Falling in love someone outside of marriage.

[RealTalk]

Recently met a lady and she was so charming and it felt so overwhelming like my first love and my ex gf.

I never had such feeling with my wife as I met her shortly after breaking off my ex-gf. Why we got married in the first place as her mother was rushing her to get married and back then thinking we went through so much she might be the one, but the feeling honestly was never there.

So confused right now, a part of me telling me to be rational to move on such feelings, the other irrational part of me telling me to gamble.

Have anyone been through such process before?

[Rubbaking]

I hope it will not but since you already have such feeling at such early stage of your marriage, high chance this will keep haunting on you. Try not to have kids dude.

[oxeso]

Childless, go ahead.. arbo wait till they mature.

[TenSanYi]

I am childless and everyday thinking of divorce too. just dont know how to act on it

[MichaelGermany]

Part 1


I am also want to Tell my Story and dont want to Open a new headline

Actualy i am 40 years old a good looking and good smelling and very competent male nurse that is a German.


It's almost 14 years ago i found this Forum and meet a nice and positiv crazy 🥰 Woman ( let's call her Kelly(we was Friends talked over Skype i Seen her adult Kids ( Boy 14 and Girl i think 12) we understand good.


But i was in relationship with an another Woman ( let's call her Tina) that i want getting married with ( from the beginning it was a Bad Idea to do it but we are Young and stupid)


The Family of Tina dont was nice to me especialy her Mother was very Bad and Push me down from Out First meet it never was good


I talked to Kelly about to getting married and my Problems with her Family she told me. " Michael dont married her Take me please i would Love and comfort you and give you a good life"



I should listen but i don't


My Parents came from Germany we Had a small Party at raffles Hotel i guess and i rember the morning after getting married


I ve feel Like Superman a proud and lovely husband


Tina asked me


You don't have a Big presure now ?


I say No why


Because now we need to Work Harder to save more Money


I say No i feel Normal



After marriage i went to Germany worked AS a nurse and came Back to singapore to live with my wife



That time my German nurse diploma don't was Accepted means i must Work lower as a helper i decide to Work at daiso Store



I really Like it the Colleges was lovely and the customers sweet and gave me coments Like " you are the First foraigner do that Work" i was Happy and proud


I also Had an extra Job as an Mini jober at foodcourt i cleaned the Tables Bring food i learned a Bit Chinese and i feel Happy


Sometimes i worked 14h a day but it was OK for my Love i would do all.


This 3 months i stayed in the House with my Parents of my wife it was Horror 🥺


To make it short


We decide to getting divorved because it makes No sense been tougether


During that 2 years i dont Had contact with Kelly in any way

[MichaelGermany]

Part 2


After the divorved i Go Back to Germany i start Work again as a nurse and with Lück i found the number of Kelly and we was in contact


We talked and i told her my Story it was OK for her my Divorced my full Story she Accept it


I could be so Happy If i Would choose Kelly and her lovely Kids

But

I don't



I Meet a Woman in Germany we Had a relationship and hmm i think i told her clear WE need to Finish it

It was a Big hurt for her





Time is running water is flowing

Now i am 40 for 2 more weeks in singapore


I know her real Name i would try to find her

A) Go to her old workplace and ask If someone knows her give my number ( Michael from Germany) and If someone knows her did she Would call?


B) she told me that time she want to have own Business and there is a hairsalon with her Name i would Go Take a haircut and leave my number



If Godfather or someone Else exist that would be great

[MichaelGermany]

I have 11 days to try all to find her hot contact with her hmm If she don't want Just to explain and Strip down my full Heart and soul


Wish me luck