Can you forgive your gf/wife for cheating on u? - Page 2

TaxiLao · #16 20-05-2009, 03:29 PM

Well....like what bro zadina20002000 said...it's quite true.Mostly for guys,their heart is still with their wives even they are having fun outside but it's different for women...once a woman's heart changes...nothing you do or say will change their mind.Can be harsh when you can't accept this fact.

dormant · #17 20-05-2009, 04:34 PM

Who doesnt cheat? Most of us have. The thing is LOVE. If we love the person enough we will forgive the person. It is said: Love conquers all.

Frankiestine · #18 20-05-2009, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by callous

Are you saying that it is forgivable since men do it without feelings and purely out of lust? My question to you is, if a woman do it purely out of lust, she can be forgiven?

Will a woman forgives her man more easily if she knows he is doing based on lust rather then emotions?

ChevelleZ · #19 20-05-2009, 05:09 PM

Hmm last time, I found out my gf cheated on me (she had double account on her facebook) so, I confront her. Even though, she told me that she havent sleep with the guy (ang moh) only did some petting still.. I can't forgive her. I told her if we must continue then I want her to see me sleeping with another 10 diff gals in front of her eyes, so, she will remember the pain too... but she argue this and that..then just said goodbye.

anyway, when I am in serious relationship, I never had a fling or eating outside.. that's why I am really mad at her

callous · #20 20-05-2009, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Will a woman forgives her man more easily if she knows he is doing based on lust rather then emotions?

My point is, it makes no difference if it's done based on lust or with emotions attached. Cheating will always be cheating. If it happens once, it will most likely happen again. To answer your question, no. For me, whether it's done out of lust or otherwise, it is still unforgivable.

Oralcraz · #21 20-05-2009, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by callous

My point is, it makes no difference if it's done based on lust or with emotions attached. Cheating will always be cheating. If it happens once, it will most likely happen again. To answer your question, no. For me, whether it's done out of lust or otherwise, it is still unforgivable.

My wife is not a virgin when I first met her. She told me so. I told her I also not virgin

. So I can accept. However, if cheat after married, I cannot forgive unless I did something so......bad and our relationship is a total failure.

torak · #22 20-05-2009, 11:44 PM

wat if a girl cheats but like guys, she do it for pure lust, and no feelings involved?

Since so many guys do it also, and with the excuse its purely for lust, than if your wife do it purely for lust, can u forgive her?

This question is for guys who eats outside...

jnlover · #23 20-05-2009, 11:47 PM

My ex-gf cheated on me... and I left her after finding out.
1 yr later I met her and we hit off again as FB... the irony is that her husband is the very guy who snatched her away from me!!

I guess it's pay back time for the guy...

It's impossible to forget and forgive... so it's a blessing that I found out before our planned marriage.

TropicThunder · #24 21-05-2009, 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by jnlover

My ex-gf cheated on me... and I left her after finding out.
1 yr later I met her and we hit off again as FB... the irony is that her husband is the very guy who snatched her away from me!!

I guess it's pay back time for the guy...

It's impossible to forget and forgive... so it's a blessing that I found out before our planned marriage.

bro, i think in your case. it is really a classic irony. i could only imagine the shock that her husband will face. a retribution perhaps but otherwise,a very bitter pill to swallow.

dormant · #25 21-05-2009, 04:00 PM

If you truly love, you will truly forgive. The harder it is for you to forgive, the further you are from true love.

android · #26 21-05-2009, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Jintian

Forgiveness is perfect only when the sin is not remembered.

All of us knows that to forgive is to forget. But how many of us can truly lay claims to this statement. When times are good, everything will be fine and dainty. When a storm is brewing, I'm sure all these "hidden demon" will re-surface to wreak havoc. Sounds familiar right?

Toyota Honda · #27 21-05-2009, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by dormant

Who doesnt cheat? Most of us have. The thing is LOVE. If we love the person enough we will forgive the person. It is said: Love conquers all.

I really don't know how to be convinced by these statements. Easier said than done.

soundworks · #28 21-05-2009, 07:29 PM

To forgive is not diffcult,but to forget the whole incident,i highly doubt how many of us are able to do that.....not me for sure.

Frankiestine · #29 21-05-2009, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by callous

My point is, it makes no difference if it's done based on lust or with emotions attached. Cheating will always be cheating. If it happens once, it will most likely happen again. To answer your question, no. For me, whether it's done out of lust or otherwise, it is still unforgivable.

What if there were no sex involved but emotions will that be cheating too?

Oralcraz · #30 21-05-2009, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by dormant

If you truly love, you will truly forgive. The harder it is for you to forgive, the further you are from true love.

I think otherwise. I think the more u truly love, the more easily you hate. If u are being "play out" by the one you truly love; the hurt is extremely painful and the stronger you will hate...and for the worse scenario, may even lead to sucide. Believe me, I been thru that kind of situation.