I don't know how to feel about this (hear me out)

[itguy2008]

Originally Posted by thor1981

Hi Bro Thenotoman

I'm now an old uncle (turn 41 this year) but I remember those days of 24-25 like it was yesterday. I am also not so tall (170 cm) and used to think that's why girls dont date me - DEAD WRONG! Height can HELP, but it DOES NOT hinder if your attitude is strong. I will share my big change of thinking from those days to now, and I hope it is helpful to you :

I thought i needed to be good looking, rich, tall, muscular, great body, to be able to attract and keep girls.

Yes, I found this helps the initial attraction (i.e. the first 60 seconds) with any girl, but then it becomes 100% pure pscyhology la.

Basically every girl is reactive and is looking for a man someone who will keep her stimulated, excited in life (good food, nature, shows, fucking... each girl different, but all want stimulation). And she is subconsciously looking for a man better than her PSYCHOLOGICALLY - so that's why nice guy who put women on Goddess pedestal (like i used to do), never succeed with women. But a short guy who is HUMBLE but not looking up to women, will succeed.

Anyway, you do this by being the best version of your self so YOU feel 100% confident and humble with your acheivements. When you feel 100% confident, women will feel comfortable and want to be around you. When you are still 100% confident around her, and not intimidated, the attraction grows.

Every girl "pretend" to be pious n conservative - because every girl have a reputation to protect (in every country lol not just SG) ... but if they sense you are a confident man, who knows how to pleasure her physically, and will not ruin her reputation, even the most standoffish SQ girl will spread her legs or ass cheeks for you, because she wants to be around your confidence.

Anyway bro, just be confident, have a life worth living and stay high energy whether girls are around you or not .. and let them come to you leh. GOOD LUCK, please reach out if I can provide more advice. Take care.

Bro, you not old enough to call yourself old uncle yet. You are only 41. I am turning 50 soon. hahaha.

But good advise. A bit brutal but you are honest.

[lotsfits80]

Some ideas:

1. Look for petite girls.

2. Look for overly tall girls. Yes it sounds ridiculous, but some of these girls are also facing the same issue like you, they find it hard to get a date because they are too tall.

3. Get a high quality sex doll. No, you're not creep/insane, it's just a PREMIUM masturbation tool. There's a lot of normal men who use sex dolls, some even incorporate sex doll in their marriage life and have 3P with their wife.

4. Don't put yourself down too much by what other people achieve. Everyone is different. Sometimes if you feel like your circle of friends is getting overwhelming, you may consider stepping away or out and find a healthier circle.