Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Peacock29]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

enjoy while you can bro... when bx is here, its really a different ball game.

Originally Posted by jackbl

U shd org one gathering for them, gathering of OX while BX is not around

Tonight la, my pass expired tonight! BX coming back tmr morning!

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by jackbl

U shd org one gathering for them, gathering of OX while BX is not around

my bx always around... how can i organise?

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

my bx always around... how can i organise?

Your Time management is the Best.

[saintsrsaf]

Hi bros,

Today I just want to share a story on my 3 years of marriage with a Vietnamese.

My wife and I had been married since 2009, now the red light have surfaced on our marriage and I'm proceeding with divorce soon.

We have 2 children together, after she gave birth to each child, she will ask her mother to Singapore during her confinement and also to take care of the new born. I will paid for all the expense during my mother in law stay in Singapore and when she goes back, I will give her some money. My wife obtained her Long Term Visit Pass PLUS a few months back and is now working in a restaurant. I suggested to my mother in law to stay in Singapore for a long period and not go back to Vietnam with my child every 2 months as I'll try to apply a Long Term Visit Pass for her. She rejected the idea as she says she got family in Vietnam.

I decided to employ a maid to look after my youngest child as I don't want my child to keep going to and back Singapore. Few more months later I intend to let my youngest child attend to childcare, don't tell me the child have to come and go back to Vietnam every 2 months? The mother in law keep brain wash my wife and now my wife don't even treat us as a family.

My wife tell me, in Singapore she's alone, her family is all in Vietnam.
Recently my company closed down and I'm unemployed, currently using my credit line to pay off all expenses of my family, I told my wife, since she is working now, can she pay for her own food and shopping items. She got angry and say nevermind no money don't go out then, you can go out yourself.

Please note that my eldest child is 3 years old and youngest 1 year old, she had never paid for anything for the children, she don't even look after them, very dependent on her mother to take care of the children.

Now she tell me to let her have the youngest child back to Vietnam with her and I can have the older child after divorce. I was like..... if I were to let her have the custody of my child, what will my child become in the future??? Her nephew wanted a laptop, her parents can't even afford, thinking I'll buy for him. She say she can work and support the child, but she can't even support her mother, what make her thinks she can give the child a bright future?

To me, my wife doesn't care about anything, she only want to be happy herself. Doesn't matter the child grew up with good future or not, she just want the child. To me is very selfish. We give life and is our responsibility to give them our best in life.

Actually my story is a long one but I don't know how to type. Sigh.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by saintsrsaf

Hi bros,

Today I just want to share a story on my 3 years of marriage with a Vietnamese.

My wife and I had been married since 2009, now the red light have surfaced on our marriage and I'm proceeding with divorce soon.

We have 2 children together, after she gave birth to each child, she will ask her mother to Singapore during her confinement and also to take care of the new born. I will paid for all the expense during my mother in law stay in Singapore and when she goes back, I will give her some money. My wife obtained her Long Term Visit Pass PLUS a few months back and is now working in a restaurant. I suggested to my mother in law to stay in Singapore for a long period and not go back to Vietnam with my child every 2 months as I'll try to apply a Long Term Visit Pass for her. She rejected the idea as she says she got family in Vietnam.

I decided to employ a maid to look after my youngest child as I don't want my child to keep going to and back Singapore. Few more months later I intend to let my youngest child attend to childcare, don't tell me the child have to come and go back to Vietnam every 2 months? The mother in law keep brain wash my wife and now my wife don't even treat us as a family.

My wife tell me, in Singapore she's alone, her family is all in Vietnam.
Recently my company closed down and I'm unemployed, currently using my credit line to pay off all expenses of my family, I told my wife, since she is working now, can she pay for her own food and shopping items. She got angry and say nevermind no money don't go out then, you can go out yourself.

Please note that my eldest child is 3 years old and youngest 1 year old, she had never paid for anything for the children, she don't even look after them, very dependent on her mother to take care of the children.

Now she tell me to let her have the youngest child back to Vietnam with her and I can have the older child after divorce. I was like..... if I were to let her have the custody of my child, what will my child become in the future??? Her nephew wanted a laptop, her parents can't even afford, thinking I'll buy for him. She say she can work and support the child, but she can't even support her mother, what make her thinks she can give the child a bright future?

To me, my wife doesn't care about anything, she only want to be happy herself. Doesn't matter the child grew up with good future or not, she just want the child. To me is very selfish. We give life and is our responsibility to give them our best in life.

Actually my story is a long one but I don't know how to type. Sigh.

Majority of them do not know what is RESPONSIBILITY and even if they know, they do not want to practise it. To the normal gal from VN province, marrying to Singapore man is good as Singaporean man are well known to treat viet spouses well. They can also do whatever they want and the Singaporean husband will allow. To be true, i have also seen educated and middle income vietnamese ladies who lacks responsibilties too. Taking care of children is not their problem, they are only interested in THEMSELVES. They are very much concerned about their family members back home, who are lazy and greedy. Of course not all viets are like that, but i should say majority are.

I always dread my wife's family members coming over and till to date, i have only allowed my wife's elder sister to come help me twice. This is due to me changing maid and i need to wait for around 1 month for the new maid to arrive. No matter how much i say i will pay her sister, before going back, my SIL sure wants this and that and the amount is many times what i have promised to pay her. During her stay here, she will also gossip and try to influence my wife's thinking. Everytime when she comes, my wife will `change' . All the bad habits will start to resurface again. Our viet spouses needs lots of education and communication. My wife has changed a lot but sometimes, some of her old ways will still surface. But one thing which i have realised, they only like GOOD times and not many viet spouse can go thru bad times with the foreigner husband. Anytime when its bad, they will start thinking of hooking up with vietkieus or others. Bro, if you allow one of your child's custody to go to yr wife, i don't think she will be able to give yr child good education and neither will yr bx be responsible enough to see that yr child gets educated. Yr child will turn out to be a money making tool for yr bx when he/she grows up. If i am not wrong, the child she wants is a GIRL?

[saintsrsaf]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Majority of them do not know what is RESPONSIBILITY and even if they know, they do not want to practise it. To the normal gal from VN province, marrying to Singapore man is good as Singaporean man are well known to treat viet spouses well. They can also do whatever they want and the Singaporean husband will allow. To be true, i have also seen educated and middle income vietnamese ladies who lacks responsibilties too. Taking care of children is not their problem, they are only interested in THEMSELVES. They are very much concerned about their family members back home, who are lazy and greedy. Of course not all viets are like that, but i should say majority are.

I always dread my wife's family members coming over and till to date, i have only allowed my wife's elder sister to come help me twice. This is due to me changing maid and i need to wait for around 1 month for the new maid to arrive. No matter how much i say i will pay her sister, before going back, my SIL sure wants this and that and the amount is many times what i have promised to pay her. During her stay here, she will also gossip and try to influence my wife's thinking. Everytime when she comes, my wife will `change' . All the bad habits will start to resurface again. Our viet spouses needs lots of education and communication. My wife has changed a lot but sometimes, some of her old ways will still surface. But one thing which i have realised, they only like GOOD times and not many viet spouse can go thru bad times with the foreigner husband. Anytime when its bad, they will start thinking of hooking up with vietkieus or others. Bro, if you allow one of your child's custody to go to yr wife, i don't think she will be able to give yr child good education and neither will yr bx be responsible enough to see that yr child gets educated. Yr child will turn out to be a money making tool for yr bx when he/she grows up. If i am not wrong, the child she wants is a GIRL?

Yes Bro a baby girl. She say I can have the boy.

She used to say girl are more obedient to the mother, boy doesn't listen.

After she hear her friend told her a story about one vn wife in SG threaten to die with the baby if the husband doesn't give up the custody and end up the husband give in. Now she use that to threaten me haha. Well... if she wanna kana hang go ahead.

Anyway both my child are red passport.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by saintsrsaf

Yes Bro a baby girl. She say I can have the boy.

She used to say girl are more obedient to the mother, boy doesn't listen.

After she hear her friend told her a story about one vn wife in SG threaten to die with the baby if the husband doesn't give up the custody and end up the husband give in. Now she use that to threaten me haha. Well... if she wanna kana hang go ahead.

Anyway both my child are red passport.

I think you should know why they like baby gals...... i shall not elaborate too much on this. The parents will be able to profit more from gals.

[desviper00]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I think you should know why they like baby gals...... i shall not elaborate too much on this. The parents will be able to profit more from gals.

Sad..... but true.....

[saintsrsaf]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I think you should know why they like baby gals...... i shall not elaborate too much on this. The parents will be able to profit more from gals.

Sometimes don't know want to angry or sad of their ignorance. We as parents always want our children to be the best they can be. But they want their children to be their slave and never be able to look up.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

If i am not wrong, the child she wants is a GIRL?

spot on bro...I knew the answer before he replied..

Originally Posted by saintsrsaf

Sometimes don't know want to angry or sad of their ignorance. We as parents always want our children to be the best they can be. But they want their children to be their slave and never be able to look up.

maybe you should tell us how you get to know your bx...I tried to look thru your history but nothing was mentioned...you jumped straight to changing money in those threads...we hardly know much about you...

care to share more like how long you know her before marriage and whatever details...and do you know once divorced you can cancel her LTVP and she can continue to work here as long as her WP is valid...

My guess is she already has another sing bf...

[saintsrsaf]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

spot on bro...I knew the answer before he replied..



maybe you should tell us how you get to know your bx...I tried to look thru your history but nothing was mentioned...you jumped straight to changing money in those threads...we hardly know much about you...

care to share more like how long you know her before marriage and whatever details...and do you know once divorced you can cancel her LTVP and she can continue to work here as long as her WP is valid...

My guess is she already has another sing bf...

I know her on year 2008 when she work in Singapore in a certain pub. Got married after 1 year.

It doesn't matter she continue to work here or not after divorce. Just want my child to have better future.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by saintsrsaf

I know her on year 2008 when she work in Singapore in a certain pub. Got married after 1 year.

It doesn't matter she continue to work here or not after divorce. Just want my child to have better future.

i am sorry if what i write here later will hurt your feelings but I apolgised to you in advance...need to highlight this as a typical sinkie man fell in love of WL and then this problem exist...

I am very negative about WLs in Sinkie land...the VBs are here to earn money and they will not care about you...after they married they expect to have good life and will not share the burden with you...this is why I had written since 5 yrs ago to forget about the VBs who came here to be whores and to con men money...sad to say many sinkie men still fell for such WLs...tell me what love is blind and small head taken over big head...all this are rubbish...dun waste time wooing after the WLs who came here to earn men monies...go to Vietnam to find decent Viet gal who can be better wife...of course you need to invest time and money to do such thing...to me gamble in marriage over 1 year courtship is not enough...needs longer to see a person clearly...i will say anything longer than 2 yrs and during this courtship make sure you travel frequently to Vietnam to see her and family...learn their culture and see for yorself...read this thread from front to back...and then follow this thread daily...you will not know what you are missing if you dun do so...of course there are some WLs who are special to some men here...I heard enough of the 98% to be sad cases...

[saintsrsaf]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

i am sorry if what i write here later will hurt your feelings but I apolgised to you in advance...need to highlight this as a typical sinkie man fell in love of WL and then this problem exist...

I am very negative about WLs in Sinkie land...the VBs are here to earn money and they will not care about you...after they married they expect to have good life and will not share the burden with you...this is why I had written since 5 yrs ago to forget about the VBs who came here to be whores and to con men money...sad to say many sinkie men still fell for such WLs...tell me what love is blind and small head taken over big head...all this are rubbish...dun waste time wooing after the WLs who came here to earn men monies...go to Vietnam to find decent Viet gal who can be better wife...of course you need to invest time and money to do such thing...to me gamble in marriage over 1 year courtship is not enough...needs longer to see a person clearly...i will say anything longer than 2 yrs and during this courtship make sure you travel frequently to Vietnam to see her and family...learn their culture and see for yorself...read this thread from front to back...and then follow this thread daily...you will not know what you are missing if you dun do so...of course there are some WLs who are special to some men here...I heard enough of the 98% to be sad cases...

Well.. I totally agreed now.

Anyway I won't kpkb like others did. I made that choice 3 years ago. But ok la, can let go, good experience.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by saintsrsaf

Well.. I totally agreed now.

Anyway I won't kpkb like others did. I made that choice 3 years ago. But ok la, can let go, good experience.

i like your attitude...this is not like end of the road...you can recover and rebuild again...go step by step and resolve your messy divorce settlement now...important is find a good experienced lawyer will help..remember last year or 2 yrs back there was another samster who shared divorce in this thread...

you may want to read those pages...or pm bro Kangtuo, shysaint, (sorry if i arrow you) who are experienced in this divorce matter...but their ex wife is local singkie...

makes sure you get custody of your 2 children...any divorce children is the one who suffered most...

do you know i managed to pull 2 friends who almost get married to WLs and let the friends see for themselves what they are not seeing the truth about WLs...after they saw thru all their lies and deceits then they willingly let go...

to me WLs are just pay and f...(,)(,)

[saintsrsaf]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

i like your attitude...this is not like end of the road...you can recover and rebuild again...go step by step and resolve your messy divorce settlement now...important is find a good experienced lawyer will help..remember last year or 2 yrs back there was another samster who shared divorce in this thread...

you may want to read those pages...or pm bro Kangtuo, shysaint, (sorry if i arrow you) who are experienced in this divorce matter...but their ex wife is local singkie...

makes sure you get custody of your 2 children...any divorce children is the one who suffered most...

do you know i managed to pull 2 friends who almost get married to WLs and let the friends see for themselves what they are not seeing the truth about WLs...after they saw thru all their lies and deceits then they willingly let go...

to me WLs are just pay and f...

Thanks bro for the advise