Is Marriage The Graveyard Of Love?

[Aroman]

1) After getting married, your livestyle change
Yes, it has changed.
2) The feelings is just no like before when during BGR.
No, It was different at the BGR stage, less or no commitment or burden kind of relationship
3) The way she treats you is different.
Before and after marriage is totally different.
4) After the kids arrive, does your sex life with her ceased.
On and off. But mostly off , due to her worry that the kid might wake up or funny reason.
5) Would you seek to find love outside your marriage, to fill your loneliness.
No, I take up another hobby like fish keeping and cycling
6) Would you consider getting a divorce.
No, not to the extent of divorce. but given a choice I would not get married and have kids

Disclaimer; all the comment only applicable to myself

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by dna_gene

Nevertheless, I'm definitely not saying that I'm doing no wrong by having affairs. I'm just doing what other men would have tend to do wrong too. After all i'm just a mere human, I'm venerable to sins too but at least I set principles that I would abide by.

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thats true la. actually what i always believe is, it is important for a married man to take care of the family well; roof, food, family time etc... so when the wife really suspects or catches the husband of eating "forbedden" food, at least there are mitigation factors for a reconciliation.

[dna_gene]

Originally Posted by Castrol

thats true la. actually what i always believe is, it is important for a married man to take care of the family well; roof, food, family time etc... so when the wife really suspects or catches the husband of eating "forbedden" food, at least there are mitigation factors for a reconciliation.

EXACTLY!!! Thanx for mentioning this point, forgotten to mention. Heehee! Since I can't avoid committing sins, I would try to redeem myself by treating my wife with top piority and be nice to her. One of my principles is that I would never allow myself to spend much more on other gals than on my wife.

[Cummingliao]

Originally Posted by dna_gene

Hmmm... How should i answer you? Personally I don't find anything wrong with having affairs. I don't go looking for affairs but when they come to me, I'm almost 0% resistant as long as the gal looks pleasant with a good figure. For times I've been telling myelf that I should stop having affairs but whenever the opportunities came, i just accept again. Maybe i'm an opportunist, that's why.

I don't think that being logical with thinking means that one is low risk taker. It's totally different matter. Being logical just suggests that you know how to be more impartial, and doing the right things. On the other hand, being a high risk taker doesn't mean that you are always having the tendency of doing the wrong things. All it suggests is that you would tend to do things that have higher chances of failing, even if you are doing the right things!

Nevertheless, I'm definitely not saying that I'm doing no wrong by having affairs. I'm just doing what other men would have tend to do wrong too. After all i'm just a mere human, I'm venerable to sins too but at least I set principles that I would abide by.

Not sure did I answer what you are looking for but this is what I think about myself having affairs.

Yes, I understand your rationale of having affairs now. You have already stated that you find nothing wrong with a person having affairs, henceforth it has nothing to do with logic thinking anymore.