Guilty Conscience Gf

[Mikesgch]

Just ask yourself whether you still love, care and need your bf. If yes, pls do something about it! If otherwise, then you should not prolong the relationship further. Short pain is inevitably but pls do not cause long term pain, it hurts more. We all made mistakes in life but life still goes on......

[lilmei]

to repent, you should come clean with what you have done.
tell us about yr affairs and ons.
after you are done, you should feel better . . .

[SaintArc]

very simple
together u need his care his love and MONEY
as for him he needs yr SEX and having someone to eat together
u both r just using each other
i tell u love is like tht using each other only
no TRUE love if there is no MONEY
guys are always more hurt than e gals anyway
coz Gals always think of their money in the pocket than their heart or LOVE

[comm]

all feelings are felt by you alone..

[tigerprawn]

Originally Posted by Angel_Sg

Im cohabiting with my bf for a few years now. He always shower me with his love and pamper me even when Im just throwing my temper for no reason. The greatest mistakes in my life that I had ever done during our relationship was having 3 affairs and 3 ONS.

I didnt know how he found out and he really shouted at me, for the first time. After he cool off, I initiated a break off cause I really found myself a slut. But instead, he readily forgave me and promise me never to mention about my affairs. I was so touched and cried and promised him I will be faithful to him. But the problem is, till now, I cant seem to forgive myself for what I had done to him and my guilty conscience still prick in me even my bf had forgiven me.

Please tell me what I should do to overcome my guilty conscience. And what can a gf do to make the bf happy. I really am feeling very bad now. Please give me some advice.

Dear Angel_sg

As some forumers pointed out here, the first question you have to ask yourself is whether or not you still love your bf. Do you still want to be be with him because you truly love him OR just cos of guilt that you feel you need to make up to him?

In the first place, fact that you cheated on him may be because you dont really love him, or perhaps you do love him a little but not enough - that in the depths of your heart, you know he is NOT really the one you really want. You are just riding a cow looking for a horse (so to speak).

Guilty conscience or not, the best thing you can do for him, if you have any kind of guilt and conscience is to be fair to him. To do so you have to be honest to your own feelings first.

Then again, maybe you are still too young, or not totally settled down matured mentally yet to appreciate and understand love. You may feel you love but actually is not or not totally so - in short you are one confused girl yourself.

Regardless, this is a passage of life. As much your Karma as your bf's karma that he has to go through this pain and hurt. I have been through his passage years ago so I know personally how painful and hurting it is.

If you both really do love each other and want the relationship to work out, then you have to genuinely make the best effort. All the best for you. Else, you should start by having a good heart to heart HONEST talk so that both parties have all the truths (even if hurting) to decide what each party wants to do. For example, if you love him but not enough, tell him honestly, let him know that at this moment cos you do not really love him 100% of your heart, there will always be the danger of you straying again in future, so even though you may be prepared to make your best effort with him together to salvage and improve your relationship, you may still stray again. Given this honest truth, does he still want to try? You have to talk honestly.

All the best and good luck to both of you. It is ok to fault and make mistake in life. Just learn and do not get sucked into the same cycle of repeatedly making the same mistake over and over.

By the way, if this is of any consolation, at least you have a conscience and still feel guilty and sorry towards your bf. So, there is still hope. For me, my ex did the same to me years ago, but instead of feeling any kind of guilt, she twisted and turn the entire truth against me, accusing me instead of invading her privacy cos I found out about her cheating !?!? So even though she is the one cheating on me sleeping with other guys, I become the bad party who's at fault by prying into her secrets and privacy. Therefore, because of that, I am the one at fault so that justifies her actions. You ever heard of this kind of twisted logic?

[jojo123]

ger has a steady for 5 yrs, can't really give her a promising future, but because of certain vow, ger bo bian.

ger's ex (married) came to jio her, ger start to have secret affair with him...while keeping current relationship

true story..

this is a decent ger, not a slut (i mean it)

it takes 2 hand to clap, also push and pull factor have to b present

[easyeasy]

Originally Posted by Angel_Sg

Im cohabiting with my bf for a few years now. He always shower me with his love and pamper me even when Im just throwing my temper for no reason. The greatest mistakes in my life that I had ever done during our relationship was having 3 affairs and 3 ONS.

I didnt know how he found out and he really shouted at me, for the first time. After he cool off, I initiated a break off cause I really found myself a slut. But instead, he readily forgave me and promise me never to mention about my affairs. I was so touched and cried and promised him I will be faithful to him. But the problem is, till now, I cant seem to forgive myself for what I had done to him and my guilty conscience still prick in me even my bf had forgiven me.

Please tell me what I should do to overcome my guilty conscience. And what can a gf do to make the bf happy. I really am feeling very bad now. Please give me some advice.

at least you do one thing right, the initiation of a break off & save the fool from further hurt. I had seem too much of this already my friends and including myself my ex also do the same thing, after found out cry lah, wah to die lah, Jump lah, swear to heaven won't do it again lah but once forgive but never forget still back to the same old way.

do the guy a favour tell him to wake up and continue his life without you believe me it will be so much better.

[VanGogh]

Hey Sis, u very steady, the fact that you can come into a male and commercial sex dominated forum and post questions here tells alot about your distress.. ..

From my point of view, it is very difficult for a Man to forget 3 ONS and 3 Affairs... .. WOW !!!

Forgive maybe, yes we can do it. Forget, not in a thousand years, maybe... ..

I feel that it is time for both of u to move on ??

Anyway, cheers.. ...

[lightning]

Just treasure and treat him well is what you can do now, no use crying over spilled milk. Nice men are hard to find nowadays. At least ur gulity of wrong doings will prevent u from being unfaithful to him next time. Do give him ur assurance not to repeat it again His forgiving of you shows that he still cares and love you and such generous atitude is hard to find....

[ChaYen]

Just remember:

There is nearly nothing that cannot be fixed with a really good blowjob.


And on another note, you're asking for conscience advice from a forum of (mostly) men who frequent hookers and loose women alike. Such as myself. More than half of us are probably cheating on our wives/gf.

Oh wait.

So you're asking about how to be indifferent as well? How we go about our lives and not lose sleep at night (due to conscience problems, at least)?

I'd tell you if I weren't so distracted by the MP chicks I'm going to meet this evening.

Good luck! And always remember to use the right tool for the right job.

/sarcasm

Originally Posted by VanGogh

From my point of view, it is very difficult for a Man to forget 3 ONS and 3 Affairs

Yeah. 6 different women already. Once you reach the double digits, it takes a really good one to make a lasting enough impression. *sigh* I really wish I could remember more of the good ones.

[VanGogh]

Originally Posted by ChaYen

Just remember:

There is nearly nothing that cannot be fixed with a really good blowjob.

And on another note, you're asking for conscience advice from a forum of (mostly) men who frequent hookers and loose women alike. Such as myself. More than half of us are probably cheating on our wives/gf.

Oh wait.

So you're asking about how to be indifferent as well? How we go about our lives and not lose sleep at night (due to conscience problems, at least)?

I'd tell you if I weren't so distracted by the MP chicks I'm going to meet this evening.

Good luck! And always remember to use the right tool for the right job.

Yeah. 6 different women already. Once you reach the double digits, it takes a really good one to make a lasting enough impression. *sigh* I really wish I could remember more of the good ones.

Haha Bro ChaYen, u caught me with my pants down... ...

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by ChaYen

And on another note, you're asking for conscience advice from a forum of (mostly) men who frequent hookers and loose women alike. Such as myself. More than half of us are probably cheating on our wives/gf..

Alamak dun say until like that....we are not cheating on our wives especially if our wives are the one that are not interested in having sex...we are merely, to put it in some wise man words "thinking out of the box" by outsourcing our needs..

[old_yet_horny]

To TS....


Firstly, I would like to comment on ur BF...

Being a Man myself, I will never tolerate my GF/OC/CO having any form of affair behind my back.

Call me MCP all you want but this is the facts of life...

For me, I can screw around all I want be it commercial or not but I cannot bring myself to forgive my other half if she were to be caught red handed by me...


If a Man can tolerate his GF having some much "Fun" outside, I guess he is either waiting for the right time to kick u out when a better girl comes by or just he is just plain "Stupid".


Secondly, to comment on ur relationship management... I guess you are not ready to settle down with him yet... You have not had enough FUN and your BF is boring... You felt like you deserve better attention and you crave for more varieties besides him only... You seek thrill in relationship and you want freedom yet you need attention as well... You are so difficult to please...

Like what other bros said, you want to repent but you will still repeat your act once your guilty conscience goes away... (I place my bet on that)

Its going to hurt that poor chap more IF he really loves you so much... Let him go.. let him find another woman who truly deserves his sincerity...

As for you, dun settle down until you had enough fun... But one word of caution... have fun out there and.....Use Condom!!



P/S: What makes me said all these??? Becos I said these words to my Ex who used to be in an identical situation as you are now..

[friends123]

I agree with Bro OYH, I will never be able to forgive my GF or wife is she just once make a cuckold out of me and I find out. At least this is what I think now.
I think the selfish thinking still prevalent in society is man can sleep around but not the women ... I every happy with that still

[geckoSG]

TS, ask yourself, why did u have 6 affairs & ONS if you really loved him.
Either you are not ready to settle down or he ain't giving you enuff. But,
as long as you are not married, you still have your choices to make.

However, if you think at this stage u really loves him, are you able to change
your lifestyle? If not, you will end up hurting him more later. Think before you
commit.

How to get rid of the guilt? Only time will wash the guilt slowly... Residues
will still be there. I've been there and done it, its still there.