PRC asked me to marry her...Yes or no???

[colins]

For WL, it is either black or white, yes or no. No such thing as halfway there do my part and wait for her to change. She must prove to you beyond doubt. The testing and affirming part has to be inhuman.

But if you form it into rules, chances are that you make yourself breakable, esp if you are relying on fixed demands rather than reciprocal sacrifices. Like once she find out your demands, it is easy for her fake them cos she knows her objective and you've just planned a path for her to wayang you till you blur blur go and believe her. If she is real, she will most likely be wondering why she needs to do so much to get a fucker like you. Either way, you will just set a system for others to betray yourself, albeit tough but not impossible.

Actually to test them minimally is not difficult but 99% of WL fail here. Everything they say, see what they do. In almost all the WL I've met, they cannot uphold their own promise to the word. Some of them dun even remember what they have said to you. In all they must sacrifice for you, in marrying you means sacrificing all her money making years for you. A girl with real intention will never even consider this unless you have proven beyond doubt you can provide for her and her clan. That's why it is so darn hard to find that 1% of the 1% who can be your wife.

So if you happen to meet 1 or 2 WLs and she wants to marry you, which they all do I guess, going into it heart first is the equivalent to playing zero-point at the edge of a skyscraper.

Bro gaofar, I rather look into the meaning than the word itself. One word has many meanings, likewise implied meaning is usually the way to understand it. I'm uncomfortable with the implied meanings, thats all. We call people mother-fucker all the time, but the implied meaning is a lot less suffering. In that light, strong words only goes to show the ability of a person in controlling his emotion. If that person is affected emotionally whenever something minor happens and start to use mother-fucker, he must be having a rather low EQ. Nothing explicitly degrading about it, just low EQ.

[BKnight]

Originally Posted by Decent Looking

Hi Bro:

My 2 cents worth. You test her now.

1. Help her quit this line NOW. Find her a job, get work permit.

2. Then help her get PR, after get the necessary qualifications.

3. Get her to sign pre-nuptial agreements.

If she agree to ALL 3, after 2 - 3 years, then this gal is worth you to marry.
Chinese Saying... Ri Jiu Jian Ren Xing...

A prenuptial agreement will not be enforced automatically, the courts will also not reject them outright.The law as it stands allows the court to consider agreements entered into between parties. There is no express provision which specifically excludes pre-nuptial agreements from the court’s consideration. The wording of the statutory provisions are wide in ambit and are wide enough to include pre-nuptial agreements. The courts can decline, when presented with a draft Order of Court encompassing the terms of an agreement entered into between the parties, to exercise its discretion under section 112 of the Women’s Charter and instead affirm the agreement between the parties.The validity and enforceability of such agreements still remains to be tested and practitioners will look forward to the courts’ views on this issue.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Bro, you better dun apply your formula to anyone hor else your ARSE sure tear jialat jialat
Hi Bro:

My 2 cents worth. You test her now.

1. Help her quit this line NOW. Find her a job, get work permit.
Help her quit still must help her find job & work permit?????
By doing this, she already demonstrated that she's totally useless & dont have the RESOLVE to move into this path
Chinese saying, 女人可以疼不可宠
By doing 1, you already failed the most basic that all WLs embrace in life......that is, 不劳而获

2. Then help her get PR, after get the necessary qualifications.
Helping her get the PR status is nothing short of killing yourself before the war even started.
99% of them will do anything to get their hands on this.
I've known WLs who are wif SG men and got PR, even wayang wayang after 5yrs can ask him go F spider.....most just want that!
Qualifications??? Is this very important??? Of course, if you use the Singapore mentally, but do you know how many WLs are Uni or college grads? Not few incase you didnt know
Worst, if a Uni or college grad can come here and be a WL, think its already clear that this individual's mind, is already on the wrong side of the light!

3. Get her to sign pre-nuptial agreements.
This one is a dream la, dun waste time, especially when it's a woman charter here

If she agree to ALL 3, after 2 - 3 years, then this gal is worth you to marry.
Chinese Saying... Ri Jiu Jian Ren Xing...
That's Y i say, your arse will tear......

[repsolman]

Originally Posted by Gaofar

Hmm... I'll like to add "some" words from me as I've been through such issues and lived through it and thus as from a 过来人's point of view.

I've followed the pages patiently and have gathered enough thoughts for TS. Let me make clear that the following things I'm going to talk about are purely based on my experience and my thoughts.

For you to say that PRC whores are like public toilets are uncalled for. That's the first cut from me. No humans ought to be called that generally as it's really typecasting and words of provoking humiliation. Yes, I've seen my fair share of PRCs prostitutes who are really "out there" to earn money shamelessly (that's the strongest word I'll use for these type of girls) as they really just like to get quick-cash (or quick bucks if you would) and they are really willing to let go of their self-esteem / pride (whichever you call it) and dive straight down into this oldest profession in the world. You can call or threaten to call AV and they will still wanna dive right back in if they can come back through any means possible... Still, there's no need to call them names as it's rather demeaning. And the use of comparison of items to them is frustrating, what usage like public toilet, everyone use, will you clean it, stuff like that is pointless and looking from afar, is very irritating.

On issue of whether should you marry her or not, which you've already answered, but for the sake of debating on the point (for fun...) and also to tell-off those newbies whom I've seems to see that their immediate answer is not to marry (however shallow their arguments might be), let me propose you a situation instead (actually already kenna said by bro FromBoy2Man but I feel can be re-emphasied. Sorry har bro! ): You mention that should you know a girl that is involved in this trade, becomes attached to you, wanted to be your wife and since you know of her past, you relegate her to as a toilet bowl. All's fine until if let's say you found another girl through "normal" channel (by means normal don't need me to explain right?.. Also TS I take it you don't have a steady girlfriend or wife thingy right?...), this time you love her and you court her. You guys spend years together happily and decided to tie the knot. On the day of wedding however, a couple of guys came up and confess that they still love your would-be wife and how they enjoy together "way past the time before yours did". Thus sort of "cat-out-of-the-bag stuff" happened.

Now tell me, based on above situation, if you have already loved the woman and you knew she loved you truthfully and sincerely for the past times ever since you knew each other, are you still going for the "public-toilet-stunt" and dis-acknowledge her since you seems to stand-by the principle of "anyone open legs is toilet bowls stuff like that"? You mean to say your time, feelings, efforts will, no doubt, go to waste just based on your principle? Are you someone so shallow as to that "if I know her past I'll condemn her, if I don't know her past, all's well that ends well?" Who are you kidding with? I for one, don't think you'll give up this "fictitious woman" so easily when you are facing this particular scenario... The morale of the story is this: The past, however dark it may seems, is history. What's more important is how's the current stand, feeling and commitment to each other. Quality love always precedes anything else.

As for issue on how to break up with your "bundle-of-trouble", I've seriously have no say on it as it's really your own personal matters on how you are going to resolve it personally. As what bro DO_YOU_BJ says, just take the roller-coaster ride and enjoys it until it derails, subsequently submit report to us once you are back and alive that is...

Enjoyed reading this...
I also have views about this, but in the end, every situation is different, and every individual is different. Some will be lucky and some will luck out. I hate women who play men out, but I also hate the reverse.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by repsolman

Enjoyed reading this...
I hate women who play men out, but I also hate the reverse.

Life's a bitch.
No one can sit on the fence forever.
Sooner or later, we all gotta take a side.

[uncle gg]

Mao once said "women hold up half the sky". food for thought

[repsolman]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Life's a bitch.
No one can sit on the fence forever.
Sooner or later, we all gotta take a side.

Some people do choose to be spectators, opting out from playing. They will not experience the sheer joy or deep despair of living life to the full....

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by repsolman

Some people do choose to be spectators, opting out from playing. They will not experience the sheer joy or deep despair of living life to the full....

Ah yes, thus the term collateral damage comes into play.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by jchongking

Marry her and ask her to work as a prostitute to feed u lor!
After all that's how the bitches feed their husbands in China!

This you know best ya, your kinda lifestyle!

[Gaofar]

Originally Posted by jchongking

Marry her and ask her to work as a prostitute to feed u lor!
After all that's how the bitches feed their husbands in China!

Bro... Are you saying you are condoning this kind of mentality? I'll tell you what I hate most: a spineless and heartless fagot being fed by these poor ladies!...

I don't understand what you are trying to instill here. Yes, I do know that in China there are such unfortunate cases happening, but you mean it's alright for us to stoop that low, to those bastards level, and enjoy living off with it? That's China man's attitude, for all I care, and here is Singapore! We do not have to go to that level as I know us Singaporean guys are more attentive and sensible than most guys in this world! So stop this irresponsible remark!

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by Gaofar

Bro... Are you saying you are condoning this kind of mentality? I'll tell you what I hate most: a spineless and heartless fagot being fed by these poor ladies!...

Relax bro, I doubt he has the capability to eat soft rice. This is just his wishful thinking. The most he can do is to have the PRC mei meis throw their shoes at him. He go to Zhuhai for 3-day-2-night vacation can come back and set up shoe shop liao.

[etct88]

Originally Posted by Gaofar

Bro... Are you saying you are condoning this kind of mentality? I'll tell you what I hate most: a spineless and heartless fagot being fed by these poor ladies!...

I don't understand what you are trying to instill here. Yes, I do know that in China there are such unfortunate cases happening, but you mean it's alright for us to stoop that low, to those bastards level, and enjoy living off with it? That's China man's attitude, for all I care, and here is Singapore! We do not have to go to that level as I know us Singaporean guys are more attentive and sensible than most guys in this world! So stop this irresponsible remark!

Sun chai sun chai, bro,

Forgive this 'Bro', he is only being honest in what he said and is doing.... but due to poor economical uncertainty, he is having low returns.

He is stressed and need to allow the shit in his brains to flow out of his mouth.

There will always be black sheep everywhere. He is a legend of his own, leave him in his own fantasy..........don't wake him up...

[etct88]

Originally Posted by slider_72

Relax bro, I doubt he has the capability to eat soft rice. This is just his wishful thinking. The most he can do is to have the PRC mei meis throw their shoes at him. He go to Zhuhai for 3-day-2-night vacation can come back and set up shoe shop liao.

don't think he ever been there, maybe only in his fantasy daydreaming, as he repair shoes along the streets of GL!

[Gaofar]

... I see...

Actually I didn't even know who is this person and it's just that I saw this farking remark and was feeling very angry about it that I just replied without knowing who's this idiot is...

Then I saw bros replies which makes me check on this guy (gal?)'s posts then I start to understand what's all these shoes, mei mei and Zhu Hai's all about...

[Panamera]

Originally Posted by jchongking

Marry her and ask her to work as a prostitute to feed u lor!
After all that's how the bitches feed their husbands in China!

Hey! please go and get laid by a Merlion or go back to sell your paper property la...