Happily Married with an ex WL(VN)

[MoonBlaze]

Lesson learnt : - If the WL like you, they will not like to see you at their work place. They do not like you to see what they are doing, be it just chit-chating with her customer.
Chances are she will be watchful of herself and also a lookout for you, worrying that you are by yourself. All this will affect her focus on her work.

I always enjoy stories, especially those from their real life.
Keep it going!

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by MoonBlaze

Lesson learnt : - If the WL like you, they will not like to see you at their work place. They do not like you to see what they are doing, be it just chit-chating with her customer.
Chances are she will be watchful of herself and also a lookout for you, worrying that you are by yourself. All this will affect her focus on her work.

I always enjoy stories, especially those from their real life.
Keep it going!

Thanks bro!! You are right!!

We all know what they do to make money dun we?? so in the course of their work, they have to coo up to customers and snuggle up to them in order to make customers feel loved and thus a potential for bigger tips later......

so if she really likes you, she is very afraid that you might take those actions as REAL and she will have a lot of explaining to do....

Anyway, i will explore more on this issue and the problems that it brings in the next installment...

stay tuned!!!

[KonKam]

aiyooo...

think this is going to happen to me liao..

lucky come across this your posting...

as for me,,,,not viet girl but thai ger doing massage...(should be no hanky panky type)

so far,i love the good thai massage there...never have the intention to involve in anything.

aiyohhh...ended just few days back...the thai ger call me teerak....
aiyoo aiyooo..

finacially i am not sound ler...but continue with your story....it is so enlighthing

[MoonBlaze]

Originally Posted by KonKam

aiyooo...
think this is going to happen to me liao..
aiyohhh...ended just few days back...the thai ger call me teerak....
aiyoo aiyooo..
finacially i am not sound ler...but continue with your story....it is so enlighthing

Dun read too much into how she address you. Else you will have a lot of headache in the future. Unless you really wantsto plan a future with her. Not saying right or wrong in having a R/S with WL, it is subjective. But what i can say is that it will be a tough journey. Many life experience shared on SBF had proven it. Cheers!

[technofreak]

Originally Posted by casannova03

Anyway, i will explore more on this issue and the problems that it brings in the next installment...

stay tuned!!!

I truly empathize with you bro...

1) If you go to her workplace, it'll be a distraction to her.

2) If you don't go and see for yourself, your mind will never feel at ease. You'll keep wondering whether she did any hanky-panky behind your back like going hotels for the extra bucks etc.

I did feel this way in the past with some con gais when I first started chionging little HCM...But now I've grown out of it...


Regards,
Techno

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by technofreak

I truly empathize with you bro...

1) If you go to her workplace, it'll be a distraction to her.

2) If you don't go and see for yourself, your mind will never feel at ease. You'll keep wondering whether she did any hanky-panky behind your back like going hotels for the extra bucks etc.

I did feel this way in the past with some con gais when I first started chionging little HCM...But now I've grown out of it...


Regards,
Techno

yeah, i guess most of us do feel like that at a certain stage in the relationship and this, i must sayis one of the big hurdle to cross if anyone is to have a successful relationship....

I'll share on how to overcome this in my next installment....

[Reaper]

Sorry to interupt this thread but would just like to say one thing,

TRUST!!!!! it is a very very important thing. It can also be a dirty word. If you trust her enough, you should let her work in peace. No girl grows up dreaming of working as a "hostess" letting man grope and screw (even thouh I know a few..nhehehh).

If you stay at home without seeing her and funny/jealous/insecure thoughts are running through your mind, you are not ready. Dont forget, even if you take her out of the scence, you cant take the scence out of her. Afterall, her only friends in Singapore would be her ex-colleagues

If she truly feels for you, she wouldnt want you to see her this way. Afterall, Vietnam women take full pride in things they do, be it their work or how they care for their loved ones.

The main purpose of me writing this is to congratulate Casanova.

I am sure Casanova is reaping the benefits of all his hard work and understanding of his wife and her feelings.

I SALUTE YOU!!!!! I do hope to find sucess in a relationship one day....

[SingViet]

Marriage life is very much different from that of bachelor life. The responsibilities involved is not what a bachelor can understand. Until the day you enter a marriage and stay there for a couple of years, you cannot fully understand what marriage life is like. I never listen to bachelor's views on their EXPERIENCE on marriage as they have none as what comes out is just their perception of marriage after listening to their friend's woes.

TRUST in marriage is important, but often, the actions and words that come from Vietnamese spouse don't allow you to trust them. TRUST is EARNED, not GIVEN. If your vietnamese spouse has spent the effort to earn your trust, CONGRATS!!! My spouse has spent the time and lots of effort to earn my trust thru the years and this i feel blessed.

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by Reaper

I am sure Casanova is reaping the benefits of all his hard work and understanding of his wife and her feelings.

I SALUTE YOU!!!!! I do hope to find sucess in a relationship one day....

Thanks bro....its nothing to be proud or anything....only thing is its a less treaded path vis-a-vis other normal marriages...

I hope that my sharing will help other bros who are thinking of or if not already on the same path as me....i hope to provide an insight with the benefits of my hindsight..this will help them to better make judgements and decisions to which i have no access 5 years ago..

Dun worry bro, with a sincere heart, you will meet another to match yours!!

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Marriage life is very much different from that of bachelor life. The responsibilities involved is not what a bachelor can understand. Until the day you enter a marriage and stay there for a couple of years, you cannot fully understand what marriage life is like. I never listen to bachelor's views on their EXPERIENCE on marriage as they have none as what comes out is just their perception of marriage after listening to their friend's woes.

totally agreed!! thanks for the insight bro...I can only add on by saying that it takes both hands to clap and in order to make the loudest sound possible, both hands must have the best syncronisation and understanding.

For VN wife? Let's see if this works....Ahem!....

.....
Treat her like a gold and she holds you tight never letting go,

Treat her like a maid and pronto she goes find another mate!
......

: Pardon my lame attempt!! hahaha..but hey it sounds good right???:

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Reaper

Dont forget, even if you take her out of the scence, you cant take the scence out of her.

Originally Posted by Reaper

No girl grows up dreaming of working as a "hostess" letting man grope and screw

If u can't even take her out of the scene then forget about love love.....

No man will want his real gf to be hugged and bonked by other dirty old men like me.

[casannova03]

dun bluff la....you not old la...but dirty?? hmmmm.......

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by casannova03

dun bluff la....you not old la...but dirty?? hmmmm.......

U saying me?? I 66 yrs old liao... not old then what?

[birdie8819]

Originally Posted by naemlo

I 66 yrs old liao...

Ya Ya 66 divided by 2 si bo .

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by birdie8819

Ya Ya 66 divided by 2 si bo .

agreed!!! hahahaa if you want 66 than i 99 lor!!!! hahaha