Married with kids but no sex life

[Hardaway1818]

This is not a story but rather just me ranting about my situation.

Not sure if this is the right place to post. Sorry if it wastes any of your time reading this.

I am supposedly to have a very good life. Have a good wife, young kids, good career with good pay, own a house and drives a good car. Nothing much to complain about. Only regret is that I cant have a proper sex life with my wife anymore due to a medical problem.

Mid-thirties, good sex drive but nowhere to vent. Dont like commercial sex as it's too mechanical.

Lookd like I am quite stucked haha

[BBBBW]

Trust me, Bro. I feel for you. I am almost in the same situation - except that I am just too tired after work to make love and my wife is too busy with our son and the not-yet-born girl to do so.. Working hours and stress level in Singapore really sucks.. Take care though. No point going for commercial sex as the feel is just not correct; it may not also not be as clean as you imagine..

BBBBW

[micmac888]

From ur post I assume medical problem is ur wife ? Absolutely no way to fuck her like the wild animal in u ? That's the case go eat out. But no need to tell her if really is the case. She will figure it out and likely keep quiet so long as ur extra curricular activities never affect ur responsibilities job and family man. If u can control urself from the emotional exhilaration arising from the hunt(s) and subsequent time management issues associated with the hunts.

[georgemagnum]

My peers feel the same as u do ... Passing phase that most couples go thru
?
I always tell my frens to communicate more and wear less at home lor

gm

[BiRd13]

I can feel you bro...
Same goes with my side...
However, different reason only...

For me, my wife is too tired and 'stress' after work, and don't wish to make love... Especially with kids around... As we encountered several occassion that when we make love when kids are sleeping (we all zz in the same room), got some 'misunderstand' causes... And since then, we only make love when kids are out... (Like out for school... or sometimes they stay at pil place...)

However, been several months since we did not have sex... nor even intimacy.... Like foreplay or even hugging and kissing.... sigh...

[lightenz]

So situation here. Wife simply not interested anymore. Not sure why. Seems like many bros are experiencing the same problem, feels much relieve knowing that it's a common problem.

[Alan060113]

same problem face by most of the guy in sg. Wife usually after give birth that they will lose interest in sex as they felt that they had done their duty and ORD.
For guys with high sex drive,either DIY or eat out.

[Devil Reds]

Haizzz..... same case here too.
tt's why I got to release my army to an 'outsourcing' company lor
I know it's a lame excuse....but small head rule over big head!!!!!

[Latte]

Same situation here. Didn't have sex with wife for 9 months. (Only once after she gave birth) and never did when she was pregnant. Total around 18 months fuck once only.

Let me analyze for you 3 choices.

1. Find a gf aka fb. I found one. Problem is have to give some love and scared in future got problem. Good bonk though and she knows I am married.

2. Find a fwb. I found one as well. She's a maid and quite pretty. Already ok to be fwb but always want to meet and ended up cancel. So waiting to upz.

3. Go for commercial sex lor. After getting a gf, i find my wife becoming suspicious and always check on me. Gf also wants attention. Abit regret and wish I just go for commercial ones. Fuck and Go.

[peppermint]

Myself like ts, faces about the same situation concerning sex. most of us are tired after work and looking after kids, and there will be no mood or opportunity to do it . especially if propose for sex already then get rejected due to reasons like tired, then becomes harder to ask . like what ts said, commercial sex that is too mechanical is not nice, so end up both ways also cannot be satisfied.

i would think that maybe , men like us can form a group of friends, and gather together for some past time, like pubbing, gambling (for fun) or whatever.

[Coffeecans]

I guess like the others I have the same prob too. Work, and then take care of kids, leaving the intimate times lesser and lesser.

But for me I guess its not really affecting me. I guess when you see your very own wife go through the delivery, you would feel that pain. Perhaps going to commercial sex would not really be fair. Just my thoughts. For me its easier cos I have another passion which is cooking so its not that difficult.

[Absolute]

Still wondering whether all of you have regretted getting married.

I guess most will instinctively insist that you have not regretted.

Nature has a way to create the conditions for two opposite sex to come together and procreate in the heat of the moment. Human beings are no different from animals in this aspect.

Then the real taste of life comes after the next generation is born. Nature dictates that since the next generation is born, the couple will have to expend all their resouces (energy, time, finance, etc) to protect and nurture their offspring to be strong enough to survive in the harsh environment.

So the order is sex first, suffer later. Of course many will console themselves by insisting that this suffering is worthwhile and enjoyable because at the end of the day, you have children to spend time with and talk to.

Good luck to all of you!

[littlecunt]

Dear bros,

There are many ways in order to persuade women.. Somemore as husband and wife, can always have a talk.

If everything fails. Try those pills

1. Lybrido
2. Hersolution

Reference:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...=feeds-newsxml

http://www.hersolution.com/

I never tried before, but if my wife has no desire to have sex, i will probably recommend these pills.


Hope it helps someone.

[TaoRen2005]

wow bro great ideal,, please count me in,, lol... i was deprived for good sex for ages liao,, knn.. sianz...

Originally Posted by peppermint

Myself like ts, faces about the same situation concerning sex. most of us are tired after work and looking after kids, and there will be no mood or opportunity to do it . especially if propose for sex already then get rejected due to reasons like tired, then becomes harder to ask . like what ts said, commercial sex that is too mechanical is not nice, so end up both ways also cannot be satisfied.

i would think that maybe , men like us can form a group of friends, and gather together for some past time, like pubbing, gambling (for fun) or whatever.

[Hardaway1818]

haha i am so amazed of the number of bros here who are 天涯同命鸟. Somehow it just made me feel better as i am not alone (Ah Q mentality).

I never regretted getting married and love my wife and kids. Would never bear to do anything to hurt the family.

Just lamenting a bit here haha. Life still goes on and I guess i can live out my sexual fantasies by writing more stories hahaha