Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by NewandLost

my god is it worth the torture?

Well, this is subjective. If any one tell you that he trust his wife 100%, then he's either lying with his eyes open or he is totally influenced by the church pastor and has no mind of his own. My marriage till now has its ups and downs, but i feel that its worth it. I am happy and i realised that i know my wife much better after all these years. My wife takes good care of me and my family. I get treatment that you won't get with singaporean wives. My wife shower with me daily, scrub my back and feet and wash my face for me. Feels good. So if you ask me if its worth it, i say its worth it.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Well, this is subjective. If any one tell you that he trust his wife 100%, then he's either lying with his eyes open or he is totally influenced by the church pastor and has no mind of his own. My marriage till now has its ups and downs, but i feel that its worth it. I am happy and i realised that i know my wife much better after all these years. My wife takes good care of me and my family. I get treatment that you won't get with singaporean wives. My wife shower with me daily, scrub my back and feet and wash my face for me. Feels good. So if you ask me if its worth it, i say its worth it.

I trust my galfriend 100%
I am going to get myself influence by church pastor anyway

Afterall she is in vietnam and I am in Sillypore. Seeing each other only when I go Vietnam. So I feel that I need to trust her completely. It will be very tiring thinking of what have she been doing and stuff like that.

I have been thinking that if the trust is broken, it will be me who do the damage. I have been fooling around way too much in Sillypore. I am a lonely guy in Sillypore who need companion from gals. But it will come a time when I have to stop all these activities. Will I ever stop? It is a big task to accomplish.

I do agree with you that guys get the treatments from Vietnam gals that Sillypore gals cannot provide.

[BigNose]

Originally Posted by SingViet

My wife shower with me daily, scrub my back and feet and wash my face for me.

wow!

Nevertheless, i'm glad that you are leading a happy life with your VN wife and glad that you are sharing yr life expriences with us, its like a Life hotline for us sometimes.

cheers

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

I trust my galfriend 100%
I am going to get myself influence by church pastor anyway

Haven't sign the marriage papers and haven't stay together daily, don't say too early hor .... Its easy to be in love and meet each other for a few days each month, but when it comes to staying under the same roof and meeting each other daily, it will be a different story. You have been married once, so u can understand fully what i mean. Its not just her, but yr parents and her and her family with you, all sorts of complications.

The next thing u have to worry is how to bring yr gal over for ROM or even stay here. I have a friend who's VN galfriend is in the same situation as your gal, she thought she can come in singapore for ROM after the banned period of 3 years. Now is 18 months after that 3 years, she is still not allowed to enter singapore, not even for tour or even ROM. My friend applied for her to come in for ROM, went to HCMC to fetch her here and put $4000 USD in her wallet, still kanna sent back. My friend went to MP for help also no use. Write to PMO also no response. Now he and his gal only meet once a month in HCMC.

[leecs]

Thats fucking sad!!!

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

The next thing u have to worry is how to bring yr gal over for ROM or even stay here. I have a friend who's VN galfriend is in the same situation as your gal, she thought she can come in singapore for ROM after the banned period of 3 years. Now is 18 months after that 3 years, she is still not allowed to enter singapore, not even for tour or even ROM. My friend applied for her to come in for ROM, went to HCMC to fetch her here and put $4000 USD in her wallet, still kanna sent back. My friend went to MP for help also no use. Write to PMO also no response. Now he and his gal only meet once a month in HCMC.

This is a bad news...

Any bro good +ve response?

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by 69ASIMO69

hi bros... who can advise please?


2) I got this situation here. Me and my GF comes to Singapore on 12 March, we getting married on 10 May. If i were to do a extention on internet, they got this clause that she has to goes out of the country for 5 days at least. So what must i do inorder not to return back to Vietnam as we find it a waste of money? Will ICA allow special extention, then we get ROM on 10 MAY and sequently from there i can bring her to ICA to extend monthly till she gets her long term pass for the 1st stage.

I kena this one before. My wife came SG way too early and it was about more than a month away to our ROM. So they did not extend her stay and she has to go back for a while.

You go to ICA visitor centre, dun Q for any number cos they will throw it back at your face.
Walk in, turn right to the end. You will see ICA uniform officer standing there and helping some folks with internet application. Present your case to them, and if you are lucky, they will bring you straight to counter and chop extension. Bring along ROM application as proof.

The nicest lady officer seems to be the Chinese slim auntie with short hair. I also got her help but I stupid. I delay another day to go back discuss with wife. Next day came it was a Malay auntie who threw it back onto my face, non negoitiable...

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Haven't sign the marriage papers and haven't stay together daily, don't say too early hor .... Its easy to be in love and meet each other for a few days each month, but when it comes to staying under the same roof and meeting each other daily, it will be a different story. You have been married once, so u can understand fully what i mean. Its not just her, but yr parents and her and her family with you, all sorts of complications.

Agreed.
During the pak tall stage you get to see each other at most a few hours every day then you parted to be on your own back home is totally different from facing her also a few hours everyday but stay under the same roof.

Your mum's issue comes into picture, your budget for extra headcount for food, rice, toiletries, vege, PUB, all increase.
Not that money can solve everything, if your new wife and your mum abit different channel, then you will have to play a very sensitive and tactful role.

After a very stress work day..., meeting your love one for a beer outside carries an absolutely different meaning from going back home to your love one and reaching out for that beer in the fridge.
It is the same beer to a guy, but the gal are more concern of the purpose.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

This is a bad news...

Any bro good +ve response?

hahaha...no choice lor... Keep on appeal as what i had suggested to you previously...thought you said you are going to write to ICA daily...go and see your MP to appeal also...keep seeing MP to appeal until successful...heard most appeal takes up to 2 to 3 years before successful.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Haven't sign the marriage papers and haven't stay together daily, don't say too early hor

eehhh... trust got anything to do with staying together daily?
if stay apart already cannot trust, than what is the point of staying together and suffer every night?

That is why while we are apart, i still choose to trust her. My girlfriend is a homely person and really knows how to think and she act as big sister to her friends. The only thing is that she is too good that everyone wanna cheat her. (even myself as I have been fooling around in Sillypore)

I see that you do not trust your wife family maybe becoz of frequent money request in terms of thousands of UD$. I admire you that you are good that you can weave away so many requests. I got no money problem with her as she seldom ask from me. Even have, the amount is damn little. The most that I give at 1 time is S$1500. I have educated her that I am a poor guy. I can only provide for her but not her whole family. Drilled into her mind since day 1.

The only thing/person that may destroy this relationship is myself. Bro who knows me always say that I cannot live with only 1 gal. I have been flirting around and the rate is getting higher. Reason I give myself is that it is getting near to the date where I will not be 'free' anymore. I need to cheong as much as possible before the date comes. (probably a childish reason)

Afterall, I cheong so much and seeing so many gals, yet I still want to settle down 1 day. My galfriend is one who can be a wife.

Originally Posted by ekemono

Agreed.
During the pak tall stage you get to see each other at most a few hours every day then you parted to be on your own back home is totally different from facing her also a few hours everyday but stay under the same roof.

Your mum's issue comes into picture, your budget for extra headcount for food, rice, toiletries, vege, PUB, all increase.
Not that money can solve everything, if your new wife and your mum abit different channel, then you will have to play a very sensitive and tactful role.

After a very stress work day..., meeting your love one for a beer outside carries an absolutely different meaning from going back home to your love one and reaching out for that beer in the fridge.
It is the same beer to a guy, but the gal are more concern of the purpose.

I with my girlfriend for 2 years plus liao... still pak tall stage? No lah.
Now she also start to complain (just like sillypore gals) that she feels that I don't love her as much as before. I think that it is the man thing that when a relationship drags long, it become an obligation rather than having the 'sweet honey honey' kind of love.

Being a married guy before, I know what it takes to take care a family. $$$
Being tactful between mum and wife...I think I am not. I am being blunt in telling my mum that if she cannot get along with my future wife, I will move out. My girlfriend also tells me that she move out alone since 14yo and may not know how to please the elders but she is willing to try. The first step to it is that she learn chinese diligently in order to communicate with my mum.

[CPTMiller]

Agreed on this.
I believe a successful relationship come with up and down.
This is life.
As for trust and patience on our wife or gf.
100% is a good said.
But in reality it is hard to achieve.

Vn girl are good in nature.
But money can change any person.
Thus we need to handle the situation carefully.

Originally Posted by SingViet

Well, this is subjective. If any one tell you that he trust his wife 100%, then he's either lying with his eyes open or he is totally influenced by the church pastor and has no mind of his own. My marriage till now has its ups and downs, but i feel that its worth it. I am happy and i realised that i know my wife much better after all these years. My wife takes good care of me and my family. I get treatment that you won't get with singaporean wives. My wife shower with me daily, scrub my back and feet and wash my face for me. Feels good. So if you ask me if its worth it, i say its worth it.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by ekemono

The nicest lady officer seems to be the Chinese slim auntie with short hair. I also got her help but I stupid. I delay another day to go back discuss with wife. Next day came it was a Malay auntie who threw it back onto my face, non negoitiable...

Simple reason why you are treated differently by the ladies.

Chinese lady: her husband fcuk her the night before.
Maly auntie: her husband never fcuk her the night before

Morale of the story is that when you ask a lady for help, always make sure that her husband give it to her the night before.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

hahaha...no choice lor... Keep on appeal as what i had suggested to you previously...thought you said you are going to write to ICA daily...go and see your MP to appeal also...keep seeing MP to appeal until successful...heard most appeal takes up to 2 to 3 years before successful.

Yes. I am going to load their mailbox when the day comes.
Seeing MP to appeal.. yes I will also do it.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Afterall, I cheong so much and seeing so many gals, yet I still want to settle down 1 day. My galfriend is one who can be a wife.

SingViet,

Lately I met a gal whom i am thinking of keeping as a mistress or maybe as 2nd wife.

Just wanna learn from you how you manage to handle 2 Viet wife and still they accepted each other?

[jackbl]

IMHO, must try hard not to have this idea, it wont be good...

Originally Posted by KangTuo

SingViet,

Lately I met a gal whom i am thinking of keeping as a mistress or maybe as 2nd wife.

Just wanna learn from you how you manage to handle 2 Viet wife and still they accepted each other?