Why do some men share their girlfriend/wife?

[wondergal]

Originally Posted by chnhubby71

Hi I am one of them that is willing to share my wife with others to add spice in our SEX and Marriage life as one.

This is subjected to No FORCE and OBLIGATION to enter into any fun should both of US do feel comfortable and have a GREAT Chemistry to enter with others with RULES and CONDITIONS to be Strictly follow with Mutual Respect and Trust to enter into the game.

When we first got married, sex life can consider acceptable except there is NO Great Sex when the fun is concern. Usually our SEX fun lasted about 10mins the most.

After some years of having such a normal routines SEX that last for 10-15mins, I did some research on the Internet and discover what we call call it a SWINGING fun for couple whom are willing to share their partner or exchange partner in sex to increase the EXCITEMENT and Add Spice to their SEX Life.

Yea I agree as long as it is no force against the girlfriend/wife and so it was agreed then there is nothing wrong done I guess.

[wondergal]

Originally Posted by Jtjan

First, if I really love the gal then I wun wanna share.
But if she is only a FB then I'd love it if she wanna try swinging w me.

Second, Wondergal, is your friend's dogging event in Singapore?

Sometimes I think the same as you, that men who really love their woman won't share.

No, we are in Australia.

[wondergal]

Originally Posted by bloggert

There is a phenomenon used to describe the kind of excitement or arousal when men see their wives/mates being courted by another competing male. This is known as the Coolidge effect.

I suspect that's the mechanism at work with respect to wife-sharing, as well as the various stories that titillate us here - including ones where partners or wives are taken forcefully and then start to enjoy it (such as the award winning story "The Longest 4 days of my life"), or stories of cuckolding (such as "Trainee's attempt at hotwife"), or even stories of affairs (such as the currently running "My Happy Life").

Although the stories are somewhat varied, the arousal mechanism is quite similar and seems to capitalize on the aforementioned Coolidge-effect. This is most likely why people get into wife-sharing, cuckolding, and so on.

Wow! Thanks for the link. I can recall an ex bf who may have had the Coolidge effect. I never would have known or suspected it. I thought he was just being a good friend to share or something like that.

The forceful type of sharing isn't too pleasant even though the woman may like it later during the act. There's that rape feel about it.

[wondergal]

Originally Posted by iojr

i'm personally fine with it.

both me & my girlfriend have been swinging for quite some time now & it really has enhanced the trust & love between the both of us.

i believe that with swinging, the both of us can enjoy the variety that both of us crave for, without worrying about the fact that we're cheating on each other.

before we started swinging, we sat down & talked about it for a pretty long time before we actually came to an agreement on how it'd be done & we have not regretted the fact that we ventured into swinging.

it may be a taboo to most couples & i believe that it varies from couple to couple.

well, at the end of the day,
some may find it kinky, some may find it exciting, & some may not find it as an activity of interest.

Are you both swapping with other like-minded couples or sharing with individuals who don't mind that you share?

I was shared in the past.

[littlepok]

actually i see nothing wrong with it though i do not want to practise it. selfish by nature haha.

my thoughts on why... basic animal instinct. no insult intended. animals have this instinct of screwing for sake of pleasure and having offspring. men have this nature too, we want to screw the prettiest of the pack and no matter how pretty, sooner or later will get bored and go look for next one for the kick of it.

how often we heard or see the mistress looking like crap and main wife gorgeous? just look at arnold wife and mistress u know what i mean. the epitome example

another thought: jealousy. sound ironic as if u will feel jealous why would u share? just recall your childhood. your friends toys is always more fun than yours and when u got it, it does not feel that fun or precious after awhile.

overseas moon always brighter. know what i mean?

in front of u is the woman u screw day in day out. boring... suddenly in a swing party, u see her got screwed by other men and worst case, she enjoy it. basic man instinct of marking your territory goes straight up to your brain. your desire for this woman will surge multi-folds (没人抢，不值钱). suddenly u want to screw this woman badly to mark your territory and show this woman who is her real man.

this ideology works both ways i guess.

nonetheless, i am a one-way traffic guy. i am ok with screwing other's wives but nobody can touch my private property.

[wondergal]

Originally Posted by BiRd13

Seriously when I step into such with CO, I am quite unhappy and jealousy kind. However, it was my CO who have such fetish, and so well, we tried soft swing (Like same room sex), before going into heavier kind (like switching)... Right now, still felt jealousy when seeing another guy bang my CO... But again, seeing she's happy and enjoying it, makes me much better...

Jealousy aside, did you also felt some insecurity due to the other man's flirting, penis size, and maybe the chemistry between him and your girlfriend/wife?

[ericchow]

Originally Posted by coolguy28

Personally, I feel if the guy really love his gf / wife, should treat them exclusive to themselves only. Not sharing with anyone other guys.

I feel that the guy either too confident with themselves or take their gf / wife
for granted.... bored with them... so something new and kinky to spice up their
life..

Agree with you.

[SingaporeSwg]

Interesting post. We share too but exclusively with another couple, and now we are friends and we do other normal stuff that normal friends do. Jealousy? A bit at first but I guess we are all very comfortable with each other.

Communication between each other within the relationship is important for this kind of arrangement.

[iojr]

Originally Posted by wondergal

Are you both swapping with other like-minded couples or sharing with individuals who don't mind that you share?

I was shared in the past.

well , a little of both i guess.
we're open to each other's sexual desires & needs.

[cereal-killer]

I have fantasies about this topic, and when having passionate love making we role-play it, she will go all wild with her eyes closed and sucking on my fingers. if we have toys around, we would be licking and blowing it like mad. sometimes she would just turn around and say "we're just pretending, its not going to happen".. when i try to coax her into it, some times she would agree and sometimes not

damn hard to get her to fully agree. but what she will really get turned on is when i tell her some really young and horny guy wants a piece of her, she would go really wet :P

[copymark]

I belong to the Male cuckold submission and humiliation part.
I thrive in being humiliated that I hv a small penis and therefore enable to satisfy any gal.
Turns me on to be humiliated while I serve the lady. Getting her ready to be fucked. Licking the bulls cock to get it hard for her. Licking her pussy to get her wet n ready.
And finally locking her pussy and ass after she's been fucked to clean her of the bulls sperm.
I kinda like it. Experienced a few times. It was good.
There's this gal, whom tied me spread eagled and naked on the bed while she and her Bul just fucked beside me.
And my patience was rewarded with her climbing on my face and her well used pussy dripping Into my mouth as she made me lick it and swallow it clean. I was also made to clean her bulls cock with my mouth.
Thereafter, I was allowed to masturbate as they both enjoyed a smoke watching me on my knees wanking my small penis. Of course I had to ask both of them for permission before I cum. Like the gal, well she made me do Jumping jacks before I was allowed to cum. Of course after that I had to lick my own load and clean up. Dress them up and crawl out.

[roughkink]

Originally Posted by wondergal

I noticed in this forum, and have heard in real life, that there are some couples who do this.

I know that there are some men who confidently allow their girlfriend/wife to have sex with another specific man, or even fearlessly allow her to have sex with any number of other men who may be friends or even strangers. In the first case involving a specific third-party man, he is likely to be someone familiar and trusted, or maybe not at all. In the latter case involving any number of other men, it is more like a swingers' party (I guess?), not a wife-swapping event with other couples.

Any male opinions?

If you cannot wrap your head around the concept, then obviously sharing is not for you. For those that enjoy it, it is a sexual turn on.

[wondergal]

Originally Posted by copymark

I belong to the Male cuckold submission and humiliation part.
I thrive in being humiliated that I hv a small penis and therefore enable to satisfy any gal.
Turns me on to be humiliated while I serve the lady. Getting her ready to be fucked. Licking the bulls cock to get it hard for her. Licking her pussy to get her wet n ready.
And finally locking her pussy and ass after she's been fucked to clean her of the bulls sperm.
I kinda like it. Experienced a few times. It was good.
There's this gal, whom tied me spread eagled and naked on the bed while she and her Bul just fucked beside me.
And my patience was rewarded with her climbing on my face and her well used pussy dripping Into my mouth as she made me lick it and swallow it clean. I was also made to clean her bulls cock with my mouth.
Thereafter, I was allowed to masturbate as they both enjoyed a smoke watching me on my knees wanking my small penis. Of course I had to ask both of them for permission before I cum. Like the gal, well she made me do Jumping jacks before I was allowed to cum. Of course after that I had to lick my own load and clean up. Dress them up and crawl out.

Woah! You are the first person I have ever heard of about such a humiliation way of sharing. It sounds very humiliating and extreme to me, especially with the punishment feeling acts, but if you enjoy it then that's ok then.

I guess you have a girlfriend, and the Bull refers to the big man that your she has sex with? How did she choose this Bull? If she knew him and chose him, did you feel insecure and fearful that he will woo her away? Your sharing seems mixed with some bondage by tying you up spread eagle, and if I read you right, you also lick and taste the after sex cum of hers and his. Quite unusual to me.

I never encountered a man comfortable enough to lick me or taste his own cum after sex, and I doubt they will taste another man's. During my sharing, I wasn't tied. My ex bf and his good friend didn't seem to mind each other's cum on their dicks but not keen to hold or stroke it themselves. Hah!

[copymark]

Originally Posted by wondergal

Woah! You are the first person I have ever heard of about such a humiliation way of sharing. It sounds very humiliating and extreme to me, especially with the punishment feeling acts, but if you enjoy it then that's ok then.

I guess you have a girlfriend, and the Bull refers to the big man that your she has sex with? How did she choose this Bull? If she knew him and chose him, did you feel insecure and fearful that he will woo her away? Your sharing seems mixed with some bondage by tying you up spread eagle, and if I read you right, you also lick and taste the after sex cum of hers and his. Quite unusual to me.

I never encountered a man comfortable enough to lick me or taste his own cum after sex, and I doubt they will taste another man's. During my sharing, I wasn't tied. My ex bf and his good friend didn't seem to mind each other's cum on their dicks but not keen to hold or stroke it themselves. Hah!

Well to clarify its not my gf lol. I won't ever share my wife or gf. It's my limit. That gal was actually an escort and the bull was her sugar dad lol.

I think it's ok to go down on u after sex. It may seem humiliating but I guess that's what I like, being submissive to the gal and her bull. Serving her , massaging her etc when she's tired n helping her dress up for her bull. I am not so into bondage but in that moment it was good because I was helpless. And if u saw my dick , I'm sure u Won't wan me to put that little pencil into u too
That's y my tongue has been trained well al these years.

Proud to say I m an awesk e pussy licker. Recently started ass worship

[wondergal]

Originally Posted by copymark

Well to clarify its not my gf lol. I won't ever share my wife or gf. It's my limit. That gal was actually an escort and the bull was her sugar dad lol.

I think it's ok to go down on u after sex. It may seem humiliating but I guess that's what I like, being submissive to the gal and her bull. Serving her , massaging her etc when she's tired n helping her dress up for her bull. I am not so into bondage but in that moment it was good because I was helpless. And if u saw my dick , I'm sure u Won't wan me to put that little pencil into u too
That's y my tongue has been trained well al these years.

Proud to say I m an awesk e pussy licker. Recently started ass worship

Ohh... so you wasn't sharing a beloved woman. I thought you was because of the topic of sharing girlfriend/wife but it's ok to hear your views. I guess you didn't feel jealous or insecure in that case? Just humiliation which you somehow enjoy much.

I have never shared boyfriends with another individual girl, and when I imagine situations, I didn't feel comfortable about the possible intimacy between him and her even though there could be nothing. Hah! My own insecurity and double standard.

Anyway, what is ass worship?