Affection n touching

[man-on-fire]

Originally Posted by Edyta

Compliments like nice dress, looks good are always nice to hear, most women like them when its delivered with sincerity. As for reacting with disgust, maybe the woman is shy. For me everything in moderation is ok, my reply would likely be a simple thank u, u look great too.

totally agreed with u bro great one

[singacock]

The important things to note when with a gal is to give her as much attention as you can. Complement her looks, crack a joke of 2, have an inclusive conversation with her that will get her to drop her line of defense. Couple this with a nice dinner followed by drinks and if she likes you or are comfortable with you then you can try 2nd base.

Watch her body language. Is she smiling more? Is she comfortable leaning on you? Has she started flirting with you? I usually start by touching her underarms and providing a pillar to support her to sit closer. I sometimes play with her fingers and the close proximity sometimes allows me to elbow graze her boobs. Try little things physically but remain in a decent conversation and continue to give her the attention she deserves.

The cue I get usually comes in the form of the gal leaning on my shoulder, or squeezing my hand, stroking my thighs and that's when I will make my move to embrace or hug her and even kiss her. It's a 2 way street so every action must have a reaction. Otherwise, she will be frightened quickly and wanna go off.

Sex to me is a far out goal that if you get it that day, you count your blessings. Otherwise, cherish the time you spend with this gal and take it to the next level. Do not hurry. At the very least she will stay comfortable with you as a very close friend.

You will need to distinguish between emotional attraction like a potential GF or just physical attraction leading to ONS or a FB arrangement. Both need to be handled and approached differently. Hope this helps.

Originally Posted by Edyta

When u are attracted to a female friend/colleague how do u show your affection physically? Sit close to her, touch her arms, back, shoulder etc? What's your fav?
When u are doing this, u get more of a girlfriend feeling or just have sex in your mind? Will you touch a woman you are not attracted to?

[chenzong]

Originally Posted by man-on-fire

totally agreed with u bro great one

I believe Edyta is a sis.

Originally Posted by singacock

Sex to me is a far out goal that if you get it that day, you count your blessings. Otherwise, cherish the time you spend with this gal and take it to the next level. Do not hurry. At the very least she will stay comfortable with you as a very close friend.

For a colleague, don't even make it a goal. Sex is out of the equation. The risk/reward ratio is just not good enough. Too much potential damage to career, family and reputation.

I have had women who are very comfortable with me, and Chinese women can be especially close to you when they are comfortable with you. The occasional brushes of the breast or thigh is good enough for me. No need to risk more to take it to the next step.

Of course, for the crazy ones among us, the sky's the limit!

[littlepok]

1 simple trick is to find an accident and brush your hand against hers. of course make it smooth and really by accident. for example sitting side by side during dinner and brush your arm against hers. by natural reaction she will either move her hand off immediately or look at u. if she looks at u, look back and smile, be natural and make it look like accident.

smiling back makes u look gentleman and by instinct she will smile back. of course, if she give a dulan look, don't go any further and risk tio charge sexual harassment.

if she pull her hand away immediately, apologise with a smile and she will smile back too, make u look gentleman. same idea applies, give lan jiao face, just steer clear.

if this goes well then u got some go-ahead signals. other tell-tale signs like

1. looking straight at u in the eye or from side-eyes
2.looking away when talking to u, especially at main door
3. check the phone periodically (hoping someone msg u or just checking the time).
4. lack of smiles towards u when u talk, especially when u smile back and focus all your attention on her
5. find excuses to get away from this conversation, cuddle with friends instead

these are tell-tale signs she is not interested. take things slowly because any further action will just piss her off further, cutting off all bridges. showing too much attention also cheapen the guy, ma jiam fishing and flying kite. pull and release then can achieve great things haha

[acidicavex]

Kk I contribute my notice

Syt range age 20-28 la normally when you tell them they look beautiful and hot today they will either smiles shyly or ask you back sure or not confirm to reassure.

Age range 29-38 25% will just smile shake head sometimes (don't know why my guess is maybe they read out mind) 25% will say thanks 25% will just smile and return by saying u too. 25% will just look at u as if a alien

39 above 10% smiles and flirt back 15% say thanks the rest is no respond or respond with a disgusted look, or they throw this cold look say u cheapo!

Just my own observation doesn't respresent anyone opinion.

[Edyta]

I didnt know guys go thru so mch thought process doing that "slight brushing" act! I doubt women do much thinking during that process. Personally I am quite reactive, respond positively if i like him, otherwise keep a safe distance away.

As for reacting to compliments, I dont think women react differently according to their age more like their personality, upbringing etc. Compliments are always nice to hear if its well intended. As for responding, mostly a thank u and a smile would suffice for colleagues, clients, business associates. With a close friend, the woman might ask more details.

[Bangster]

Yeah I dont read too much into it.

Unless they start to place their arms damn near to my crotch lah!

And bending a little lower than usual to talk to me in the noisy club...