girlfriend/wife who doesn't like sex at all - Page 4

lightning · #46 12-10-2010, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Funky-Kuku

9 years is a long time in life. Are you sure you are really willing to give up 9 years of your life in return for a sex life? She may not like sex but i'm sure she's fine in other aspects right? After all, you and her made it past 9 years. What if you found another lady who loves sex but give you all sorts of other problems? Will you be happier?

I think in life, there's no perfect woman. Maybe you should outsource the sex part while staying on with her. Outsourcing the sex part allows you variety in partners too. After all, she gave you her blessings right?

Seriously in the first place why do we find a mate, because we are turned on or attracted to them by their looks first and the "i wanted to have sex, mate or make love with you" sentence is pre-programmed at the back of our mind subconsciously. I would rather maintain a friendship with ladies who are persistently reject sex. Likewise, it is a major turn off for ladies to find the men whom they are attracted, are actually impotent.

Aside to bro zoop,you may want to tell her if she do not mind you can look for other attractive females when comes to sex, since she cannot satisfy your need in this area, if you still wanted to continue with her? I think 99.9 % of the ladies would be seriously upset to hear this!

carlovers · #47 12-10-2010, 06:42 PM

Bro,

For 9 years you are still able to stay with your gf with little to no sex. How many 9 years do we have in a life time. Time to move on..."Mai Tu Leow"

overmars · #48 12-10-2010, 06:43 PM

If no need sex then just be friend. Good enough.

Toyota Honda · #49 12-10-2010, 08:57 PM

I can conclude that... She doen't love you. And she could be with you because you are very accomodating towards her and very good to bully..

There is no such thing as respect her don't ask for it, especially when its already 9yrs and you both have also done it before already. U already mentioned that you get lucky only when she is horny. So that means she wants to get disrespected when she is horny? Not being a male chauvinist, but a gf/wife must really know how to be a gf/wife. Likewise, a bf/husband must know how to be a bf/husband. To me, I feel that she is selfish and disrespectful towards you in this relationship.

Sad to say this bro, but move on.

You may not find a better one out there, but at least you are leaving one you know is not suitable for you. Not a bad move afterall.

buttlovingguy · #50 12-10-2010, 08:58 PM

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Originally Posted by zoop

anyone with girlfriend or wife who refuse or dislike sex? been with my gf for 9 years, throughout the relationship we seldom have sex becos she will always have 101 reasons not to. no sex, no petting. as if like friends except we hug and kiss (no french kiss, she say she don't like saliva)

sex will come as a bonus, use 1 hand fingers can calculate the time we had in a year. tried talking to her, but every time she will ask me go find another woman, don't be with her.

its frustrating getting rejected all the time, and she doesn't feel the need for intimacy. no sex nvm, petting also not allowed. now only way is to trust my good old hand. but i don't think i can take it much longer.

any advise?

serious reply only please.

cannot even french kiss

it's really a miracle that you lasted 9 years with her... pls dun perform another round of miracle.

marcus.nhds · #51 13-10-2010, 03:00 AM

lets look at the situation here.

a) she does not give in, unless she need it for her pleasure. Which means that she is a self-centre person.

b) She does not even give physical affection. In all respect, a relationship is build on two things, emotional and physical affection. If either one fails, it will be no enough to hold the relationship together.

Overall, she say that you are using her for your sexual urges. But she contradicts herself. Only giving in to you as and when she like it. Therefore i believe that she is using you and disrespecting you. When, she does not give you physical affection. It likely means that she only cares for you abit but not to that extend of "you are the one and only one".

Dude, if given a chance if she found her "right" man. I believe that she will leave you. Right now, she is either scare to find one out there, in case she screw up and be left with one one.

Dude move on!

some_ · #52 13-10-2010, 05:44 AM

maybe they like sex but just dont enjoy with you? sorry if i hurt you by saying this

shadowevil · #53 13-10-2010, 06:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Toyota Honda

I can conclude that... She doen't love you. And she could be with you because you are very accomodating towards her and very good to bully..

There is no such thing as respect her don't ask for it, especially when its already 9yrs and you both have also done it before already. U already mentioned that you get lucky only when she is horny. So that means she wants to get disrespected when she is horny? Not being a male chauvinist, but a gf/wife must really know how to be a gf/wife. Likewise, a bf/husband must know how to be a bf/husband. To me, I feel that she is selfish and disrespectful towards you in this relationship.

Sad to say this bro, but move on.

You may not find a better one out there, but at least you are leaving one you know is not suitable for you. Not a bad move afterall.

i fully agree with u, bro. zoop, if i am you, i will definitely leave her. in fact i think having no gf is better than having this particular....

lightning · #54 13-10-2010, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by zoop

yes. nothing of that. i do all the painting, all the action. but i get nothing bad but just aim and shoot. and she will always want me to end it fast. and if she cum first, i get nothing. cannot continue. isn't it depressing. but im not ready to cheat on her yet...

I don't like to say this but seriously it looks like you will not enjoy sexual fulfillment in your marriage with her down the road.

hun2ter · #55 13-10-2010, 09:14 AM

Force open her legs... hahah

samyboys · #56 13-10-2010, 09:44 AM

my sex life is dull and drying up each day,

nongke · #57 13-10-2010, 10:03 AM

hey bro i totally feel u man.. im thinking of breaking off with her.. but i really love her.. but nx time married how? confus man,

popbits · #58 13-10-2010, 04:17 PM

My gf also.. No bj.. Everything also no.. Sigh..

lightning · #59 13-10-2010, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by nongke

hey bro i totally feel u man.. im thinking of breaking off with her.. but i really love her.. but nx time married how? confus man,

It is a serious turn off to meet sexually inactive ladies who are unwilling to change. You ask what do you exactly seek in your life companions? Everyone has their own perspective of their own requirements.

There are many better women out there that we will be even happier with and yet there are some rare ones we cannot afford to let go as it will be very hard to come across again. At the end of the day, we do not want to end with someone that we are not happy with.

I have seen friends who got married thinking that their spouse will change for the better over time and once they have children. This is a very wrong view as it is very hard to change a person's character (Unless true effort to change for the better is witnessed). My friends marriage end up in a sad way.

To me, I rather find companion who gives me comfort & take care of family, less problem when living together and sexual fulfillment.

jackbl · #60 13-10-2010, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by zoop

i love my gf a lot. but no sex is bad enough, no petting at all is unbelievable. i realized i am looking more often at other girls who dressed sexily too. how long more can i last?

U need to settle this issue once and for all, else if u got married and u go outside and look for other gals to fulfill your sexual needs then it is worse