Qn: will u tell ur possib le fling u r married? - Page 2

wolf2305 · #16 23-06-2011, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by justwanadoit

will u tell the truth or keep her in dark until u makan her already then tell?

will telling gal u married lessen ur chance?

Yes, i will tell, and of course your chances is lessen but like what most of the bro said here, it is easier to let go and she is more comfortable, know when to call and sms and she is definitely spicier then most

Chanelfingers · #17 23-06-2011, 10:36 AM

If I'm a guy, yes I'd tell cus it make it easier for me to disappear.
If I need weekend off from fb, it will just be " family commitments"
If I need to go overseas for leisure , " family trip"
If I am single , she maybe clingy n say " I'll follow u"

acidicavex · #18 23-06-2011, 11:13 AM

Yes just be frank if she into you she wouldn't mind a gamble but at least be frank. If not 100% waiting for the tickling time bomb to go off (when feeling start brewing)

Funky-Kuku · #19 23-06-2011, 11:18 AM

For a married guy, I suggest you search for flings with as much to lose as you do if the arrangement turns sour. So if you target married women or attached girls, telling them you are married may actually make you more 'attractive' as a discreet lover. People just want fun that doesn't disrupt their real lives... Few want to get divorced or lose custody of their kids.

Imagine this. If a married woman or attached girl meets a single guy who wants love, it's a scary outcome. The single guy or gal got nothing to lose when he exposes the affair. The married person (guy or gal) will have to face up to society, marriage may end up in divorce or they may lose custody of the kids.

Therefore, I will only select flings who are married or attached, then get them to agree to the rules of the game. It's really important to be honest with each other, I feel. You want the other party to 'cheat' with you, not be cheaten by you.

Frankiestine · #20 23-06-2011, 11:30 AM

But some flings can turn out to be like those "FATAL ATTRACTIONS" kind....gets really tiring and can stress you out mentally....

Funky-Kuku · #21 23-06-2011, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Frankiestine

But some flings can turn out to be like those "FATAL ATTRACTIONS" kind....

Now this kind of girls, we call them Monsters... Right monster?

fendy · #22 23-06-2011, 12:06 PM

no point lying if you are married, besides telling the truth is better, as both knows what they are in for.

we are only in for a fling, so if the other party is ok , its better off than getting troubles later

todae · #23 23-06-2011, 03:00 PM

but if the fling is just a innocent GND? can't bear to let her know, as i've unrealising falling for her.

Frankiestine · #24 23-06-2011, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Funky-Kuku

Now this kind of girls, we call them Monsters... Right monster?

worse then monsters....they don't give you peace...from the very initial the rules have been laid down clearly for all to go in with eyes open..but half way thru the game they start changing tune and ask for a status...

MonteCristo · #25 23-06-2011, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by todae

but if the fling is just a innocent GND? can't bear to let her know, as i've unrealising falling for her.

Then you better not have a fling then. Hiding such information will eventually lead to the misery of all 3 parties.

Yardstick · #26 23-06-2011, 04:42 PM

If you want to fling around, it is always important to lay down the rules and be frank about your status.

The last thing you want is a scorned woman on the hunt for you.

Big2 · #27 24-06-2011, 06:30 AM

From personal experience:

Met a girl from WLNY. Managed to get her out and was in progress of turning her into my fling. One problem: I didn't tell her I'm married. The most we did was hugs and kisses as we were in HDB void deck and she's not comfortable with staircaes. Arranged to meet up again for more fun, which certainly meant her getting laid. However, she went searched and found me on facebook with my status as married.

She got so pissed she tracked down my OC's account on facebook and sent her facebook messages informing her of my antics. Luckily I intercepted the messages before it was read!

sammyboyfor · #28 24-06-2011, 06:40 AM

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Originally Posted by justwanadoit

will u tell the truth or keep her in dark until u makan her already then tell?

Why would you want to have a fling if you're already married?

The only reason I can think of is if you're marriage is already on the rocks. If that's the case then my advice is to end the marriage first. You can then have as many flings as you want.

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

debauchee · #29 24-06-2011, 12:32 PM

Never hide your marital status from your flings or fbs. If you do, your nightmares might just began.

bonkster · #30 24-06-2011, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

The only reason I can think of is if you're marriage is already on the rocks. If that's the case then my advice is to end the marriage first. You can then have as many flings as you want.

Lord sammyboy has spoken...thou shall screw thy wifey and only thy wifey till thou divorces her