Relationship with KTV girl

[Vaalus63]

You gotta be strong minded. I dated a few KTV girls, from my experience they are here to work and make money that’s the sole reason they are here. I’ve had KTV GFs who were with me just for the monthly allowance, but I had one who really loved me, after she met me she stop going to work because she really loved me, but sadly I didn’t love her, so it takes two hands to clap. I always tell them go work, because at the end of the day I’m just dating them I’m not gonna marry them. You gotta be strong minded to date a KTV girl, if your mind is weak, I would advise you to stay away.

[chaoslord]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Thanks bro. The thing is I am married also la so not exactly like she cheated on me haha..

It's actually good you are married as it would keep you grounded and not make rash moves. Dating KTV girls is not for the weak-hearted (imagine 10 men every day sucking her tits). You actually get the best of both worlds here as you have access to her but yet not have the responsibilities of a real relationship.

Keep it casual, keep it fun. It's normal to be KC as they provide us with physical and emotional companionship that our partners cannot. Enjoy the temporal feeling while it lasts - before long either one of you would move along to the next exciting encounter.

[benjm85]

Originally Posted by Vaalus63

You gotta be strong minded. I dated a few KTV girls, from my experience they are here to work and make money that’s the sole reason they are here. I’ve had KTV GFs who were with me just for the monthly allowance, but I had one who really loved me, after she met me she stop going to work because she really loved me, but sadly I didn’t love her, so it takes two hands to clap. I always tell them go work, because at the end of the day I’m just dating them I’m not gonna marry them. You gotta be strong minded to date a KTV girl, if your mind is weak, I would advise you to stay away.

Yes bro really need to be strong minded. Have to keep telling myself that I am just enjoying her companion and sex and there is no future for us.

[thebrokenheart]

is there any good outcome with a working lady? just wanna know what is the chances

[benjm85]

Well just to share that she initiated a breakup. Reason being she don’t see any future with me as I am married.
Feel really sad..everyday see her facebook for her updates.
How come girl can so easily move on compared to guys?

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Well just to share that she initiated a breakup. Reason being she don’t see any future with me as I am married.
Feel really sad..everyday see her facebook for her updates.
How come girl can so easily move on compared to guys?

mine ex FL WL said the same to me to.

Yes, they can get guys easily, that's their job.

[chinacuntlover]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Well just to share that she initiated a breakup. Reason being she don’t see any future with me as I am married.
Feel really sad..everyday see her facebook for her updates.
How come girl can so easily move on compared to guys?

Ktv girls still girls, ultimately they want to settle down
Are you able to give her that outcome?

[fandior]

let others pay for her bills, then loyal and steadily wait for her after work everyday got free bonk

[cjalbert]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Well just to share that she initiated a breakup. Reason being she don’t see any future with me as I am married.
Feel really sad..everyday see her facebook for her updates.
How come girl can so easily move on compared to guys?

You willing to divorce over her? Otherwise she is right to move on. You are the one dragging her. At the end of the day, she will want to settle down and put the past behind her.

[benjm85]

Originally Posted by cjalbert

You willing to divorce over her? Otherwise she is right to move on. You are the one dragging her. At the end of the day, she will want to settle down and put the past behind her.

I understand..just that the reality hurts.
Being together for one year plus..many memories.

[cjalbert]

Originally Posted by benjm85

I understand..just that the reality hurts.
Being together for one year plus..many memories.

One year plus of fucking ba i think. You give her money, she gives you sex. It is a commercial relationship. You give her money and she did not hinder your rice bowl. She gives you sex and gfe but you are hindering her making money

[benjm85]

Originally Posted by cjalbert

One year plus of fucking ba i think. You give her money, she gives you sex. It is a commercial relationship. You give her money and she did not hinder your rice bowl. She gives you sex and gfe but you are hindering her making money

No bro its not about the sex. We don’t meet up for sex only.
For past one year we always text each other daily, morning wake up and before sleep also text. Even her family members and friends also know me. She would fly once a month over to spend time with me.
We go on date like normal couple, we have much more emotional connections than just fuck.

[TheIdesOfMarch]

Originally Posted by benjm85

No bro its not about the sex. We don’t meet up for sex only.
For past one year we always text each other daily, morning wake up and before sleep also text. Even her family members and friends also know me. She would fly once a month over to spend time with me.
We go on date like normal couple, we have much more emotional connections than just fuck.

If a girl can do to this kind of level for you (maintain LDR, monthly flights just to come see you in SG, introduce you to her family and friends), and you as the married guy still won't divorce your wife to be with her, then frankly if I'm her friend I'd tell her to break up with you also.

Eh, she literally push the boat out for you, knowing full well that you already are married to another woman, but still hoping somehow that maybe she can be better than the woman you're married to such that you'd divorce your current wife and be with her instead. On all levels honestly you are the one who is 犯贱, because from the start you should never have cultivated anything more than a commercial transactional relationship with her as a married man yourself, and you shouldn't have kept her false hopes alive for so long until now when she finally sees through all the pointless waiting for you to become hers and decides to break up with you.

The only thing I won't judge you for is seeking her out as a commercial sex outlet for yourself when you are married already with a wife. Because maybe you are in a sexless marriage or the passion is dying out and it's not for lack of effort on your part, so there's still room to give you benefit of the doubt and understanding. By right cheating is wrong, but it doesn't mean sometimes people don't make the conditions themselves to allow for cheating to happen.

[benjm85]

Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch

If a girl can do to this kind of level for you (maintain LDR, monthly flights just to come see you in SG, introduce you to her family and friends), and you as the married guy still won't divorce your wife to be with her, then frankly if I'm her friend I'd tell her to break up with you also.

Eh, she literally push the boat out for you, knowing full well that you already are married to another woman, but still hoping somehow that maybe she can be better than the woman you're married to such that you'd divorce your current wife and be with her instead. On all levels honestly you are the one who is 犯贱, because from the start you should never have cultivated anything more than a commercial transactional relationship with her as a married man yourself, and you shouldn't have kept her false hopes alive for so long until now when she finally sees through all the pointless waiting for you to become hers and decides to break up with you.

The only thing I won't judge you for is seeking her out as a commercial sex outlet for yourself when you are married already with a wife. Because maybe you are in a sexless marriage or the passion is dying out and it's not for lack of effort on your part, so there's still room to give you benefit of the doubt and understanding. By right cheating is wrong, but it doesn't mean sometimes people don't make the conditions themselves to allow for cheating to happen.

Wa bro you really hit the nail on the coffin.
Yes I admit I shouldn’t have get into a relationship with her, but sometimes when fate comes it is hard to control. I been chionging for more than 10 years this is the first time I get into such a serious relationship (beside my wife).
She is indeed a very special girl thus I fall for her so badly. But sadly I can’t get a divorce( even though I wish i can) as I have kids and also the financial part doesn’t work in my favour.
For info, my wife discovered the relationship before so I had initially break up with her and no contact for a few months. But somehow fate brings us back again.
Sadly now she initiated a break up and she seems very serious no matter how I tried to save the relationship.
Indeed maybe you are right, I should have let her go earlier. Probably I am selfish to keep her with me.
Really hope one day i can still meet her and be friends.

[TheIdesOfMarch]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Wa bro you really hit the nail on the coffin.
Yes I admit I shouldn’t have get into a relationship with her, but sometimes when fate comes it is hard to control. I been chionging for more than 10 years this is the first time I get into such a serious relationship (beside my wife).
She is indeed a very special girl thus I fall for her so badly. But sadly I can’t get a divorce( even though I wish i can) as I have kids and also the financial part doesn’t work in my favour.
For info, my wife discovered the relationship before so I had initially break up with her and no contact for a few months. But somehow fate brings us back again.
Sadly now she initiated a break up and she seems very serious no matter how I tried to save the relationship.
Indeed maybe you are right, I should have let her go earlier. Probably I am selfish to keep her with me.
Really hope one day i can still meet her and be friends.

In my experience and observation of others, exes can't be friends. It's like you used to own a car. But now for whatever reason you had to downgrade to only renting it for half a month every month. Can you take it? How will you feel knowing that not too long ago you could have driven the car anywhere anytime without needing to share it with anybody else or be unable to access it at will?

You value your marriage and your relationship with your kids, let this KTV girl break up with you cleanly and for good. Don't try to keep her as a friend. Nobody will think better of you for doing so. You just look like a weak man who wants something but can't afford to buy it, so you go and walk past the shop with the item displayed in the window every day just to look at it.