Confession and failed marriage

[hugs]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

My advice is to walk away and start afresh. The broken relationship can never be restored.

Get yourself a new wife and make sure you don't make the same mistake the 2nd time round.

so true so true, die die also the 2nd marriage must work ok or ur wife will laugh her head off if u marry the 3rd time

btw i think sbf is evolving n is time to do away with the zapping of off-topic post. since boss himself has become agony uncle

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by hugs

btw i think sbf is evolving n is time to do away with the zapping of off-topic post. since boss himself has become agony uncle

I have never tagged any thread for discussing relationship issues of any sort.

However, you start a thread in this section looking for someone to jog with, You're just asking to be zapped.

[hugs]

grrhh..i dont wan 2 tok with u, u r the boss u set the rules so sure win wan

[see see only]

Life as it is .....

Me not an Anti-marriage but after 2 failed marriage, somehow realised we are all brain washed when young, that marriages are all perfect and happily ever after and sincerely no one tell us how to continue this story after marriage

Stories are always told on how a couple meets, beautiful courtship, flowers, proposed with fire works, etc and ended with marriage (so sweet) ... full stop but we ask some mature people who actually understand, marriage is a beginning of an untold story which a couple must maintain and make it wonderful and happening and how to live together.

However TS, if you cannot stop the habit on seeing someone else and yet you married a woman who classified her husband as you been hers and only hers, i sincerely believe the ending of this untold story will not have a good ending.

So now it is up to you to stop your seeing someone else habit and ask for forgiveness or start to brain wash her that this untold story may not necessary be as perfect as she thought ... once a while must close 1 or even 2 eyes ............

......... Mate the choice is yours ... of cos there is another choice that we all know

[shoei]

first and foremost, I appreciate all the advice and prospective all fellow friends here with me. allowed me to see things from a different angle and levels.

for me, I believe I have hurt and damaged my marriage. I have played my cards wrongly and honestly screwed up big time. and I do agree w the forum owner that a broken relationship will not be the same anymore.

I have spend time thinking and questioning myself on what I want. keeping in mind that change is the only constant, I desire to mend the marriage and be responsible for the hurt I caused. although she is not willing to go to counseling w me, I am still going to show her that I am sincerce in changing myself and be faithful to her.

lost.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by shoei

I am still going to show her that I am sincerce in changing myself and be faithful to her.

lost.

CLAP CLAP well dun bro.
You have earned my admiration.
Getting respect is easy, earning lost respect is most difficult and thus deserves the utmost admiration.
Kudos.
You have attained enlightenment
逃避是后悔的开始
面对是幸福的开始
Upz u dude

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by shoei

although she is not willing to go to counseling w me, I am still going to show her that I am sincerce in changing myself and be faithful to her.
lost.

Don't waste your time. These sorts of gestures are never appreciated.

[shoei]

Originally Posted by newyorker88

Yes, problems does not lie in one person, it takes two to tango. Counseling works becos 2 parties want to solve the problem. If one party dont want to go, it will be useless.

I agree with you that counselling is more effective if both parties attend together.

But the problem is my wife states very clearly that she is not going to work for the marriage. she is only staying in for the kids. So she is unwilling to go for it.

[shoei]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

CLAP CLAP well dun bro.
You have earned my admiration.
Getting respect is easy, earning lost respect is most difficult and thus deserves the utmost admiration.
Kudos.
You have attained enlightenment
逃避是后悔的开始
面对是幸福的开始
Upz u dude

Thank you bro. Much appreciated.

I have never been a good husband and now its time to be a good one. i still have a very long way ahead of me in gaining her trust back.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by shoei

But the problem is my wife states very clearly that she is not going to work for the marriage. she is only staying in for the kids. So she is unwilling to go for it.

Tell her she can have the kids.

You can make some new kids with your next wife.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Tell her she can have the kids.

You can make some new kids with your next wife.

Wahahaha devil's advocate

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by shoei

my wife states very clearly that she is not going to work for the marriage. she is only staying in for the kids. So she is unwilling to go for it.

话里有话bro.
Now, its your show, so earn back her trust!

[see see only]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

话里有话bro.
Now, its your show, so earn back her trust!

Ture Bro DYB ....


However TS do check with yourself first and make sure you are not asking her back because of a sudden lost and you are not used to it. Ask yourself honestly

And if you decided and did manage to win her heart back, do try to control the situation OR be ready to be control again, no regret

If not, win her back also useless and maybe this untold story may have more worse ending


Finally once you cleared yourself ..........

Dont 放弃

世上无难事 只怕有心人



Side track a bit, btw thks hero7 for your kind upz

[kidd]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Wahahaha devil's advocate

to make more revenue for sbf from this the the next generations ...

[kidd]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

逃避是后悔的开始
面对是幸福的开始
Upz u dude

I like this quote