Sex and a guilty conscience

[Antitai]

this is simple human desires, after a certain period, you are required to unlaod. after many years you have sex experience, you shall seek more exciting sense to satisfy your sexual. we talk another way, if you always bonk one woman ( wife) in you life, do you think that you may loss a lot as you only eat a food in your whole life.

Please bear in mind, if you can put your family in first and ensure that sufficient maney for your bonking outside, so do worry, you go ahead.

your life is very short, years of erection of your dick is shorter than your life. you enjoy sex times is shorter than your dick erection. when you are old, you see young meimei in street, at least you have memory to re-taste what you had experieced is not olny for your wife.

[Sam The Caterer]

Very true... interesting thread.

[Herich]

Originally Posted by too_hot

So for me, FL/WL is the straightforward way to get wat u want without all the hassle. I still have my freedom. I can "play" as long as i want (some of my married frens told me after the first few years, they don't bonk anymore and their wife is just "someone he lives with"). As long as u know ur limits, sometimes can get some gfe and kc from FL/WL too.

Sorry if above is pessimistic and i am sure got many happily married couples out there - i am just not lucky enough to be one of them. But i am at least lucky enough not to be one of those in unhappy and messy marriage...

Well said bro. Share the same thoughts with u. Marriage is overated. haha

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by agent47

Hi bros, this thread is just for me to use as an outlet of my grievances. I'm so called leading a double life, a good son just starting out in a good career(hopefully) and with a gf of many long years. doesnt do drink/club.. but on the dark side, an guy who has trouble controlling his desires and going for FLs for the past few years. I have noone to let this out to and here is the only way i could think of coz nobody knows abt my 'second life'. This is not a medical health issue but more of psychological.

The main reason currently why I still go for FLs, is coz my gf is a strict abstinence believer. and self pleasure is getting too boring. so i look for FLs in sbf who are value for money. Im sure this is pretty common for most of us guys. But for me my guilty conscience kicks in everytime after my first shot. i start thinking abt my gf, my money, and my health. i once had a friend who told me..what for go for fl..if you put $100 on your head and masturbate, you will still feel satisfied and your money still there. what he said was true..only for sometime till i have the urge to fuck again.

my preferences: minah or teens(above 18 of course) eg. bro sinful desires's girls.
Today was an eye opener of what I'm actually doing.
had an fl who i knew thru chat who aeroplane me halfway thru the course. suppose to be 2 shots but ended up 1 shot and she said she'll be back but nv did. i was scared she ran of with my stuff but luckily it was still there.. i left the room minutes after she did.

ive also had some worry of infecting STDs. i havent get myself tested..but will do soon. iv nv done raw on FLs..but i did paint them before.

but havent you thought how much all that money that went to fucking can buy you?

$100 could last me for 2 weeks of meals..
$40 could for a bj could have been used to give my siblings some pocket money. there are many more ideas..

ill write more soon

If any bros who feel that i'm wasting space or trying to psycho others out..i'm sorry..it wasnt my intention. im just letting out my feelings here..pls ignore if its not ur liking.

Brother, obviously you have an illness similar to alcohol addiciton where you cannot control yourself and could ultimately destroy yourself and those who love you. Not sure you actually love them because of what you are doing. Ever think about the ramifications of giving your innocent GF and STD. You describe yourelf as a winner in SG society with a good education and job and a GF etc. So why risk what you have? I suggest you seek professional help for your sex additiction.

[agent47]

HaHA. Thanks for sharing your views gentlemen.

Sensitive Topic

Has seized my will to go find a bonk (also because vit M). But with some of the guys here who frequent FLs, WLs...despite using protection..don't you feel scared of contracting HIV/STDs? I know to some its bad mouth to say all this but have you ever wondered after bonking diff women and thought "shit, do i have..?". coz it scares the hell out of me. planning to have myself checked at Dr Tan in the new year just to have a peace of mind. Maybe you guys should too. Consider it a..routine health check with all the "activities" that we take part in.

[sinns18]

bro same here..all these while i have been wanting to go for a checkup..but everytime i think of what if the results gonna be positive, i would hold back thinking what would be the next step..how am i going to live a normal life again??

but ive made up my mind to go for the checkup alrdy..as all these negative thoughts keep affecting me every now and then..its better to face it then to live in denial and fear..

[freezetheDB]

i totally understand where u coming from Bro TS.

The desire to eat out is very strong, especially when it comes to BJs (and HJs) where i can just sit back and just enjoy (with GF, you need to be more concerned with how she is feeling, how you are performing, etc...)

thats why I try to focus more time on my passion (music and art).

I try to lead a more balanced life, and try not to be sucked into the abyss by addiction to sex.

[agent47]

Well, I am certainly not a winner. I've resist temptation for the past week. I'm starting to sound like I'm trying to quit smoking than screwing.
The only reason I'm here for is to see bros views here on this topic. I hope some have found light in which ever way you choose be it in the hole or something else. If you are like me and need to let it out, do share here. We are still humans..though men don't really like to share their feelings..Its somewhat a therapy. and here its anonymous. and you'll find that..your burden is a little less heavy to endure.

[Rainbowfish]

How about those who wife is pregnant ? At least few months cannot bonk and after wife give birth also cannot . Anyone in that shoe ? Not so guilty to finf FL?

[wtfuad]

well, i do feel for u bro. but i think that's how singaporean women want...to be satisfied rather than satisfying men. in terms of so many things, the level of concern and pampering them. rather than the other way around.

go out and play, always use protection. paying 4+ is inexpensive to protect urself. check every half yearly, just in case. just make sure ur protection doesnt break.

a nurse in dsc once told me....... bj with condom, fj with condom, condom intact, still come for what. don't waste time and money.

this is just to illustrate how confident they are in terms of the level of protection the condom will give u.

but i also did tests, to have a piece of mind. i don't think u need to specifically go to mr tan to do a test of the uncurable disease. u can just go to any clinic that has a sticker saying it has oraquick. hope this helps.

[orneryjoe]

Yep... visiting FLs or licensed sex workers is not exactly a cheap hobby. But it sure is an addictive one. Especially when the whole process is made so convenient nowadays with the help of the Net.

One great advantage is that there are no strings attached. Just bonk and forget, and go for the next one. The ladies don't make demands of you and don't come between you and your family -- so long as you keep things discreet.

Having emotional love affairs is a big no-no because it unnecessarily complicates life. And it's not exactly free as well when one factors in the gifts, the costs of dates and the time spent in wooing.

[fookydud]

Ts, i feel for you too. My current gf is also a strong religious believer and strictly no to pre marital sex. Till now i have not even seen her pussy yet. The most is massage her boobs and just licking it. At my age, i believe my sex hormones are at the highest. I really need it at times but i'm afraid of going to fl after reading how bros her contracted hiv related diseases. Thus i only go for dirty massage who helped me release after that. I wanted to go for one last week but after reading your post made me back out. Its so true, i could have save the money and do so much thing yet. End up i've to resort to using my own hand again. Sigh.

[agent47]

hey bro fookydud,
at least with the hand, your money still there. If your gf end up become your wife, make sure she knows what she's missing =)

[successman]

Originally Posted by tobby

Ya manzz...i am equally frustrated. Every time i request, i get turned down. Ask 10 times, 9 times no. Tried telling my wife of my needs but she never improve. So after a while, i dont even feel like asking anymore. So i resort to my right hand and lots of porn.
Tried FL once but i was so nervous i could not get an erection. After that never tried.

I guess end of the day. i dont think it is wrong to find a FL to ease our needs. But you must know how to clean your mouth after eating. Dont let it wreck your marriage or relationship.

Money can earn back. I think $100-200 is rather reasonable for a good session. They are paid to please, it is the kind of service you will never and should never expect to get from your wife. GF i think can. GFs are forever horny during the courtship. After marriage, sex will only go downhill.

If you are young and having a GF, please dont think of commercial sex. You can get all the sex you want from your GF.

2 cents worth

definately agree with you.

[ian pa lai]

Originally Posted by fookydud

Ts, i feel for you too. My current gf is also a strong religious believer and strictly no to pre marital sex. Till now i have not even seen her pussy yet. The most is massage her boobs and just licking it. At my age, i believe my sex hormones are at the highest. I really need it at times but i'm afraid of going to fl after reading how bros her contracted hiv related diseases. Thus i only go for dirty massage who helped me release after that. I wanted to go for one last week but after reading your post made me back out. Its so true, i could have save the money and do so much thing yet. End up i've to resort to using my own hand again. Sigh.

Bro.. how old are you btw... if you keen to try hookers i know where is safe and clean.. you at me in msn... [email protected]