Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

hahha, young man have his own dreams. Before marriage, want to quickly get married, thinking it will be all love and sex. After marriage, reality kicks in, not enough money leads to arguments .... no sex, then still look for WL. After sometime, want to divorce.

these are harsh reality of life...young man dun bother to think...thinking somebody owe him a living...

btw, he could have been my son and i could have slapped him hard to wake up...

[jklpoi]

Originally Posted by zion1989

hmm NS lor, Will be working on nov expected salary is 2k lar. She will get a proper job. She also don't intend to leech on mer.

What kind of proper job she can get? Ns full time can get 2k up, but let me do a little analysis. Burn me if I am wrong.

First u no hse and have very little cpf. If parents rich, different story.
So just start wrking full time and wan marry. Ok....thinking NT bad....
marry NT 100% get ltsvp so even if u have the cash, might even be getting a resale flat in 1 year or even longer.
She dont wan leech so she wan work. Rabbit blind also know what can she work as in here unless yr parents habe own buisness...but technically still the same, taking yr own money to give her salary.
So lets say she working as wl, which I dont find it non acceptable as long as got limits, how do u explain to yr parents why every night she goes out and come back so late?
Then u also need worry her and stay up late to wait for her and affect yr day job...

Think abt it.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

What kind of proper job she can get? Ns full time can get 2k up, but let me do a little analysis. Burn me if I am wrong.

First u no hse and have very little cpf. If parents rich, different story.
So just start wrking full time and wan marry. Ok....thinking NT bad....
marry NT 100% get ltsvp so even if u have the cash, might even be getting a resale flat in 1 year or even longer.
She dont wan leech so she wan work. Rabbit blind also know what can she work as in here unless yr parents habe own buisness...but technically still the same, taking yr own money to give her salary.
So lets say she working as wl, which I dont find it non acceptable as long as got limits, how do u explain to yr parents why every night she goes out and come back so late?
Then u also need worry her and stay up late to wait for her and affect yr day job...

Think abt it.

good analysis...still got plenty more to add ma...who wants to add more...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

these are harsh reality of life...young man dun bother to think...thinking somebody owe him a living...

btw, he could have been my son and i could have slapped him hard to wake up...

The problem is a lot of parents nowadays are slaves to their grown up children. A young man who can think like that most probably comes from a middle income family and he believes that his parents can help him in many ways more than one. Just like a chap that i know. Marry a viet wife, cannot afford to feed her, still ask her to give birth to 2 kids. His children's diapers, milk and other expenses are all paid for by his parents. He and his family also stay with parents and live off them. He doesn't pay for anything in the household, all paid for by his parents. My wife asked his wife why still stay with his husband's parents since she doesn't like them, she said `why move out when everything is free?' I pity the parents.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

haha...you meant he dun consider earning power before marriage...already told him apply LTSVP, PR, etc will be difficult if dun have enough CPF...

Lagi best, he wants to stay half month in Vn as posted by him...so the couple plan to live on love and air alone...dun need to work...

Dun need to eat too. Feed on love n air. Even vn food are cheap but still need $$ to buy.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by zion1989

4 months but that the plan only will execute next year

She been here a week, other than walking and food is e issues. The rest is ok so far, allow her to adapt at e moment.

Dun u think 1yr is a bit short to know and understand a person?

If she dun like walking there is public transport. Take public transport (exclude taxis) to save on $$.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Dun u think 1yr is a bit short to know and understand a person?

If she dun like walking there is public transport. Take public transport (exclude taxis) to save on $$.

I think what he means is the gal doesn't like to take public transport. I think he gone case liao. He has to go do his maths to see if he can afford the most simple CAT A COE first.

[SingViet]

I like to encourage youngsters to venture out, but not to youngsters who overestimate themselves and is ignorant about the harsh realities of life.

[jklpoi]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I like to encourage youngsters to venture out, but not to youngsters who overestimate themselves and is ignorant about the harsh realities of life.

Yeah true, just maybe 1 mth ago, I also thinking the same thing, marry marry love love, yhought very simple, but now enlighten. Lucky is we really love each other, so love do play a part in staying together after marry. One more lucky thing is also I have car have hse, and have a quite high paying job.

Only after marry do all the real problem come out. you will find out that the money u think u can save on NT going cheong after marry is not enough to maintain a married life.

Last time cheong finish every month have money left. Marry think no more cheong or cut down means can save money, who knows after marry, no cheong, lagi worst, every month no money....salary come in right pocket, go out left pocket.

Zion, I only 3 yrs older than u. I made what I think is the best choice in my life when I marry my bx...
Now think back, why cant I make the best choice of my life much more later...

[V|ernar]

why bother to take someone problem into yours ?

let him do it and he will learn from his mistake , human need to fall many times in order to learn the rope .

simple issue isnt it ? when both parties really in love , Drink Plain water eat loti also ok .

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by zion1989

KTV



hmm NS lor, Will be working on nov expected salary is 2k lar. She will get a proper job. She also don't intend to leech on me

Good luck to u, u need a lot of "lucks"

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

What kind of proper job she can get? Ns full time can get 2k up, but let me do a little analysis. Burn me if I am wrong.

First u no hse and have very little cpf. If parents rich, different story.
So just start wrking full time and wan marry. Ok....thinking NT bad....
marry NT 100% get ltsvp so even if u have the cash, might even be getting a resale flat in 1 year or even longer.
She dont wan leech so she wan work. Rabbit blind also know what can she work as in here unless yr parents habe own buisness...but technically still the same, taking yr own money to give her salary.
So lets say she working as wl, which I dont find it non acceptable as long as got limits, how do u explain to yr parents why every night she goes out and come back so late?
Then u also need worry her and stay up late to wait for her and affect yr day job...

Think abt it.

I do agree some of the things u share .
BUT ... Dun look down on them their wife ...

U think their wife can only works as WL ? Before knowing him she can be a WL ... But then after marry with proper VP, she can has many choices of proper job.

Last but not least, dun look down on others. U got no right to do do .. like I comment on your previous posting ... U are suppose to share your experiences n make him learn what's right n wats wrong ... Not looking down. On him or his gf

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

What kind of proper job she can get?
She dont wan leech so she wan work. Rabbit blind also know what can she work as in here unless yr parents habe own buisness...

So lets say she working as wl, which I dont find it non acceptable as long as got limits...

Think abt it.

Working as WL is NOT THE ONLY job they can work here.
And not everyone like u can take his wife go sell.

[Honey Boon]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

got loop hole or not, i don't know...
when i visit ICA, i always ask for interview. after few interviews, i try to think (with a guidance of a SBF bro on how to deal with ICA)... in fact the officer will talk talk and hint hint abit.
just need to understand and provide what they needed.


about applying to give birth is another set of documentation. according to ICA officer, it cannot be used in my case.


but having a baby is a plus point to get a longer stay in sillypore. i have all bullet ready for another shot

Just fire .... you have our moral supoprt

[Honey Boon]

Originally Posted by SingViet

hahha, young man have his own dreams. Before marriage, want to quickly get married, thinking it will be all love and sex. After marriage, reality kicks in, not enough money leads to arguments .... no sex, then still look for WL. After sometime, want to divorce.

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

these are harsh reality of life...young man dun bother to think...thinking somebody owe him a living...

btw, he could have been my son and i could have slapped him hard to wake up...

we were young once before ... how we wish we have those seniors to give us valuable advices when we were young