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[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by cozyfish

Went to this joint at mayo street previously, during massage there are no cover between bros but during the deed they will start to put up makeshift curtains and music in your 'room'. But the girls moaning can still be heard with the music on. Dmg 50 + 150

Lol so funny. Why you all don't use the money for chionging to go on dates instead? Just curious

[superstiffy]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

Why you adopted that kind of tone then? Besides, if there was nothing wrong to begin with in whatever I said why type the whole chunk in the first place?

young man.. dun be so sensitive.. the whole world not against you.. if you think everyone also want to say you then ur life will be difficult..

i retire liao.. so a lot of time to come here look see... a lot of time to talk also...

anyway talk what also useless la... i going for massage liao...

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by superstiffy

young man.. dun be so sensitive.. the whole world not against you.. if you think everyone also want to say you then ur life will be difficult..

i retire liao.. so a lot of time to come here look see... a lot of time to talk also...

anyway talk what also useless la... i going for massage liao...

You are just sidestepping what I said. Is not I sensitive, fact was you were saying me. Then when I clarified you quickly adopted a different tone from the tone you had initially. Anything more to explain?

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by superstiffy

young man.. dun be so sensitive.. the whole world not against you.. if you think everyone also want to say you then ur life will be difficult..

i retire liao.. so a lot of time to come here look see... a lot of time to talk also...

anyway talk what also useless la... i going for massage liao...

Life doesn't work that way bro, anything more to explain?

[piichai]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

I am seeing a counsellor now, he tells me that it is possible to find a wife and buy a 4 room flat despite my circumstances now. Do you agree?

I think u got the sequence wrong. work on the relatiosnip and manage it before thinking abt the house

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by piichai

I think u got the sequence wrong. work on the relatiosnip and manage it before thinking abt the house

It is not about the sequence. I was asking is it possible to still get a wife and a house at age 34 with no savings now?

[bonkbong]

Hi Bro ssd3469,

Been reading your posts on this thread and just wanted to share my tots:

1. The seniors here are nice to share, no trolls or anything.

2. Sorry to hear about your past tramas and glad to know you seeking help.

3. I think most important is to work on yourself first, to put the past behind, meet more people outside and build your confidences and network for social and work purposes. No. of IG followers are useless indicators of your actual social network and ppl who actually care about you.

4. Once you can be happy with yourself then you can find a gal to share your happiness with. Almost no one wants to share a relationship with someone depressing but if you do, we are happy for you too.

5. If you want a short answer to your question, the answer is No.

U need minimum 20% cpf plus cash to buy hdb. If you don't have enough for decent meals and dates, hard to socialize and get a gf, much less a wife unless you can find someone to endure hardship with you. Rare but not impossible.

[totoman]

Originally Posted by cozyfish

Went to this joint at mayo street previously, during massage there are no cover between bros but during the deed they will start to put up makeshift curtains and music in your 'room'. But the girls moaning can still be heard with the music on. Dmg 50 + 150

Think i know where u r referring . Is Nana still there ?

[danilov]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

It is not about the sequence. I was asking is it possible to still get a wife and a house at age 34 with no savings now?

Think your priority now is to get a job, not temp or gig type but those with a career path.

Now with skill future there are many companies searching for trainees but mainly technical fields.

Get a job to build your saving then only talk about wife or gf. Take care of yourself first.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by danilov

Think your priority now is to get a job, not temp or gig type but those with a career path.

Now with skill future there are many companies searching for trainees but mainly technical fields.

Get a job to build your saving then only talk about wife or gf. Take care of yourself first.

I know about paragraph 1 and paragraph 3 even before you tell me, plus it is a very obvious answer that doesn't really need to be said, I am not saying you are saying unnecessary stuff, I am just saying these are very obvious answers. I am unable to get a perm job because my resume is bad. Thank you and hope to hear further replies or advices. But at least I hope people can understand what I mean when I say I was left with no choice but to visit ML and prostitutes. The only other choice is reincarnation.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by bonkbong

Hi Bro ssd3469,

Been reading your posts on this thread and just wanted to share my tots:

1. The seniors here are nice to share, no trolls or anything.

2. Sorry to hear about your past tramas and glad to know you seeking help.

3. I think most important is to work on yourself first, to put the past behind, meet more people outside and build your confidences and network for social and work purposes. No. of IG followers are useless indicators of your actual social network and ppl who actually care about you.

4. Once you can be happy with yourself then you can find a gal to share your happiness with. Almost no one wants to share a relationship with someone depressing but if you do, we are happy for you too.

5. If you want a short answer to your question, the answer is No.

U need minimum 20% cpf plus cash to buy hdb. If you don't have enough for decent meals and dates, hard to socialize and get a gf, much less a wife unless you can find someone to endure hardship with you. Rare but not impossible.

Ty for your reply:

1. I wasn't saying he was a troll, I was saying he shouldn't have said those stuff and then quickly backtracked.

3. If you watch dating tutorials on YouTube by Austin Dunham and fitxfearless they recommend that IG is important because it sells you to others. It is already 2024, if it was 2004 or 1994 one can still say social media is not important. How old are you btw? Because old people may not be used to social media.

5. The solution my counsellor suggested was that the woman pay the down payment first and from there onwards all the instalments I pay. Is it feasible now in your opinion?

Btw next time please quote one of my posts otherwise I won't be notified if you wanted to tell me something. Like just now I totally didn't know you posted your post.

I don't believe in the saying that your gf will come eventually, it is just not your time, because I have been hearing this since I was 21

I also don't believe in the saying that KFC founder only invented KFC at age 60, because I can't possibly keep my virginity or go without sex until age 60?? Would like to hear your inputs on these 2 points as well.

[ssd3469]

Originally Posted by ihavenonick

You should work on your traumas and upskill yourself.

I don't know your circumstance too well but I have been in bullying situations too since young. Be more resilient and make it your goal to show those that bullied you back then that you are better than them. At least that's what I told myself and serves as a form of comfort.

I'm not proud of myself visiting ML/Escorts either and I'm trying to curb myself from doing so. Set a goal, like for my case I am aiming to buy my own condo if I can't find any suitable partner within the next 2-3 years. Want to buy condo equates to needing money, so I would need to chiong less.

On a side note, locanto is a bad site full of scams, thread with caution.

May I know what do you work as? Because I want to know what job that can afford to buy a condo.

[bonkbong]

Originally Posted by ssd3469

Ty for your reply:

1. I wasn't saying he was a troll, I was saying he shouldn't have said those stuff and then quickly backtracked.

3. If you watch dating tutorials on YouTube by Austin Dunham and fitxfearless they recommend that IG is important because it sells you to others. It is already 2024, if it was 2004 or 1994 one can still say social media is not important. How old are you btw? Because old people may not be used to social media.

5. The solution my counsellor suggested was that the woman pay the down payment first and from there onwards all the instalments I pay. Is it feasible now in your opinion?

Btw next time please quote one of my posts otherwise I won't be notified if you wanted to tell me something. Like just now I totally didn't know you posted your post.

I don't believe in the saying that your gf will come eventually, it is just not your time, because I have been hearing this since I was 21

I also don't believe in the saying that KFC founder only invented KFC at age 60, because I can't possibly keep my virginity or go without sex until age 60?? Would like to hear your inputs on these 2 points as well.

[QUOTE=ssd3469;23888186]Ty for your reply:



3. Those youtube content you watching are not meant for you unless the gals you are targeting are teenagers or bimbos. If these are the gals you looking for, please continue to listen to them and skip our advice here. You are 34 years old and have O levels so I would suggest you work on your book smart or street smart as soon as possible.

That said, even if you want more IG followers, how are you going to get them if you are neither rich or outgoing? If you are rich and outgoing, you wouldn't have issue getting gf in the first place. It's a chicken and egg issue.


5. The fact that you are on this forum asking us how to find a gf, I would think you are definitely nowhere near having a gf as yet, so don't waste your time thinking of such scenarios. Even if you have a gf now, it would take a lot for the gal to pay first and expect you to step up. No pride eating soft rice anyways.

You are right abt the 2 statements which you shared. Those are words of encouragement to console you.

The hard truth is you need to work on yourself, to be a better version of yourself everyday.

Between Love and Bread, bread would almost always come first. Even if you have ntg now, you need to prove to the girl you have some sort of potential before she wants to committe to you.

You also need to work on your social skills as it seems to be lacking based on your replies to the other bros here.

You need real friends to show that you are likeable and so that ppl willing to intro girls to you.

That said, no harm visiting ML or hookers to lose your virginity or to destress until you can find a gf.

[superstraightsg]

Yo
Just my two cents worth - Apologies in advance first cos I am going to be very blunt.

The saying that "your gf will come eventually, it is just not your time" will not work if we are just going to sit there lepak until the gf magically pops into existence before us. The saying, as I see it, is meant to tell us that we shouldn't obsess over the pursuit/acquisition of a soulmate when there are a lot of other things we can do to improve our lives as a whole. Like building our self esteem, getting out of whatever funk that we are in, putting in place the foundation blocks that we can build our future upon.

I will go as far as to say that I feel that your priorities are quite warped, and that if you don't find intrinsic motivation to push yourself forwards then there is not much that any of us here can help you with.

As a person working in digital marketing, I will tell you straight up to stay away from social media. A lot of it is MeiTuXiuXiu in the sense that people glam up whatever they post online in order to appear more successful, when they actually aren't. Very easy to fall into consumption and confidence traps when you stay on it for too long.

Marketing yourself is not inherently wrong, but it is not what you should be focusing on right now. No matter how new and shiny a $2 note is, it will never have as much value and appeal as a crumpled up $50 note.

You mentioned in one of your replies that you are unable to get a perm job because your resume is bad. Try and find sometime to go do volunteer work. Explore the gig economy. Focus solely on building a resume for the next two years, if you don't mind the rejection, mass apply for perm jobs every six months. The first parts improves your connections, credibiility, consistency. Treat the mass application for perm jobs as scouting. Try to land as many interviews as you can - observe the kind of questions that the companies ask so that you know where you can plot next.