Married with kids but no sex life

[sleepygordon]

Originally Posted by nicetongue

haiz.....on one hand, glad that I am not "alone" in this.....being married but not making out for 9 years!! I wonder if I still know how she look like below....hahahah

On the other, quite sad that many bros down here r going thru this, wonder if that's y there r so many strayings, extra marital, commercial sex etc outside the marriage and perhaps thats y SBF is so popular? hahaha

Guess we can only laugh it off and hope we can get lucky one of this day.....

Not to sound judgmental, but FREAKING NINE FUCKING YEARS.....I used to be in this unfortunate league of gentlemen. 4 years of sporadic unsatisfying sex ,average once a month if I am lucky, and if I am really lucky, I get three different position during sex.....

[NRider]

Pardon me for hijacking a thread "Ten reasons for having daily sex" by a fellow samster to share. With that and pointed out some of the facts stated, I got my needs met frequently. Hope it works for fellow samsters here - My 2 cents worth

[maxman]

This issue in marriage is really not new and not uncommon. In fact, it is seldom mentioned, and you can easily find proof that it is existent and prevalent.

Sex results in children and children result in anti-sex. Women who were once lovers to men become mothers for their men. When baby/child enter the picture, life takes a drastic change.

The irony - that sex itself brings forth the ultimate anti-sex, the ultimate turn-off: children
http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/life...411-1wpbb.html

The dirty secret in too many marriages: couples grow apart after they have children
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...tant-baby.html

http://www.essortment.com/common-mar...ren-50712.html

http://www.parentsconnect.com/parent...fter_baby.html

This post-baby issue is something some women don't realize or don't acknowledge. Some women, even though they want to have kids, don't even realize that later when they become mothers, they may develop post-natal depression because of loss of personal freedom (they once had) and having to put up with all the child-raising chores and daily constant toddler tantrums.

[netcheongster]

She meant settle yourself in the toilet

[sleepygordon]

Originally Posted by Etcetera

Settle urself? Is she giving u permission to eat outside?? Lucky guy u!

I am very sure she meant use your hands to settle it yourself......

[sgjoey]

Women are funny creatures. Haven't had sex with the wife for some years because of her health problems. So I outsourced and went the commercial route. Never bonked so many pretty girls in my life, and am now quite hooked to this hobby. Some experiences are so-so, but some are heavenly. The best part is no commitment. Just fuck and go.

Then my wife discovered what's going on. And she got really mad -- I also dunno why. Does she expect me to remain a monk until I die? Life is short, and I am not going to spend it feeling miserable because I cannot do what I enjoy doing. She now wants me to have sex with her. I do it, but it's nothing like doing it with the sex workers -- young, nubile, willing and so beautiful.

Uneasy truce now.... I know she doesn't trust me anymore and I don't blame her for that. How long this situation is gonna last.... I don't know. And I am still fucking those beautiful babes every chance I get.

[SG_FUN]

To all bros,

After reading so much I can appreciate what all bros goes through. I have the similar issues and still not able to solve. Every time I raised the topic of sex, she just point it to me.

I seek to understand what I done wrong. I pay for everything, look after then kids, bout nice car, etc trying to satisfy everything but she just indicated that she is not having rest. Her job is lesser of demanding than me sometime I thought.

Same for some bros, just don't understand woman. Before marriage, she can rape u, once paper signed, she start to slow down and after the kid sex is no longer on her thought.

I guess just have to sucks thumb and DIY or look for fb or commercial. I have no choice and starting going to the dark side now as I don't want to waste my life. As there is an expiring date to your tools. Make it useful while it last....

[ajlover]

looks like many bros are in the same situation... ever since son is born, sex is as high as the moon, can see but cannot reach.... used to look for commercial sex. After a period of time, career start to do downhill and spending on bonks seems to become a luxury... ended up with Mary (left hand) and Nancy (right hand). Occasionally try to get commercial sex but many a times its just not satisfactory as they just want u to shoot n fuck off.

Had tried looking for fb on wechat or craglist list but hooking them requires lots of baits ($$) too... Most of them want to go for restaurant for dinner or town for shopping first, when done, they said they tired... knn.... spend a bomb on them then they ask u go fly kite.....

now I am back to Mary and Nancy, still the best FBs... no risk of HIV, 24/7 standby oncall, free of charge, no need to hook them.

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by sgjoey

Then my wife discovered what's going on. And she got really mad -- I also dunno why.

Maybe she felt insulted as a woman that you have to seek sex outside. Is it because she is no longer attractive as a woman? Is that why you are seeking sex outside? For all you know, you may be getting sex for this period now because she wants to prove to herself that she is still attractive as a lady and not because she realised she needs to do her wifey duties.

Once she has convinced herself you still find her attractive, the same rubbish might occur again. Don't praise her too much, once her ego is back, you will go back to left, left, left right left (not the rythem of marching but the rythem of masterbation ah) again.

Originally Posted by ajlover

ended up with Mary (left hand) and Nancy (right hand).

Oh! My left hand is Mari while my right hand is Kita. When the 2 powers combined, I become Mari Kita.

[PassingbyJ]

To whoever zap me, I am fine with being zap.
It is normal to disagree on forum but can you have at least explain why or which part you disagree.

[joncheong]

Originally Posted by ajlover

looks like many bros are in the same situation... ever since son is born, sex is as high as the moon, can see but cannot reach.... used to look for commercial sex. After a period of time, career start to do downhill and spending on bonks seems to become a luxury... ended up with Mary (left hand) and Nancy (right hand). Occasionally try to get commercial sex but many a times its just not satisfactory as they just want u to shoot n fuck off.

Had tried looking for fb on wechat or craglist list but hooking them requires lots of baits ($$) too... Most of them want to go for restaurant for dinner or town for shopping first, when done, they said they tired... knn.... spend a bomb on them then they ask u go fly kite.....

now I am back to Mary and Nancy, still the best FBs... no risk of HIV, 24/7 standby oncall, free of charge, no need to hook them.

very true....my luck with wechat suck as well....it's much easier to hookup with FBs in office nearby elsewhere but such social apps...or perhaps it's i just met the wrong ladies on apps...

[Escada]

this is sad and true. how do to get back to the way before is it even possible ?
so stress out