FB? FwB? NSA? Sex Partner?

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by smartke

somethin to share...

a fren once told me abt 5 languages of Love: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Gifts, Act of services & Physical touch. (not sure if i rem all of them correctly..)

anyway, my point is... has anyone (guys & gers) applied all the above in their r/ship, b it FwB, BGR or marriage?

jus a thot...

Words of affection: i love u, i miss u... The usual stuff.. Sometimes this words of affection could come in a form of just a nice 'good morning, had a good rest?' kind of thing..

Quality time:
Going for a nice lunch/dinner. Movie. A walk. Basically time spent as a cpl being in a world of ur own. without the kids(if applicable)

Gifts:
the wonderful children (if applicable). the wonderful time together. Ur partner pack/cook some yummy food home or wherever for u. Not as a duty. But just cause he feels like doing so. Seeing u enjoying it.

Act of services:
hmm. this point can be tricky. Cause to me service is more like a need to do than a want to do. (sorry if i interpret wrongly). If it is a want to do for the other party. it will be those little little things tt can put a smile on ur face.

Physical touch:
the loving making. hugs n kisses every now n then (which is often forgotten after marriage). loving touches which makes a person feel so loved..

At some point of a relationship. All the above 5 would have been applied for the lucky ones. Unlucky ones would be glad to at least have point 1 or point 5 (for marriage).

But as time goes esp in marriage.. There is a possibily it will become:

Words of affection:
Oei! Eat already?

Quality time:
Sleeping on the bed (if still sharing). If not then at least sleeping in the same room. Tt will be the longest time spent together already.

Gifts:
Be happy if he even bother to give u a piece of tissue..

Act of services:
Nothing. Just doing for own self.

Physical touch:
Many guys here have already said. None. or dick stand, inset, cum, zzzZzZz...

Which 5 i prefer? definately all. i'm greedy.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by zacarie

Which 5 i prefer? definately all. i'm greedy.

lolx...

hmm... wonder y i got the feelin tat u will say ALL b4 u posted...
anyway, i'm also pretty sure u r not the only ger who wants ALL!

but, if u can only choose 1 (or maybe 2), which one will it be? or put it another way... how wld u rank 5 of them, in term of priority?
believe it will not be an easy choice, unless u clearly know wat u want...

[1stTR]

Originally Posted by zacarie

Words of affection: i love u, i miss u... The usual stuff.. Sometimes this words of affection could come in a form of just a nice 'good morning, had a good rest?' kind of thing..

Quality time:
Going for a nice lunch/dinner. Movie. A walk. Basically time spent as a cpl being in a world of ur own. without the kids(if applicable)

Gifts:
the wonderful children (if applicable). the wonderful time together. Ur partner pack/cook some yummy food home or wherever for u. Not as a duty. But just cause he feels like doing so. Seeing u enjoying it.

Act of services:
hmm. this point can be tricky. Cause to me service is more like a need to do than a want to do. (sorry if i interpret wrongly). If it is a want to do for the other party. it will be those little little things tt can put a smile on ur face.

Physical touch:
the loving making. hugs n kisses every now n then (which is often forgotten after marriage). loving touches which makes a person feel so loved..

At some point of a relationship. All the above 5 would have been applied for the lucky ones. Unlucky ones would be glad to at least have point 1 or point 5 (for marriage).

But as time goes esp in marriage.. There is a possibily it will become:

Words of affection:
Oei! Eat already?

Quality time:
Sleeping on the bed (if still sharing). If not then at least sleeping in the same room. Tt will be the longest time spent together already.

Gifts:
Be happy if he even bother to give u a piece of tissue..

Act of services:
Nothing. Just doing for own self.

Physical touch:
Many guys here have already said. None. or dick stand, inset, cum, zzzZzZz...

Which 5 i prefer? definately all. i'm greedy.

lol ... interesting presentation. i like tat.

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by smartke

lolx...

hmm... wonder y i got the feelin tat u will say ALL b4 u posted...
anyway, i'm also pretty sure u r not the only ger who wants ALL!

but, if u can only choose 1 (or maybe 2), which one will it be? or put it another way... how wld u rank 5 of them, in term of priority?
believe it will not be an easy choice, unless u clearly know wat u want...

who wouldnt want all 5?

1: Quality time and Physical touch (pls allow me to put 2 )
If i can choose.. quality time and physical touch. And i think this 2 comes together. When u have quality time together tt is when u have physical touch. even if it is just a 1 min hug. that goes a long way to bring u thru the day.. u know they truly love/like/want u when they are willing to give u their precious time. make time for u. spend time with u.

To me, when ur other half is proud of who u are/ love u the way u are.. u can sure tell by the way they touch u, hold u, carress u. it may not be sexually.. but just a loving way tt warms ur heart. they hold u and show u off in public. giving u lil kisses in public. who cares what others think. (i think i did mention in some thread tt my soon-to-be ex hubby doesnt do tt cause i think he is embaressed to be with me.) so this to me is very impt.

2: Act of services
Then comes the act of services. lil nice things tt make ur heart flutter when they do it. and thus bring a smile to ur face

3: Words of affection..
action speaks louder than words. I have also realised tt they can say all tt nice words to u and also to someone else while having u. so.. to me words are nothing. show it by ur actions..

4: Gifts..
Not needed when all the above are given which are the greatest gifts.. to me material stuff are not necessary.. Birthday, anniversary or any important occasion. a nice dinner date is good enough..

My ranking as above. and the reasons y so..

Some might say i'm fake w what i want and ask for. such simple things.
If u've been thru a relationship (marriage/bgr) where the some or all the above are lacking. u will be very sure w what exactly is it tt u want in ur future relationship. =)

[smartke]

Originally Posted by zacarie

who wouldnt want all 5?

1: Quality time and Physical touch (pls allow me to put 2)
If i can choose.. quality time and physical touch. And i think this 2 comes together. When u have quality time together tt is when u have physical touch. even if it is just a 1 min hug. that goes a long way to bring u thru the day.. u know they truly love/like/want u when they are willing to give u their precious time. make time for u. spend time with u.

To me, when ur other half is proud of who u are/ love u the way u are.. u can sure tell by the way they touch u, hold u, carress u. it may not be sexually.. but just a loving way tt warms ur heart. they hold u and show u off in public. giving u lil kisses in public. who cares what others think. (i think i did mention in some thread tt my soon-to-be ex hubby doesnt do tt cause i think he is embaressed to be with me.) so this to me is very impt.

2: Act of services
Then comes the act of services. lil nice things tt make ur heart flutter when they do it. and thus bring a smile to ur face.

3: Words of affection..
action speaks louder than words. I have also realised tt they can say all tt nice words to u and also to someone else while having u. so.. to me words are nothing. show it by ur actions..

4: Gifts..
Not needed when all the above are given which are the greatest gifts.. to me material stuff are not necessary.. Birthday, anniversary or any important occasion. a nice dinner date is good enough..

My ranking as above. and the reasons y so..

Some might say i'm fake w what i want and ask for. such simple things.
If u've been thru a relationship (marriage/bgr) where the some or all the above are lacking. u will be very sure w what exactly is it tt u want in ur future relationship. =)

I feel u, my dear sis... :-) and yes, quality time does go best wif physical touch... one way or the other. :-p

anyway, i truely believe wat u hv stated. aft wat u hv gone thru (based on wat u hv explained), indeed i can see u know clearly wat u wan & lookin forward in ur future r/ship. i share ur sentiment.

wats past, was in the past. its part & parcel of life. most imptly, one has to move on & look forward for other better things in life look at the bright side, u may meet someone tat u hv nvr dreamt of.

once again, i sincerely thk u for sharin.

well, i'm still lookin forward for others to share their views & experience on FB, FwB & NSA. or, probably i shld consider creatin another new thread lookin for FwB. muahahahaha...

[smartke]

well, tats all folks, i guess...

big thks to those who hv participated in providin their views & experience, & also xchging views on the topic. very much appreciated. its been nice chattin wif u all.

so, till we chat again... take care & bye for now...

[smartke]

Wishing all bros & ladies...

MERRY XMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Here's a song dedicated for everyone... Sit back, Relax & Enjoy!

[zuer]

Originally Posted by zacarie

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Which 5 i prefer? definately all. i'm greedy.

u r not greedy sis, and i can give u all the 5 hehehehe

Wish you and all the forumers here

MERRY XMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR!

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by smartke

wats past, was in the past. its part & parcel of life. most imptly, one has to move on & look forward for other better things in life look at the bright side, u may meet someone tat u hv nvr dreamt of.

Yep. it's past.. and am glad it's over

Thank you.. hopefully.. haha. can find the dream guy.. Wahahahahaha.. old and wrinkly and tired to bother finding lah. even if found.. They want old lady meh? Wahahaha. but anyway thanks for the well wishes..

Originally Posted by zuer

u r not greedy sis, and i can give u all the 5 hehehehe

Wish you and all the forumers here

MERRY XMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Haha. thanks but no thanks.

merry christmas to all too!!

[smartke]

Originally Posted by zacarie

Yep. it's past.. and am glad it's over

Thank you.. hopefully.. haha. can find the dream guy.. Wahahahahaha.. old and wrinkly and tired to bother finding lah. even if found.. They want old lady meh? Wahahaha. but anyway thanks for the well wishes..

there's a will, there's a way. look at the bright side & be positive. tell urself tat u deserved someone better. ur knight in shinnin armor will appear b4 u know it. hint: bro jasdude seems like a nice guy...

above all, u mus stay happy, always.

p/s: u really greedy ler... instead of HE, u used THEY.

Merry Xmas!

cheers...
poor ugly overweight ah pek ^_^

[zacarie]

Originally Posted by smartke

there's a will, there's a way. look at the bright side & be positive. tell urself tat u deserved someone better. ur knight in shinnin armor will appear b4 u know it. hint: bro jasdude seems like a nice guy...

above all, u mus stay happy, always.

p/s: u really greedy ler... instead of HE, u used THEY.

Merry Xmas!

cheers...
poor ugly overweight ah pek ^_^

Haha. Looking at the brightest side.

Bout jasdude... yea. nice guy. But long list lah.. i must wait till i really wrinkled still not my turn. hahaha..

Oops. hehe. got caught.. hahahaha. write wrongly lah..

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by zacarie

who wouldnt want all 5?

my 2 cents

Words of affection:
This is most important, because whatever you speak, becomes. fengshui, christian, taoist whatever you believe in, all believe that you call forth positive energy when you speak positive things into the relationship and the other person. start the day by saying "I am so blessed/lucky to have you in my life" or "you brighten my day". If she is trying to lose weight, say "darling, so wonderful you are getting slimmer compared to yesterday". If she is worried about sales say "today you will have a bumper crop harvest, darling". if he is worried about balding, you say. If you haven't seen the person for weeks, say "I miss you darling, why didn't you call" instead of "you bastard, why didn't you call" [for those of you reading, and saying/thinking abt what cannot tell lies etc, go be miserable yourself]

Quality time:
A quiet time together, talking, watching dvds, lazing in bed, talking about nothing, talking about dreams and fears.

Gifts:
Gift to some girls means items of high $ value but of no use. to me, gift is reflection of how much you understand your partner. Knowing when to give him what, when he needs he, before he needs it. my bag is torn, my girl give me a new leather bag. it doesn't need to be expensive, I just need to feel loved because thought was put into it. He might be a millionaire, but he is wearing a socks with 2 holes inside, his lawyers his accountants and shareholders is not going to notice. it is a great sadness if his love one does not observe too.

Act of services:
range from little things, like if I am sick, she makes me honey and not ask me go over her house to collect it. she comes over to my place or where I am convenient to pass it to me because I am geuinely sick. If I say my grandma died, she comes over even if I insists she don't come, and play mediator between my irritating relatives and me. if I fall asleep infront of the laptop, she off the laptop for me, without looking at my laptop and put a blanket over me. if I have a morning meeting, and we have a sleep over, she buys or make breakfast for me before I go for my meetings. all these adds a warmth to my heart, and makes a difference sometimes when the going gets tough.

Physical touch:
Physical touch doesn't always mean sex. It can be a hug after a long day of work. There is a reason why people hug each other in church. It can be a neck massage after a stressful day. it can be a non sexual backrub. it can be during a hot passionate fight, and she plants a kiss on his lips and calms him down and sex happens after that.

I am greedy too, I want all 5. a balance of different things at different time. that is what love is about. if I am feeling down, I need words saying [words - a love language] she is still with me and trust that everything will turn out well. she then holds my hands [physical touch - a love language], and she goes out and get for me an magnum gold [acts of service + gift - 2 in 1 love language] and we end up spending time together for the entire night [quality time - a love language].

Its supposed to be effortless, all 5 languages are spoken in one night. if you geunine in love with the person. The love languages is not meant to use it to hold a knife on your partner's throat..... "my love language is this, you aren't doing enough for me."

[Reoxy]

Thank god for commercial sex.

[SparkleDoll]

FB: to fuck nothing else
FwB: friends, benefit is sex

Before I met my husband, I had mostly FBs & FwBs due to a pretty big commitment phobia. So FB for sex which ladies need too and FwB for stuff like movies and activities. Unfortunately, emotions do often get in the way. I guess it's all pretty natural except when you have phobia to any commitments. It sucks when my partners start to get emotional cos I know I gotta cut them loose and find new ones. How troublesome right?

All this until I met my husband, fell in love and finally overcome tt phobia of mine. But as I've said in other threads, he has recently lost interest in sex due to fatigue from his biz. It tempts me to go back to my old ways but I've so far hung on to my vows.

For the language of love my list goes: physical touch, quality time, words of affections, acts of service then finally gifts. His ranking is pretty similar to mine with physical touch ranking high and hence my current frustration.

I believe in every sexual r/s as long as both parties know what to expect, nobody's got to get hurt when it ends.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by Reoxy

Thank god for commercial sex.

commercial sex has nothin to do wif god!
thk the MANkind instead.