Falling in love...once again

[Optimus_Prime]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

honestly speaking bro,u can read my mind like a book.intially i thou i may go into this shit again.but for my sake of myself and everyone ard me who cares,i will change my mindset completely.to play and not to be played.it's abt time to turn the tables.i am paying to enjoy,not to be tortured rite?i make my 1st change a very successful one at Joo Chiat,managed to score big on a viet ger,i am no longer sad.i feel i hv change,not only for the better but most importantly emotionally stronger.The changes happened overnight and all these thks to the precious advises from the bros who pen down the thought here for me & the rest who are reading.trust me bro,i have changed and i wont let history repeat itself.

"Good Job. Dun get cocky, kid." Han Solo to a young Luke Skywalker

Good to hear abt your changes... but I dun wanna dampen your spirits but dun get too OVER-CONFIDENT.

The viet gal may not be the type that can snare you. Your test will come when u meet with aType-SBJ gal again. Then all thos familar feelings will come up again and you will then noe if your WILLPOWER is enuff to overcome.

Change does not come overnite... it takes time and reflections. Dun rush it.A drop of water won't dent a stone but millions..billions of droplets ???

Sorry if it sounds like a DAMPER but I went thru the "I am now a NEW CHANGED man" phrase before... but still fell screaming back to Earth when I met a type-OP gal. Just dun want you to get over-confident. (heehee... make it sound like I veri lao-jiao but I only cheong abt same time as my SBJ join date)


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[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

hehe..ya rest assured i will take note not to be over-confident.i feel a bit that way too.just trying to be determined.ur advice has been 1 of the most helpful.no amt of words can tell how grateful i am.i am awake now,recalling how stupid i was,i cant help but to smile at myself.how much $ i have wasted,how much my heart has suffered..but i learnt thru experience and have grown stronger emotionally.

[TheSting]

Ok.
I was made aware of this thread by another bro.
Was contemplating whether I should repond to this at all, but finally decided to do so, as even after numerous talks, still cannot get through you. Perhaps writing by writing it down, you can better comprehend what i'm trying to say.

1st of all. You were NOT in love. Attraction yes, but definitely NOT love. Or most probably, you think that she is someone you MIGHT fall in love with. But COME ON!!!!

You met this gal on the 7th (sitting with another bro), and you came back the next day, on the 8th, to find her (despite me telling you the other bro was interested). It was not my place to tell you off, but I thought I should give u a heads-up, in case things get a little ugly. U decided to go ahead, and the other bro was gracious enough not to make a deal out of it.

The 1st message of this thread was made on the 12th (afternoon). So you have already fallen so deeply in love with a gal, just after a 4 days? You didn't even get to meet her everyday!

Ok.
Lets take it that under some divine intervention, cupid did shoot his arrow through you.
Over the past 5 months we've been going to this ktv, you've fallen for as many gals!!! And this is JUST in this particular KTV itself. Not counting the other viet gal, or the other one from our old hang-out.

Bro. Do you think that it is possible for one to fall-in love with so many gals over such a short time?

Ok, u might deny that you were even serious about these gals.
But hack!
We've been there, and seeing you do the exact same thing to each of these gals, and when things do NOT turn out the way you want it, you start drinking yourself silly, and create a scene.

Most important thing to note, you always drink so much NOT because you want to numb the pain (like most of us do when we drink heavily when sad), but to SHOW the gal that you're drinking because of her!! Either to make her guilty, or for her to pity you, or both ??????
How many times have i witnessed this ????
I've tried to tell you that this is not the way to go, but it seems u've turned a deaf ear to this.

As a friend, I hope that you seriously consider what you've been doing bro.
Most importantly, do not mistaken attraction for being in love
Give me a ring if you wanna discuss anything. See you tomorrow.

[ct75]

Sigh........ was busy and didnt have time to reply. Dude..... you dont seem to get my message. Now you go "Score big" with what vietnamese girls???

As Sting as given us a better picture of what is happening. I would say it the same thing again. Its still find a woman, get involved and now its to what degree only.

No offence to the other guys here but dude why not you stay away from KTV for a while? It seems that the root of all your problems is from KTV girls. Hence stay away, get a life.... do other things besides KTV. Then when you are grown up then you can come back. What's the point of telling you so much, you say so much and you end up in KTV again....??? and the same shit again?

And dude it took me 6 fucking years yes 6 fucking years to become what I am today so dont expect to change overnight??!! We advised you when? I think for the past few weeks? And now you are a changed man? A seasoned cheongster? The first step is to stay away from the root of your problem first, then later can you come back to face it with you are ready.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by TheSting

Ok.
As a friend, I hope that you seriously consider what you've been doing bro.
Most importantly, do not mistaken attraction for being in love
Give me a ring if you wanna discuss anything. See you tomorrow.

bro,i knew wat i did in the past was downright stupid.i promise u and the rest of the bros this shit wont happen to me ever again.if such things ever happen to me,i will be too ashamed to face u guys here and maybe even outside.till we meet again,we shall talk in details.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by ct75

And dude it took me 6 fucking years yes 6 fucking years to become what I am today so dont expect to change overnight??!! We advised you when? I think for the past few weeks? And now you are a changed man? A seasoned cheongster? The first step is to stay away from the root of your problem first, then later can you come back to face it with you are ready.

roger that bro.when can i meet up with u in person and hv a heart-to-heart talk?it would be a great honour.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

My past beliefs:

By going to see them often and showing my affection to them,they may hv a liking to me.to them,i am just a idiot with too much cash to spare.i misunderstood this affection for them as "love".sad to say they can only love my money more than me myself as the reason they are here is for money.i put too much hope in a ger wishing i can get into a proper relationship as i like the feeling of being in love but obviously i am looking for it at the wrong place.all the posts made here i will read them over & over again making sure all of them went thru me completely.life is too short,i shld be enjoying myself more than torturing myself over these meaningless relationship which will ultimately comes to no end.

[ct75]

In summary

1) Dont hope for things and things will come to you
2) Dont go looking for love in KTVs, Geylang, and what have you.
3) If you have got problem understanding point 2, go watch the show Perth in which the lead gives the Vietnamese KTV hostess all his life savings and get nothing in return
4) These girls are here to work not to find love. They didnt do anything wrong cos you pay, you fuck. You are the one who didnt play by the rules and wanted to fall in love
5) Falling in love doesnt take 4 days, it takes alot of time. What you are having is infauation.
6) KTV girls are pretty and chio and sexy, you are falling for a image. Notice how many of the guys here, the girl they marry is quite ordinary? Cos Marriage is about love and love is past physical apperances.
7) Why the fuck can't you not live without the company of woman??
8) Referring to point 7, got get a life and stop KTV and all these hostesses thing. It a waste of your money and your time and your youth. You will be surprised how much you could have saved. We cheong, we do it with a clear mind, hence there is limit. For you its I unhappy, I open bottle, hence no limit, no control.

Finally.... stop talking about how stupid you are, and apologising! We dont want to hear your whining! We want to see you move on... and talk intelligent stuff.... okay maybe asking too much too soon.

Okay????Understand???!

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by ct75

Okay????Understand???!

YES SIR!!!

[Cheri_Popper]

Originally Posted by ct75

It a waste of your money and your time and your youth. You will be surprised how much you could have saved. We cheong, we do it with a clear mind, hence there is limit. For you its I unhappy, I open bottle, hence no limit, no control.

Okay????Understand???!

Spoken like a true expert.

Simple calculation $300 (Cheonging budget) X 12 mths = S$3,600 (1 year)

S$3,600 X 10 years = S$36,000 (add a few thousand can buy brand new Hyundai Matrix liao)

[Carebear]

Originally Posted by Cheri_Popper

Spoken like a true expert.

Simple calculation $300 (Cheonging budget) X 12 mths = S$3,600 (1 year)

S$3,600 X 10 years = S$36,000 (add a few thousand can buy brand new Hyundai Matrix liao)

Yoz, ten years later no more Matrix liao.
SJG -> I dun understand wat u are going through and wat u trying to do. That is not the way u do things before I go hibernating. u should really wake up. u r trying too hard to get urself a relationship. u r juz plain bored. Hope I dun hear any complaints from u or other bros anymore. No more sufferrings of any sort in this cheonging world.
Puppy:"Mummy, where is happiness?"
Mummy:"Its at ur tail."
The puppy tried to chase its tail(happiness) but in vain.
Mummy:"Son, dun go around blindly chasing happiness. u will never get it. Juz move on and happiness will follow u."

[hunter89]

Originally Posted by ct75

I won't do that.... if he should fall again then maybe its cos he hasn't learnt enough.... I was so harsh and so acid cos I had hoped that from a man to a man esp from me who was like him a very emotional person. I can save one from going through what I went through.

It took me 3 extremtely volatile and heart breaking "relationships" with 3 Singaporean girls and a few sideline along the way to make me wake up. Was a sweet guy but at the end of the day... even if I got to bed them... I felt more like I was just a spare dick that they wanted not a bf. At that time was innocent and emotional, hence took it too hard.....

Haha now?? I would have fucked them even more and even harder!! Make my time worth mah!!....

Many a times words don't help, it takes a real experience and real pain to let you see the light. For your info, a high monk I met on a biz trip who had powers and I was blessed to meet, told me to stay away from the one that hurt me the most. And that was before I said anything to him. He just said this suddentely when we met "young man you are seeing someone now.... the relationship is in murky waters and you are confused right? Well let go before you get very very hurt" What happened?? haha I chose to defy his words and went for it and he turned out to be correct. But at least I was lucky that I woke up in time. So THREADSTARTER remember this saying the wise man learns from his mistakes, the wiser one learns from that of others. Whenever you feel that you are tempted to make mistakes, remember my story as a warning.....

lol...... at least you are alright and listen to the high monk advise, although abit late.... for me, after I get married, the monk told me that I shouldn't get married so early. It will affect me..... haizz... too late...

[SamiHyypia]

Bro SJG,
just my 2 cents worth...you must always keep telling yourself this girls are just after your wallet. Absolute no love.... All those sweet things they tell you, i always tell myself "mai poh la..knn....machiam like real" this will kinda keep you on your feet. In the end, just eat tofu , pay and fuck off liao... to me why ktv is enjoyable is because you can booze and eat tofu...whereas HCs or FLS is pay bonk and fuck off...so this is the difference. There was a period of time i am damn addicted to ktvs and fls...but guess i managed to pull myself up and remind myself that these are luxuries and indulgences.

[ct75]

Originally Posted by hunter89

lol...... at least you are alright and listen to the high monk advise, although abit late.... for me, after I get married, the monk told me that I shouldn't get married so early. It will affect me..... haizz... too late...

I didnt listen to the advice haha... I went for it... I woke up later after getting burned very badly...

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Been doing a lot of thinking with regards to this divine thing called Love.I had to go through hard ways to know what it is really is.Wat i knw may not be totally true but as least it sounds logical to me.The mentality i had when creating this thread scares me whenever i thought of it.Falling in love with a KTV gal,how silly can i get is the answer i am asking myself now.At the moment when i allow myself to fall in love with them,my emotions world is in a turmoil.i couldnt tell between love & affection.i misunderstood my affection for them as love,well enough said.now then i am awake,i had learnt that love will come when it's time to come.Like wat bro ct75 said,let love find u,dont go around finding it.Just when u least expected it,there will be that special someone just right there for u.I am still wishing for that day to come.Till then,hope u guys find my thread entertaining & yet educational.Just dont step into my shoes and did wat i did despite knowing that how painful it will end up with.If u wanna take the risk,be prepared for the worst.This piece of advice was given to me by a bro of mine & it still lingers on my mind although i go against it afterwhich got myself emotionally burnt.

SJG