Gals please respond

[xaiverviii]

Originally Posted by pewpew

There are some girls who dislike sex, treating sex as a obligation to give to their other half on a weekly, monthly n even yearly basis only so as to serve their duty of the girl.

Unless you can prove them wrong by providing them some sort of pleasure (pattern, excitment or enjoyment), you won't be getting more...

time to bring her shopping...try trading in shopping for sex... works 99.99% of the time

[xaiverviii]

Originally Posted by baimi

Reported in Sin Min 2 days ago
this young wife cannot tahan her
husband of wanting 4 times sex a week
so she let him go and cheong but
he cannot bring girls home, after cheonging
cannot touch her and if he get himself
with STD he will be chased out of the house.

@least she is nice n reasonable enuff to let him outsource.. most other are so bastard tt they cant provided up to expectation and CANNOT OUTSOURCE!

[xaiverviii]

Originally Posted by MissyB

hmm i have watched this Tyra Banks show and one of the episodes was featuring a few married women who no longer have sex with their husbands or have not had sex in the last 6 months that kinda duration... Imagine, it's the U.S.! and there are ppl who dun have sex anymore.. hmmm...

Most of these women claim that they dun find themselves attractive anymore and afraid of letting their husbands see them naked. And there was also one of them who said she will not let the husband touch her unless it's totally dark in the room..

Then they show the husbands at backstage seeing what their wives confessed on national tv pgm. They interviewed the husbands earlier on and all of them responded like v understanding.. So it really does seem like sex is not everything in the marriage, though it is important. And i actually felt that this is real love.

Of cos, i duno if these husbands go out and get their needs satisfied.. But one thing i do know, is that most men (in fact all) cannot live without sex!! True??

not true as monks can...
but i got a question to ask u back,which will ans ur Q: can women live w/o shopping??if even can, how long???

[Rster]

Food for thought: Perhaps one of the FBs belonging to u guys is actually TS's wifey.

[Wasup168]

Originally Posted by Rster

Food for thought: Perhaps one of the FBs belonging to u guys is actually TS's wifey.

You never know... There's murphy's law at work in everything..
Anyway.. if talking about karma.. it's like that..
you fool behind your wife's back by engaging FL/pros/KTV/FBs ..your wife might also be doing it behind your back..

I'm already very dis-illusioned with marriage actually..
I don't mind if I can find a GF who don't mind having a kid with me but remaind as gf.. Don't want to end up sharing my fortune with a gal who might divorce me..

[casinoboy]

You guys are scaring me with all the murphy's law and karma etc. ZZZ

But for my gf and I, we're having sex on a regular basis for the past 2 years. I'm really glad that she has a high sex drive and most of the time she is the one initiating the sex. Sometimes after work I feel really tired so I will hint her that there won't be sex tonight. Her face will turn sour but the next day i will wake up earlier to brush teeth and make breakfast for her, then I will slowly undress her and lick her till she wakes up and we both have a morning sex, not those quickie kind. And this has made things very easy for the both of us cause we communicate (:

secondly, i think that girls have to be honest in all things as well if they are trying to solve problems. i know of some girls who want their husbands and bfs to be in all honestly when communicating and solving problems, but actually deep down inside they're still hiding something that they dont wanna tell us. but for us guys, if you already make it so clear that you want a honest heart to heart talk, we will tell you every single thing that is in our head. so the point i'm trying to make here is communicating is not enough, you have to communicate with honestly and openess.

btw ts, i dont know if you have tried this, but if you can cry while talking to your wife, sometimes it might work. just like how girls cry and then the hubby heart soften then hug them closely. perhaps you tear and then tell your wife "sweetheart, i'm at my wits end already. we need to talk... ..." then she wil listen to you?

other factors have already been mentioned so i wun go too much into it. try out my last point tonight and let us know of the outcome and we work it out together with you ok? SBF peeps with you all the way in this! Crying men FTW ! xD

[GoldenMonkey1]

TS,

Sorry to hear about your problems, but I would think that your issues are pretty common.

Sun Zi said, " Knowing your enemy by heart, victory will be yours "

First of all, lets do a self-reflection of yourself first.

1. How have you been treating your family?
2. Has it been an anti-stress and happy family?

Above will explain if you have provided your wife enough security, and is she worrying about anything to come in the near future. Woman is a special breed of creatures, when they start to worry, be stressful, everything else is no longer important till it is being solved.

3. Have you been noticing if she is no longer have any confidence in her body?
4. Does she no longer wants you to see her body?
5. Does she now cover up every single piece of her flesh?

Above will explain if you have done enough to bring her back to confidence after your first child. Have you been encouraging her? What have you done to bring her back to the confidence that in the first place attracted you when you first met her?

Most of the time, we just ask the question of why no? Even if your wife reluctantly gives in to you, you will have the same problem again the next time round. So why not just solve the problem, and not going around the problem.

Remember, woman are a special breed of creature, they will have their needs too. Solve the problem for them, and they will solve your problem automatically.

Just my 2 cents.

[Window7]

Originally Posted by darylcch

so my question again...

Can you gals go without SEX for many months?
Really SEX means nothing but conceiving?

Mine even told me she can live without sex.

Originally Posted by Sting

I been married for 10 years and with a 9 year old kid.

My wife always reject to have sex. Reason : tired from work. tired from study.

I am also tired. The cooking and washing is done by me. Me also have to bring back $$$.

Sometimes hug her she will just reject.

We had sex on during Satursdys. but not every sat. it can be 2-3 months once.

Sometimes think of it. You don't give me and don't let me eat outside. How can life go on? I always can live without sex with you. That why sometimes I feel guilty for pay and fuck off session.

But me too is also a victim. Before marriage we had wonderful sex life after our child is born, it become a routine job.

I am sick and tired of this kind of marriage life.

My kids sleep at 10pm, my wife sleep at 1030pm.
I sleep at 2am, after watching 2 movies.

Originally Posted by Miracle Bra

Hi darylcch,

It could be due to hormone changes. The changes can greatly affect a woman physically and mentally.

A few years ago I was like your wife. My sex drive was extremely low. Nothing seems to turn me on and I hardly have the urge for sex. But after some councelling and advice I received, I am back to normal. Now my sexual drive is as high as my hubby.

So be patient to your wife. Talk to her more often and try to understand each others needs. I am sure one day your wife will realize that "Something" is amiss.

My wife was very very low for the first 10 years of our marriage, she told me before...make it quick in 10 mins.

Then she's changedl, quite HSD..we can make love every night...but it lasted abt 1 year.

Recently she back to NORMAL. At night sleep at 1030. I can only pcc these days.

Originally Posted by darylcch

sometimes..when i successfully closed a deal in my work or did something i felt proud of, i have the urge to get close to my wife...to hug her..to kiss her..to have sex with her...

but whenever i tried to do it...she will say i am crazy....
and the whole mood dies off...

so next time, please please take care of your hubby feeling ..we guys have feeling too..

When I try she will just tell me ''My cb not wet lei''. really is no mood liao for me.

[asdfghjkl]

my sex drive is high but i still prefer to saw myself.. more enjoyable..

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

my sex drive is high but i still prefer to saw myself.. more enjoyable..

That why we are here

[Vjolie]

Haha can't be. I am a girl but I think my sex drive is even higher than my boyfriend's! 98% of the times would be initiated by me hehe

[NotADude]

I am not a dude. But I sometimes really feel I am like a gay boy in a woman's body.

• I am happy to initiate sex on a daily basis.
• I masturbate to porn daily when I do not get sex.
• I give foreplay but I do not need it. I love getting rammed without any foreplay.
• I wash up/roll over and sleep immediately after sex. I don't care about about post sex cuddling.
• I love to ogle my bf when he is bottomless and I love to caress his lower body and moobs as he walks around the room.
• My personal collection of porn vids is 30gb.
  

So far, I havent had a female friend who share any of the above traits. Even my bf agrees that I am like a gay boy in a female body. My sex drive is much higher than him though sad to say.

[porscheclub]

TS, sounds like you have a serious problem here. Has it not crossed your mind that she is seeing someone else?

In simple words, she's fucking someone else.

Hire a PI & monitor.

If proven wrong, there are chances where woman's hormones change & they can be disinterested with sex. If she fears pregnancy then she can always go to do IUD & practise other forms of birth control.

A caring & loving wife will be keen to discuss how to keep the marriage & sex alive. You better don't fuck around first till you find out what's wrong or you'll be the one @ fault. If you have already done that, then

[wolfberry2]

my wife doesn't like stroking. she even did some research to show me that women only like 3-5 min of stroking and the poor guy should shoot. well, not sure it's because she from a medical background, her dad's a doc and she's raised in the hospital scene in her childhood. but she likes foreplay and french kiss though... what can i do? thinking of that, i don't even want to start.

[BabyLyn]

Poor TS... All I can say is that not all female dislike sex. However, we do get bored of the same thing happening over and over again...

TS, maybe you can try something new to surprise your wife. Like what some bros here mentioned, try finding out what is it that made her shun away from sex. Could it be her getting more body conscious? Or the fear of pregnancy? So simply because she is too tired from work and/or housework? Try finding the root cause of the issue and resolve it...

Good luck and cheers!