How to choose a wife? - Page 4

BeijingAirport · #46 25-07-2006, 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by ok69

marry the girl that love you
but not marry the girl that you love

Agree, that is the safest bet

asdfghjkl · #47 25-07-2006, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

The other thing that i always watch out for is temper.

bro.. how do i know whether a girl got bad temper or not ah? they like to pretend pretend till marriage ler..

TheFig · #48 25-07-2006, 11:56 PM

It is not so much about sticking through thick and thin. Believe me, if you are a bump on the Streets, your wife will leave. Similarly, if your wife gamble and shoot drugs, you will leave.

Thus, this whole sphiel about sticking with somebody through thick and thin is a superficial fallacy. It's just not true. There are certain degrees of realism expected of either party. Either party fails, the other party leaves. It is as simple as that.

The thing to look for is "willingness to change". If you love me enough, is it important for you to quit smoking? Quit hanging out with guys who only wants to bed you (not that it is a bad thing, if you are the guy hoping to score), and certainly quit admiring what other women has and focus on getting both of us, as a unit to where we both want to be?

In short, both of you must be willing to make short-lists after short-lists on the stuff you dislike about each other. With self-improvement as the end-goal. And you must be 100% honest. It takes 2 to tango and if you focus on this type of routine, making it a routine, you will shine in your marriage.

There is no wrong/right in marriage. There is only a willingness to stay married. Sometimes an affair is the best thing that ever happened to a marriage. You simply cannot be dogmatic about it. At the end of the day, if she doesn't actively work and communicate with you, there is no point in getting married. There is little if any intimacy and you might as well visit Geylang all the time. In fact, Geylang would be superior cause no hassles. Pay, screw and fuck off.

toffee01 · #49 26-07-2006, 12:11 AM

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Originally Posted by ok69

marry the girl that love you
but not marry the girl that you love

That is juz so true. I'm juz another walking case-study.. to prove that point

SingViet · #50 26-07-2006, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by TheFig

It is not so much about sticking through thick and thin. Believe me, if you are a bump on the Streets, your wife will leave. Similarly, if your wife gamble and shoot drugs, you will leave.

Bro,

I think you got it wrong. Most guy's perception of `sticking thru thick and thin' means that your wife will be with you, even when your career is down. Life is like a rollar coaster, you cannot be assured that your job is secure and that you will be making that much money all the time. What if one day you are retrenched? The day when your career goes downhill? The day when you have to ask your wife to quit spending that much? Will your wife stay with you? `Quit spending that much' is a tough job for most local ladies. They are used to good life since young. The day when they realise that you cannot provide as good a life as last time, they grumble. They find you less attractive, they find you `not as capable as their friend's husband'. A good wife is one that will be with you even during hardship. She is willing to save. She is willing to give you the moral support. She knows you guys can overcome the hurdle together. This is what i call a GOOD WIFE.

tittyhawk · #51 26-07-2006, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro,

A good wife is one that will be with you even during hardship. She is willing to save. She is willing to give you the moral support. She knows you guys can overcome the hurdle together. This is what i call a GOOD WIFE.

I second to this statement. Hard to find this kind of wife.

tittyhawk · #52 26-07-2006, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Cheri_Popper

Aiyah TTH, there are ppl who thinks that Rep Pts are ..

I also kanna zapped by an army of clones recently and as usual, they don't dare to put their nicks.

Hey bro, how ya been? Long time no see liao? Still busy with work eh?

blackeagle10 · #53 26-07-2006, 09:28 AM

Marriage is not a one way street. If you always want to one up on your spouse , that is already a chink in your marriage. Women are not stupid, over time they will know whether you really care and love them or not. They may not complain directly to you but they will whisper to their mums or sisters.

Of course women want security, a nice house/condo, perhaps a maid to help with housework. Think about it, she will be carrying your next generation and is a major influence of your children. So attitude, fidelity and responsibility ranks highly on my list.

No point looking for trouble with women who has great potential to stray; women with looks but lack brains/ tenacity to take care of themselves.

Depending on your station in life, there are enough candidates out there for you to choose from. I know sometimes we guys are afraid to meet the in-laws for whatever reasons. But I think it is an excellent opportunity to assess her potential; she will grow up exactly to be her mum.

Most parents hate the B/Fs who honk their car horns when they picked up their dates while waiting downstairs. It shows bad manners on the guy's part.

If you think you can live with her mum's habits and attitudes , at least you know you can be with her for the long haul.

P/S I found mine this way; her mum won me over in our first meeting.

Souledge · #54 26-07-2006, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Peter_North

Talk to your wife. Otherwise, your children will pick up the bad habit.

I am not married yet... but being with her for like 5 years... the problem is she is with me when i went overseas studies for two years and till i am back... planning to get married in a couple of years... but i do not really feel comfortable marrying her... maybe if i do marry her... it is more to the fact that she is not a bad girl after all.. i mean she is a girl that will be with me thru thick and thin... the only bad thing is her temper... sometime feel like breaking up with her on this issue... sigh... but thanks to yr posting i actually cut and paste yr posting and let her see... she say she understand... and see how things goes then... and only pray now...

Cheri_Popper · #55 26-07-2006, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by tittyhawk

Hey bro, how ya been? Long time no see liao? Still busy with work eh?

Been B-Z with work as usual. Nowadays have to work shifts.

michael8330 · #56 26-07-2006, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro,

I think you got it wrong. Most guy's perception of `sticking thru thick and thin' means that your wife will be with you, even when your career is down. Life is like a rollar coaster, you cannot be assured that your job is secure and that you will be making that much money all the time. What if one day you are retrenched? The day when your career goes downhill? The day when you have to ask your wife to quit spending that much? Will your wife stay with you? `Quit spending that much' is a tough job for most local ladies. They are used to good life since young. The day when they realise that you cannot provide as good a life as last time, they grumble. They find you less attractive, they find you `not as capable as their friend's husband'. A good wife is one that will be with you even during hardship. She is willing to save. She is willing to give you the moral support. She knows you guys can overcome the hurdle together. This is what i call a GOOD WIFE.

i second yr statement , this is what a lot of bro here refer