Having issues getting over girlfriend’s sexual past

[cctv5five]

Bro, I think you think too much ..... take it easy

[peanut123]

Dear TS,

You are a dickhead. Instead of worrying about her past (which is of NO CONSEQUENCE), why not just focus on the present ? Enjoy the fact that the girl of your dreams is with you. That she loves you. Why the fuck would you care that she has loved other men and women? It shows she's human with a warm heart full of emotions and love to give to you!

Don't you think it's bloody hypocritical of you to worry about her sexual history while at the same time you are fucking her and adding to her sexual history??

And why the fuck would you tell her that you can't get over her past? All that will do is make her insecure and unsure of you. You should go over to her now and tell her that you love her and you have finally come to your senses and you no longer care about her past, and only want to focus on the present and plan your future together. That is sure to make her happy, and a happy girlfriend is the key to a happy relationship. Believe me, if she's happy, she'll make sure you are even happier, which is great for you.

You can be very very sure that if you lose this girl, your heart will hurt like hell and you will regret every negative thought and negative word you said to her. Trust me on this.

They say that you dun appreciate what you have until you lose it. For your sake, I hope you don't find out first-hand how true it is.

[PPGirl]

Ts..are u a saint?
If u are, yes u can dump her
If u are not, y bother so much abt her past?

Everyone has a past. We live in the future & not dwell on the past.
Cherish her b4 she is gone & u will regret.

Love is love her for who she is & most important.. are u the only man she love now?
If she didnt mind abt u, y u mind hers?

[see see only]

Women are like books, Men are the readers. You can complete reading the book but it really takes a few read to understand everything written inside. Sometime even a lifetime

And a good woman is refer as a good book ... So you expect a good book left on the book shelf untouched or at least flip by another reader ?

You may be a first-time reader but i guess you cant expect a good book to be left untouched by another.

[peanut123]

Originally Posted by see see only

Women are like books, Men are the readers. You can complete reading the book but it really takes a few read to understand everything written inside. Sometime even a lifetime

And a good woman is refer as a good book ... So you expect a good book left on the book shelf untouched or at least flip by another reader ?

You may be a first-time reader but i guess you cant expect a good book to be left untouched by another.

Great analogy.

[hunter12]

agreed with many bro/sis had said...

u actually mind her pass just because u kiss less girl than her? She touch more girl than u...?

in the first place, u say how pitiful she is, what unpleasant encounters she met in the past.

u will b contributing to her misery too... after she hj, bj n fj for u.. than u will tell her.. "am sorry I can't forget ur pass... I dun wan to hurt u anymore.. let break off..." u r one jerkass

[dmtpl]

Originally Posted by see see only

Women are like books, Men are the readers. You can complete reading the book but it really takes a few read to understand everything written inside. Sometime even a lifetime

And a good woman is refer as a good book ... So you expect a good book left on the book shelf untouched or at least flip by another reader ?

You may be a first-time reader but i guess you cant expect a good book to be left untouched by another.

Couldnt have said any better myself....

Dear TS,
If you cannot accept her womens past, you should NEVER try to learn about her history.
Once you make her feel you like to compare- I promise you that
she will hide the rest of her secrets and your relationship will fail.

Love the women for what you see in her now,
not for what you imagine her to be like- Dont try to re-create or change her
,you are not her maker and have no right to do so.

Finally remember, she is with you now because she wants to be
not because you are so special etc.
She can always and I mean this,
ALWAYS find another guy, much better then YOU if she wanted to.

Be thankful that she is in your life NOW and not out of it !

P.s
If you truly appreciate her, send her some roses and write
"Thank you for being in my life!"

[alphonse]

Dear TS,

A story for you

Two monks were making a pilgrimage to venerate the relics of a great Saint. During the course of their journey, they came to a river where they met a beautiful young woman -- an apparently worldly creature, dressed in expensive finery and with her hair done up in the latest fashion. She was afraid of the current and afraid of ruining her lovely clothing, so asked the brothers if they might carry her across the river.

The younger and more exacting of the brothers was offended at the very idea and turned away with an attitude of disgust. The older brother didn't hesitate, and quickly picked the woman up on his shoulders, carried her across the river, and set her down on the other side. She thanked him and went on her way, and the brother waded back through the waters.

The monks resumed their walk, the older one in perfect equanimity and enjoying the beautiful countryside, while the younger one grew more and more brooding and distracted, so much so that he could keep his silence no longer and suddenly burst out, "Brother, we are taught to avoid contact with women, and there you were, not just touching a woman, but carrying her on your shoulders!"

The older monk looked at the younger with a loving, pitiful smile and said, "Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river; you are still carrying her."

Take care!

[Phayao]

Dear Sir.

I understand perfectly where your coming from. How your feeling and what thoughts are going through your mind. You Sir, because of your lack of sexual activity feel inferior to your girlfriend because of your girlfriend multiple experiences. That I understand too because just like you and many other's like you have also gone through this insecurity. I'll tell you my personal experience, but I really need you be true to yourself and think about this, If you trade places with your girlfriend, you having multiple experiences and she having none, would that lessen your inferiority? Would that be fair to you? I think the answer is yes, because our culture beckons that. Man having more sexual experiences are usually cheered for while woman who have multiple partners are prostitutes, whores or SPG.

Maybe you think the only way for you now to cure this inferiority or insecurity is by having more sexual experiences than her, but once you have already achieve that...then what? nothing happens, GF =10 VS BF =50. That's just it. A Number. I once had a girlfriend I consider my best love. Unfortunately because of her past sexual experiences I could not get over I let her slip past me and she has already married to a very lucky man 2 years ago. She was rape and rob in her Ipoh house in Ipoh Gardens when she was 22. After which because of her traumatic experience instead of being wearily or distance herself from men she did the opposite, she begin to have ONS and every time she has ONS she relives her experience again. Why she did that silly thing she told me it's because she wants to know if she can "handle" the trauma and move on, what she means by "move on" is she still keep reliving the rapist face, the voice, the act every time she has sex and for every ONS she had, which she told me was almost once every month, she couldn't move on until she met me. No I'm not brad pitt, but when woman are emotionally involved, they can get past anything.

At first I wasn't interested in a relationship because me myself was looking for ONS. But emotions develop over time and I was head over heels for her and she with me but the only thing I couldn't accept was her ONS, for 3 years x 12 months = 36 Men. (Yeah, I'm a bastard I got count you know). I keep pressuring her on the exactly number of men she had sex with and she couldn't give me a straight answer until one day I sian already and broke it off with her. I told you TS, GF =10 VS BF =50 is just a number. My pain in not being with her hurts to this day. She was and still is Wife Material. How come this husband of hers can accept it why can't I? Why can't I swallow my male dominate pride and accept her past. As they said past is past. Dalai Lama Said it best: Look at situations from all angles, and you will become more open.


Best wishes to you,
Phayao

[Summerhillt]

Just break up and find another 1.. cause i tell you its goona be hell for you. Even up till you marry her that day you will still thinnk she not virgin lah she not this not that..

yes this is called selfish but with your ego. i dont think you will ever let it go.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by Summerhillt

Just break up and find another 1.. cause i tell you its goona be hell for you. Even up till you marry her that day you will still thinnk she not virgin lah she not this not that..

yes this is called selfish but with your ego. i dont think you will ever let it go.

TS,

True, go breakup with your this gf, as you need a few more relationships to understand your this issue is soon not an issue to you at all

[PPGirl]

Originally Posted by eSSence06

v girl dont know partern lah

Saw ts posted above in other thread " virgin girl or sexually active girl"

Im really confused when u posted abt your gf past experiences.
Since u say virgin not much pattern n now u saying gf too much pattern?
Ts so pls make up ur mind..

[xenocacia]

TS, the problem here isn't really your gf, but your own ego. All the events in her past and her many encounters, be it with male or female, only bother you because your ego is in the way. You cannot stand the thought that your gf is not pristine and completely yours, that you are not the first explorer into uncharted territory, that you may not compare to her past lovers. It really is all about you, and here's why that's a horrible idea.

1. If she loves you as much as you say, and is willing to share all this with you, it means that she has got past her own ego. Shouldn't you?

2. You are both 20. Come to terms with the fact that only about 20% of your life has happened so far, and whatever little has occurred in this time will pale in comparison (I practically guarantee it) with whatever the remaining 80% has in store for you. Look ahead, not behind.

3. It is the mark of a real man to be able to put his ego down for the sake of others. Only boys worry how they are seen by other people; men worry only how they are seen by their woman. Man up and get over it.

In case you are wondering, I have been through similar situations - even to the extent where the girl I thought I loved was overseas bonking someone else while I stayed in Singapore, cognizant but helpless. You'll get over it.

[lebronjames6]

Originally Posted by eSSence06

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In her third relationship she also let him finger her and she gave him a hand job as well. In her last relationship she went out with this guy for 2.5 years and she really loved him. He was the first she gave oral sex to, and they did everything together. He fingered her; she gave him many hand jobs and lots of oral sex. She wanted to have sex and so did he, but she brought it up to him. They agreed and she claims that he only penetrated her a little bit before finishing, so she doesn’t believe she lost her virginity. He claims that every time they tried, which both him and her say was 3 times, that they had full intercourse but she swears that after that first time having failed, and the other two times they never got past being naked, none of the times they ever had full intercourse. I don’t know if she’s trying to protect me because she knows how bad it would hurt me if they actually did, or if she really didn’t have full on sex with him. I know her was able to penetrate her at least somewhat so I also have issues with whether she was still a virgin the first time we had sex.

I’ve told her many times that I just don’t know if I can ever get over all her past sexual activities. It bothers me greatly that she ever touched another woman, which happened more than once, and that she has kissed multiple girls. I have only kissed 3, including her, and I just feel inadequate knowing that she has kissed more than I have. Also all the sexual things she has done and have had done to her with other guys. I cant get the images out of my mind and it sometimes gets in the way of our sex life, if I start seeing or feeling things I can’t help but show it. One of the biggest problems I have is knowing that the woman I love and loves me back, the woman who I want to marry and make my wife one day, has loved other men. It feels like I am just one of three (she loved her last boyfriend and one other that I did not mention due to them not being sexual).

My questions are:

1) What can I do to get past her past bisexual activities?

2) Is there anything I can work on so as to not be so hurt by my girlfriend’s sexual encounters?

3) What must I do to get the images out of my head so that I can just focus on her and myself?

4) How can I get over her loving others before me?

5) I don’t know whether or not her last boyfriend took her virginity or not and while it would devastate me if he had, I feel like I have a right to know. Does what they did constitute losing ones virginity or not?

Any help at all would be immensely appreciated. Thank you so very much!

are you a history teacher? if not, y bother the history. history is fact that we cant change bro.

if u like history so much, go MOE and b a history teacher. cfm u top notch one

[Gaia81]

Childish.....