Depressed girl

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

If I still go for her having declared this upfront, I will be classified as a twit or nuts for starting a r/s with an ex-whore.

Actually not true bro.
If she declares upfront, you know what she is or was.
Now, if anyone wants or hv an impression that ur a dimwit or watever, hey, it's their perception but remember, that is her secret n yours.
So assuming that she is a totally straight normal person now and have not showed any traits of a WL like we all know for so long, then what?
Has she not proven herself?
What's important is this i feel.
She proves that she's no more a whore to you beyond a benefit of a doubt.
Happiness is only between you 2 so dun let external factors affect you both.

Visualise this,
Scenario 1
She told ya upfront
You two walking hand in hand in public say married wif kids, then get separated, say she wanted to walk into another shop.....
Now u and your kids walk on and some men gather and start pointing at her and says she's a FL blah blah, u know it's past and you accepted it.......what will happen next?

Scenario 2
She never told ya
Everything being constant, what will happen next..........

I remember when i was in my 20s, i attended a wedding of one of my friends, at my table and next, i learnt that my friend married a thai and several of the guest invited to their wedding has shacked her before comparing notes on her svc level n price. The groom till today or last i had ctc wif him never knew this at all.
Now that's what i call a dimwit!

But if he knew and accepted, then who is to say he's a dimwit in the 1st place.

[zerocool2202]

if your bf dont want u then u pm me ^^ np for me

[bugmenot]

Originally Posted by CyberRod

Bro... Unintentionally you dug up my old wounds with this song man... But no worries... Good that you brought it up and I realised my wounds are healing... Slowly...

Bro, this song was my "healing" song back then.

[Thanks]

Hey, thanks k, how u know I like this song.

Love is simple I agree , but coming from a complicated girl , hope I don't taint this song.

Thanks!

[onlyhuman]

Eh pls come clean with ur bf tactfully and truthfully...cos it will not only helps u to make a decision, it will also take away the heavy stone in you...i dont know what love is or how it feels like but wat ever the outcome is pls don't brood over it for too long...cos life is too cruel and short for regrets...

[mrsg]

Originally Posted by Thanks

Hi...

I'm posting this thread hoping to seek advice.

This is something I cannot share with anyone , Not even my bf or best fren.

Few yrs ago, I was a FL. (and none of my friends know )

During my 1yr term as a FL, i allowed a guy to take pic of me doing BJ.

I have already left the FL line... Today I have a nice bf and I do not wish to cross paths with the people I knew when I was a FL.

But never did I imagine The guy who took my pics manage to track my new HP number. I really do not wish to meet him as I do Not wish to remember my past.

I think I upset him ? Today he is posting my pics online....

And worst thing is my bf's fren saw my pics , download it, and verify with me..

He promise not to tell my bf . Can I trust him ? I really want to tell my bf, but I think he will be even more depressed, and I may lose him..

I am really having the worst luck now.

So depressed I can hardly eat. It's like a time bomb.

Let him knows. If he truly love you. he will accepts you. Never force something that is not yours. I in love with a mainland Ch WL and I do not care. She likes me I think but she told me we are 2 different world. It is good in the end but at least she has me in her heart and me 2.

Hope things turn up well for you. Nvr give in to blackmail. You are lucky tat you are in Sg. The law show no mercy for such evil men....

[lglg666]

Originally Posted by Thanks

Hey, thanks k, how u know I like this song.

Love is simple I agree , but coming from a complicated girl , hope I don't taint this song.

Thanks!

Give yourself a break.....you have come a long way

[hickeybites]

Dear sis Thanks,
I cannot presume to understand your situation & your feelings but my sympathies with you... it's horrible to live day by day with that feeling of a guillotine over your head.
As I follow your thread & read the other bros/sis comments, my take is this: To perhaps separate, if you can, the "emotional" and the "practical" aspects of what's haunting you.

Emotional:
What's done is done... and as said no one can claim to be saints who have done no wrong. Life deals us all sorts of situations... how we choose to face them is our own will.
You made a choice that you regretted in the past -- time to let it go. As the saying goes: it's Mind over (pr versus) Matter.
People who matter (to you, love you, support you) would not mind; and people who mind shouldn't matter. You know your bf best... who knows... BUT this leads to to my second point.

The Practicals:
- Realistically assess your "risks" of your past coming back to haunt you. I believe (perhaps I'm naive to do so) that most men/ bros here do NOT harbour the evil intention of blackmailing & threatening the ladies whom they've patronized before. Those that do are fucktards (word courtesy of a buddy) ~ hopefully those are few & far in between.
Just asking you to objectively view the chances of another fucktard coming along...

- Moreover, at times we hear or read of someone commenting or revealing that so-&-so or this celebrity or this blogger was/is an FL.
Sure - we may register this info... but ultimately do most people care in our busy daily lives? Also our looks & appearances do change...

- Say if you do reveal to your bf your past and unfortunately he decides that he's unable to accept it. Are you then going to repeat this cycle again in your next relationshp
~ the worry-reveal or not to reveal-partner's decision. Come to terms & peace within yourself.
If the chances & risks are low, then I may suggest to keep it to yourself. Everyone deals with the "truth" differently... some would say honesty is the best policy.
You know your bf best... by being honest, are you simply just alleviating your own guilt? Or by being honest, do you believe that it would help him & help yourself?
At times, ignorance may be bliss. Ultimately it's your decision & you can perhaps assess your bf's possible reactions...

- Unless you plan on migrating & starting overseas anew, I would say to just accept & forgive yourself.
NO ONE has the right to judge you... only yourself & the Maker above (depending on your religious faith).

I belong to the camp that believes that （爱）沒那麼簡單 (btw, you're not complicated.. you're just human like the rest of us).
Contrary to the rather somber title, it's a song that has some comfort & inspiration (esp the words that I've added below)...


... 感觉快乐就忙东忙西
感觉累了就放空自己
别人说的话 随便听一听 自己做决定
不想拥有太多情绪
一杯红酒配电影
在周末晚上 关上了手机 舒服窝在沙发里 ...


Take care

[malcolm81]

Dun be depressed. As a saying goes, honesty is the best policy. If the guy cant accept u after your confession for having such a past, u r better off without him.

No one can judge with u did in the past. I believe u have turned over a new leaf. Look into the future.

It because every1 deserves a 2nd chance. N u can find a guy who is open and love u wholeheartedly.

[Shadow_warrior]

Its a tough position to be in for both parties

Trust me, I know. I am dating an ex WL.

I found out later that when I started dating her she was still a WL, when we got serious she left.

So I asked myself, why didnt you tell me in the beginning? I could decide whether to accept or leave. It really tormented me for a long time, and I mean night mares

Whats worse is she revealed it in stages, at first I asked her what she did, she said facials and massage. Later she said she only did blow jobs and hj, never taking off, touch outside only. Later she admitted to bj, hj, naked.

Finally she admitted to doing the full service- to ang mos even, and she scream so much her WLs sisters had to ask her to shut up. She claim she scream alot so the guy can finish up. Another time, because ang mo was too big for her hole- hers is very tight, still is.

What is ironical is even though I hate to know the details, I want to ask, I want to know everything.

Its really affected our relationship, and I have never looked at her the same again. I also freak out on the day she is recognised by her ex "lovers"

[newyorker88]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Its a tough position to be in for both parties

Trust me, I know. I am dating an ex WL.


Its really affected our relationship, and I have never looked at her the same again.

You love her for who she is, not what she did in the past. She did that for a living to support herself or to tide thru problems.

If some clients happen to bump into both of you, you can proudly says she never cheated or steal for a living. there is nothing wrong with doing such a job.

To make it short, you love her for who she is, not about your ego on what is her former job. There are many others who slept with other men and sponge on the guys, arent they the same?

Just my 2 cents

[qw023]

I hope you can forget your past, don't dwell so much into it.

As for whether to tell your bf or not you must think hard.

We, bros here can only comment/advise that much.

Hurt feelings some bros here may or may not understand.

Different situations varies. First you must be prepared to

let go this relationship should you tell your bf about this

than only you move on whether to tell or not else you will

hurt yourself more if situation turns sour. Advise can only be advise,

you must be firm when you have made your final decision.

Lastly if one day you disclose this to your bf, i really hope he will

accept it and love/cherish you more.

[jonwk711]

Sister,

First of all... Forgive yourself. For whatever reason that you were a fl, you must have your own difficulties. Now that you have moved on in your life, then continue to move forward. Do not let burdens of the past weigh you down from walking into the future.

We all have our past, we have a right to our privacy. Let it go, and move forward.

Remember we are only humans, our path are sometimes chosen for us. We merely deal with it the best we can.

[lglg666]

Originally Posted by jonwk711

Sister,

First of all... Forgive yourself. For whatever reason that you were a fl, you must have your own difficulties. Now that you have moved on in your life, then continue to move forward. Do not let burdens of the past weigh you down from walking into the future.

We all have our past, we have a right to our privacy. Let it go, and move forward.

Remember we are only humans, our path are sometimes chosen for us. We merely deal with it the best we can.

Good advice....

[lglg666]

Wah....quiet now, no news is good news? Hopefully so