Who cheated who.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Handbook?
I personally dun think one is required.
What's a player?
A player is nothing more than a predator.
Why I call it predator?
Cos a predator will stalk & devour its prey and move on to its next prey.
Does the predator feel any pity, emotional strain whilst devouring its victim, even if its screaming, NO...NONE WATSOEVER!
The predator just wants the meat and move on to the next available prey.
But, once the player has emotional drawbacks, guilty conscience or pity, the player is no more a player, but has morphed into a victim him/herself.

That's the diff between a player and a playee.
The whole game is nothing but emotional entrapment.
The one that falls into this, will in the end, suffer somehow, light or heavy!

[BKnight]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

I used to bluff my target saying I'm single and available w/o any "gf" - that seems to be a very common pre-requisite in order to get a bite, else no game liao...:D

in short, it’s a frame of mind, we need to learn how to put ourselves into a frame of mind in which we no longer feel as if we are trying to get some meats but rather playing a fun and comfortable game in which the result of winning will be getting the meat.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Handbook?
I personally dun think one is required.
What's a player?
A player is nothing more than a predator.
Why I call it predator?
Cos a predator will stalk & devour its prey and move on to its next prey.
Does the predator feel any pity, emotional strain whilst devouring its victim, even if its screaming, NO...NONE WATSOEVER!
The predator just wants the meat and move on to the next available prey.
But, once the player has emotional drawbacks, guilty conscience or pity, the player is no more a player, but has morphed into a victim him/herself.

That's the diff between a player and a playee.
The whole game is nothing but emotional entrapment.
The one that falls into this, will in the end, suffer somehow, light or heavy!

Well said...player is a hunter With no emotions but only lust...think the thread "Mistress" will give you a good idea what is a player... Dun think TS knew enough about Vn WL to even talk about who broke whose heart...

[barlim21]

I never said i did know alot.

Actually had no intention of bragging. I really was starting this thread out of concern of the WL. But i guess it really was VN WL being a VN WL.
Please don't take it the wrong way.
No intention of showing off or stuff like that. I think my meaning of play might have been mis-interpreted.
I think like one bro said. Predator is a better word.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

The player's handbook, once makan, all is forgotten and no slightest bit of remorse.

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Handbook?
I personally dun think one is required.

Bro, you're the one who referred to the "Player Handbook" leh...so I ask lor

I rode on it with the idea to have its own worthy thread, since we have "guides" for all other issues, etc. NVM then.

Originally Posted by barlim21

Predator is a better word.

I beg to differ on this comparison since human are human... if bros here get what I mean. TS does have a very valid concern here as I believe he is relating it like it would any human with feelings. Kena KC or not is beside the point. Therefore my answer to the topic title in this case is : The FL got cheated, even though she may be the one out to cheat him from the onset.

I myself have crushed quite a few hearts in such games and I'll be damned if I say I don't feel a thing like a "predator". Ya I know, I'm damned anyway with bad karma crushing those hearts knowingly

So I guess, player or not, let just play according to our own rules but arm with the collected wisdom here not to get hurt, and eh... cause to much hurt too

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Why i say no handbook required????
Cos there's a golden rule in these situations:
In the entertainment world, meaning dealing wif WL or FLs, either they or you will get cheated.....
欢场无真情，欢场无真爱
So, if one can apply this golden rule from the start, no handbook will ever be required.
But then again, once the handbook is already needed, to me, by then, its already too late, cos to need a handbook for reference, the one needing the book, will be as good as a victim already.
So if there's ever any Player's Handbook out there, it'll also be no more than a one liner.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by barlim21

I never said i did know alot.

Actually had no intention of bragging. I really was starting this thread out of concern of the WL. But i guess it really was VN WL being a VN WL.
Please don't take it the wrong way.
No intention of showing off or stuff like that. I think my meaning of play might have been mis-interpreted.
I think like one bro said. Predator is a better word.

Ah Lim, I look at your post, but i read alot of face value words coming from you.
Let me show you like wat ok

Originally Posted by barlim21

I'm definitely not a newbie in this area of things.

I recently had my yearly KTV session with a bunch of NS-mates. I'm a player lah, so I usually try to only get 1 gal and build the relationship there for further post KTV activities. On my recent outings, I managed to snag one viet gal who wasn't fantastic but was really cute, pretty enough and loving kind. The type that really can become wife kind. My whole affair lasted only 4-5 days though.

As this hunter was trying to snag his prey.

This was the outing that started to get me thinking that she might be in this for real and that this gal might be thinking I'm her life-partner liao. That thought came before the hotel. After the hotel session, it just re-assured that though even more because the whole session was just super GFE.

But at the back of my mind I was worried that, I think what would happen if she knew I'm already taken.

If you're really an old bird that you claimed, none of these words will come out from you.
You are still relatively a newbie in this dept.
You think they really fly here to find Mr Right to get married happily ever after.
Yes, there are a few success stories, but note, a few only, be it VN, Thai, PRC but the failures or scams are countless!
So, as I posted above, better to follow one golden rule, its fail proof.
When dealing wif these people, that I always terms as ghosts, you must look at them nothing short of inhuman, thus no need to treat them too humanely, meaning no need to care or bother too much about what they think or feel.
Look at them as totally guilty in the 1st degree and let them prove their credibility & reliability over time, this is how you should treat such people.
Now since you mentioned you're a softie, it only goes to show that you belong to the very potential group who will be cheated.
Be glad she walked out on you, dun feel sad for her, cos if she pressed on, i think now, based on your postings, you will be screwed bigtime......
4-5day like that liao wat player????????
4-5weeks like wat liao........tink about it!

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by barlim21

I never said i did know alot.

Actually had no intention of bragging. I really was starting this thread out of concern of the WL. But i guess it really was VN WL being a VN WL.
Please don't take it the wrong way.
No intention of showing off or stuff like that. I think my meaning of play might have been mis-interpreted.
I think like one bro said. Predator is a better word.

well dont think too much bro. u only had less than 5 outings with her i believe she will forget u very soon. dont forget which line she wrks in if she gt the looks and charm there will b no lack of 'replacement' 4 her. who knws, she might oredi be having a gd time with another knight even b4 u finished writing this post.

[barlim21]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Ah Lim, I look at your post, but i read alot of face value words coming from you.
Let me show you like wat ok


If you're really an old bird that you claimed, none of these words will come out from you.
You are still relatively a newbie in this dept.
You think they really fly here to find Mr Right to get married happily ever after.
Yes, there are a few success stories, but note, a few only, be it VN, Thai, PRC but the failures or scams are countless!
So, as I posted above, better to follow one golden rule, its fail proof.
When dealing wif these people, that I always terms as ghosts, you must look at them nothing short of inhuman, thus no need to treat them too humanely, meaning no need to care or bother too much about what they think or feel.
Look at them as totally guilty in the 1st degree and let them prove their credibility & reliability over time, this is how you should treat such people.
Now since you mentioned you're a softie, it only goes to show that you belong to the very potential group who will be cheated.
Be glad she walked out on you, dun feel sad for her, cos if she pressed on, i think now, based on your postings, you will be screwed bigtime......
4-5day like that liao wat player????????
4-5weeks like wat liao........tink about it!

Sigh... bro, I have no idea why you get so worked up? I didn't say I was a pro as well. Just saying I'm not new to it. Can't remember if I stated but this is definitely first time dealing with VN WL.
If you say I noob, then ok lah. I accept it. I did post my topic for opinion and to get some insight. If I'm that a pro I wouldn't even bother getting opinion right or not?
If I do get screwed in the future I'll just have to take it as karma. I'm no saint. That's why I'm still in this forum.

Anybody worked up PLEASE CHILL. I just wanted to post a valid concern to gain some insight from those experience with VN WLs, and maybe as a slight juxtaposition to another thread where a bro got cheated, that's all. I didn't want to hijack his thread also mah.

The thread has served the purpose i sought which was the insight from a few nice bros. Do i look like I'm pursuing more? or bragging?
I may not be a saint, but I have a heart and I'm still human.

[barlim21]

Originally Posted by HCKing

well dont think too much bro. u only had less than 5 outings with her i believe she will forget u very soon. dont forget which line she wrks in if she gt the looks and charm there will b no lack of 'replacement' 4 her. who knws, she might oredi be having a gd time with another knight even b4 u finished writing this post.

Thanks bro. Have already moved on to my next game who is definitely in it for money.
I'm a scum after all. My concern only reaches a limit.

[justl00king]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

You think they really fly here to find Mr Right to get married happily ever after.

So, as I posted above, better to follow one golden rule, its fail proof.
When dealing wif these people, that I always terms as ghosts, you must look at them nothing short of inhuman, thus no need to treat them too humanely, meaning no need to care or bother too much about what they think or feel.
Look at them as totally guilty in the 1st degree and let them prove their credibility & reliability over time, this is how you should treat such people.

Very wise words indeed!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by barlim21

Sigh... bro, I have no idea why you get so worked up? I didn't say I was a pro as well. Just saying I'm not new to it.

I think u misread my intention.
I dont get angry one, I only get even....your case is nothing new to this part of the forum.
Just remember what you said about yourself, all I want you to digest is that you use your brain & never your heart.
Me not upset, dun worry

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by barlim21

I Aftermath:
I felt really horrible for the rest of the night at supper with my mates. I felt really bad that I really shattered somebody's hopes in love.

I just wanted to share this out with everybody, cos I'm really feeling bad for hurting someone who really cared.

Originally Posted by barlim21

Don't get mistaken. I'm not KC'd. Can say that I'm quite immune and slightly amoral. Just felt bad if I really did break her heart.

VN gals, especially those who come as to work as WL will recover very fast from heart aches or heart breaks of love lah
Dun need to feel bad.

Originally Posted by barlim21

The thing is I hardly spent anything on her. I got what i wanted and I should be happy, but something is nagging at me that she is really broken hearted.

she is heart broken that she cannot kc you and she has not started her game plan, you ended it.

Originally Posted by barlim21

I think my meaning of play might have been mis-interpreted.
I think like one bro said. Predator is a better word.

nobody is player or predator lah... you will be a prey when you meet your match.

Originally Posted by barlim21

this is definitely first time dealing with VN WL.

Welcome to the fun world of VN gals

[BKnight]

Originally Posted by HCKing

well dont think too much bro. u only had less than 5 outings with her i believe she will forget u very soon. dont forget which line she wrks in if she gt the looks and charm there will b no lack of 'replacement' 4 her. who knws, she might oredi be having a gd time with another knight even b4 u finished writing this post.

yup, no need to read too much into WLs, they are good actress coming here to make money in their own dramatic production. if we are unable to match emotion with lack of emotion and keep our head, even a player encyclopedia is useless. WLs come and go like plane schedule and if we need to feel/concern for them after each encounter then its not a hunting game anymore..we be lost in a jungle and be eaten up in no time anyway its good that TS share his opinion here.

[barlim21]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

I think u misread my intention.
I dont get angry one, I only get even....your case is nothing new to this part of the forum.
Just remember what you said about yourself, all I want you to digest is that you use your brain & never your heart.
Me not upset, dun worry

Oops. Sorry bro. Words don't carry emotions well. My apologies.
Don't worry bro, my heart is soft but my brain manage my wallet.