem to realise. Hope you find ya love.

oxilary · #44 10-04-2005, 01:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Eternity_Gal

Hmm. That's indeed a record. Didnt know you were that sentimental.. Hah! Seriously, it's no good for you to put in a lot, while she doesnt seem to realise. Hope you find ya love.

lol.. i'm more of a lovefool den a sentimental person

can't help it, she gave me the best 17 mths of my life. and thanks

MachoDevilX · #45 10-04-2005, 01:10 AM

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Originally Posted by oxilary

heh.. i still have feelings for the girl.. 5 yrs and counting, but i've somehow or rather moved on, dun intend to put a 100% into any relationship.

Bro, Don't be like me who have spent my youth over a girl who doesn't even appreciate me. Although until now, we still remain as very good friends but then deep in my heart, I know that we can only be friends and nothing else. And I have court her for 11 years since we are young. Do I regret?? Frankly speaking, I don't regret as I have learnt a lot over the years of courting her. I have learn to know what is unselfish Love. And I have decided to move on with my life after being in a locked cell for so many years...

Move on!!!