Married but has a new girlfriend

[fallen11]

Had a male colleague, he had an office fling despite him being married with a baby boy.
1 day, his office fling want to be serious with their relationship (she knew he's a married man before they even started). Guy promised her he'll divorce his wife, which i think he doesnt intend to do so probably because of the kid.
But somehow the wife found out, so she filed for divorce and child custody.
Faced with divorce, losing custody of his son & his fling leaving him, he cannot take it. Went into severe depression and didnt seek any help.
1 day met up with his fling, she gave him a final choice. Leave the wife or she leaves. He couldnt make any choice. She left him on the spot.
He immediately hanged himself.......

Married can play around. But when the time for reckoning comes, be ready to accept losses and move on. Cant keep up to the game please dont play.

[danilov]

If he likes the office fling enough to start a fling and the fling still wants him while the wife wants to divorce him, I thought the choice is obvious??

Anyway, not making a choice (leave both) is also another choice!

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by danilov

If he likes the office fling enough to start a fling and the fling still wants him while the wife wants to divorce him, I thought the choice is obvious??

Anyway, not making a choice (leave both) is also another choice!

So people play around doesnt mean they want to leave the spouse.
I think for that guy's case, he doesnt want to part with the son.

[Xgenre]

Many girls are worried about their diminishing youth. As girls tend to marry older guys, their pool of available men shrinks over time. If you are really care for her, don't sacrifice her chances of finding Mr Right.

Even if you decide to be responsible and admit you are a married man, having lied to her, she will worry if you will lie to her again. She may also worry about you having flings outside even if you choose to divorce and marry her. I think the innate insecurities a lady may have should not be underestimated.

You are a player. She is not.

[WastingTimeHere]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Many girls are worried about their diminishing youth. As girls tend to marry older guys, their pool of available men shrinks over time. If you are really care for her, don't sacrifice her chances of finding Mr Right.

Even if you decide to be responsible and admit you are a married man, having lied to her, she will worry if you will lie to her again. She may also worry about you having flings outside even if you choose to divorce and marry her. I think the innate insecurities a lady may have should not be underestimated.

You are a player. She is not.

Yup
That’s what I’m worried about too

This new relationship is being built on lies
Even if I somehow divorce my wife

A possible argument in the future will definitely revolve around this

[MoJoe313]

TS,
Marriage contract leh. You think bgr ah? So easy to separate? Dream on. You are just hurting yourself and the new girl. Bec there is no ending btw you two.

Even if there is. You marry new girl. Another comes along. Then what. I guarantee you will say no. 3 is absolutely different; she is really the One. Wanna bet?

[chaoslord]

My recommendation is to cut your ties with this new girl.

Even if you are upfront with her now about your marriage, the trust between you and her would already be frayed. Women forgive but never forget. We play around to reduce stress, not add to it.

[ilpink]

actually its funny because why would you marry your wife if you didn't go through the same phase as your "new gf" now.

Human like new things, younger woman, new car, branded stuff, we will never get enough of new and mentally stimulating goods out there.

You might even find yourself in the same situation after 3 years with this new woman.

Why not just screw her as much as you want and dump her, I think you will find yourself happier with your wife if you choose to invest the same amount of time and effort on her.

[sane]

It will be better to tell her the truth then see whether she want to continue this affair with you.

There’s this guy who told me this
“Don’t play with relationship” and he turn crazy, things get ugly.

Friends have been telling me that because I have been giving him false hope.

He chased me out of his car and start to hurl angry texts to me.

[AUDIFANSG]

Lol care to explain why ur wife is 'crazy'?

[James95koh]

Sound exciting. If you like thrilling, you can continue

[dp939]

Originally Posted by chaoslord

My recommendation is to cut your ties with this new girl.

Even if you are upfront with her now about your marriage, the trust between you and her would already be frayed. Women forgive but never forget. We play around to reduce stress, not add to it.

"We play around to reduce stress, not add to it." Thumbs up

[c0cktailov3r]

Originally Posted by WastingTimeHere

On a side note

This girl is not as crazy as my wife, and I really feel like being with her instead of my wife

Actually u are the crazy one to even think this and say this about your wife. U chose to marry her and now u call her "crazy"?? Men just totally forget about the marriage vows once their little brains(and manhood) take over.

Your new rs is built on lies, what makes you think it can last?

The best bet is to cut ties with the new girl before your wife finds out. And just pray and make sure your wife never ever finds out about this episode.

[Triplexxx222]

New one always more exciting than old one

[centvin]

I married my wife after 3 mths without going thru the "dating" phase. It was more like lust and I was 23. Shes a ft, decent n committed, but I find it hard to connect as our values r so much different.