Below was an old post which described in detail how you possessed self mastery. I also love your quote in previous post.
"a stage is an auction ground, the singers r auction items n the guests r just plain bidders.
Whoever bids the highest, wins the bid. "
Please keep up the good effort.
Happy New Year in advance.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good ａｆｔｅｒｎｏｏｎ!
Last Fri I went to a 3rd fl Havelock joint with 2 other bros for HH.: Bros S n NB. We had a good time n ｓｐｅｎｔ ｒｅｌａｔｉｖｅｌｙ ｌｉｔｔｌｅ as I had a leftover bttle, and when that was finished by 9PM, bro S had a bttle which he brought up from 1st fl.
Bro NB will be promoted to a good position in Shanghai, hopefully soon. Congrats! I'll miss him.
Bro S n I went there ｔｏ ３ｒｄ ｆｌ before 6:30PM n we both had an eye on a cute SYT FE ｗｈｏ was among the first Q up. Mummy H said tak boleh for ST. I said KIV. I noticeｄ her juicy, shapely n perky ass. Later bro S n I went out to the big rm to ｓｅａｒｃｈ ｆｏｒ gals. Bro S expressed some interest in FE, but I was faster on the draw n asked mummy H if FE would agree to 跑台，the gal looked baffled n asked mummy to clarify. It was her first day at work.
Anyway, after she sat ｄｏｗｎ with me, I began to like her more n more. She is 22 but looked younger, like 19-20. Pretty n very cute, good complexion, quite fair, 168, 49-50 kg, small bony frame, long straight n sharply legs. No, she is far from perfect as her shoulders a bit broad due to frequent swimming n her boobs only B. She is from Hubei, a model n uni graduate. In terms of looks n figure, she is the best I hv seen since I met my current young mistress over a yr ago.
We made great connection, chemistry? Predestined affinity? She was friendly, jovial. I asked her: 你出街吗？She asked: 什么是出街？ I said: 去开房。 Her reply: 不去。 I asked again: 多少你说，多少钱都不去？ Her reply: 不去！I then said: 我喜欢不出街的， 我要照顾你！Ｓｈｅ ｄｉｄｎｔ ｒｅｐｌｙ．Ｗｅ ｔｈｅｎ ｓｈａｒｅ ｄ ａ ｃｏｕｐｌｅ ｏｆ ｊｏｋｅｓ．
I started touching her on the wrists, arms n escalated ｍｙ ｐｆｙｓｉｃａｌ ｃｔｃ. Ｂｅｆｏｒｅ ｌｏｎｇ Ｉ ｗａｓ massagｉｎｇ her neck ｎ ｔｈｅｎ ｋｉｓｓｉｎｇ ｈｅｒ ｃｈｅｅｋ ｎ ｈｕｇｇｉｎｇ ｈｅｒ ｔｉｇｈｔｌ ｙ．．．ｔｈｅｎ Ｉ ｆｒｅｎｃｈｅｄ ｈｅｒ．Ｉ ｋｎｅｗ ｈｅｒ ｐｕｓｓｙ ｗａｓ ｍｉｎｅ．
Great sex has different effects, both physical n emotional, on men n women.
If a man gives a woman sexual pleasure she has never experienced w/ any other men, she is very likely to become sexually addicted. Even if he is the antithesis of her type, in every way.
Most women has never had PVO, which can be so intense n so prolonged that it's life-changing.
Almost all men can experience orgasm which is relatively weak. How many of us moan n scream uncontrollably n INVOLUNTARILY when we come? The key word here is INVOLUNTARILY.
If a woman gives a man sexual pleasure he has never had w/ other women, it's very unlikely he will be addicted to her solely because of great sex. If he already likes her, he will like her more. If he doesn't already like her, he will still not like her, despite the great sex.
Here is an article from a relationship/sex guru giving advice to women on how to get men addicted. BTW, the guru is a man.
This is very useful because, like they say, “知彼知己,百战不殆"
3 Simple Hints That Make A Man Addicted To You . . .
Hint 1: Understand what sex actually means to a man.
Every day through my blog, podcast and Facebook wall we get dozens and dozens of questions from women wanting to know what sex actually MEANS to men. "Why do men want sex so much?," they ask . . . "If I sleep with a guy does it mean we're getting married?," they plead, "I met this guy and he wanted to tie me up on the first date and bring his ex girlfriend along . . . do you think he likes me?" they beg. (Uhh. Run.)
And again and again I have to repeat ONE big lesson.
Sex doesn't CREATE emotions for men but it does REINFORCE emotions for men.
If a guy already likes you and sees you as "girlfriend material," then sex (good sex, anyway) will make him like you more and maybe even create a little bit of "love."
But if he just sees you as "hookup material" or a "friend with benefits" that's not going to change no matter how many crazy positions you learn or how long you can hold your breath.
The main lesson here is that sex is incredibly important to men (we think about it all the time) but it's not always EMOTIONALLY important. Unlike most women a lot of guys can have dirty, amazing, athletic sex with women they have no feelings for at all and have that not change a damned thing.
Sucks, huh?
So . . .
Don't sleep with a guy to "Make him like you." It won't work. But DO sleep with a guy if he already likes you and you'll "hook him" like a particularly randy trout.
Which brings us to . ..
Hint 2: Worship his package like some religious idol.
OK, let's be honest. . .
Men LOVE their packages.
Love them.
The emotional connection a man feels for his genitalia is something between love and obsession. Men take a crazy, ridiculous and unhealthy amount of time thinking about their genitalia, what their genitalia is feeling what it WANTS to feel and how they can make it feel more.
And because guys love them so much we want YOU to love them too.
I know, I know, they are ugly little shriveled tails hanging off the front of a man (until they're not).
But a POWERFUL masculine dream is "THE POWER OF THE PACKAGE."
Just watch any pornography made for straight guys and you'll see this (incredibly unrealistic) effect in action.
A man simply unzips his pants and suddenly the demure housewife becomes as slick and hot as a water slide on the 4th of July.
Yes, it's ridiculous. But it's also hard wired into men's minds and simply understanding the deep connection a man has to his package (instead of mocking him for it) gives you incredible power.
If you want to get a guy busting down doors to get to you simply send him a text saying . . .
"I can't stop thinking about your package. . . if you were here right now I would . . . "
And make sure to TALK about it while you're having sex too. I promise, he'll like it.
Hint 3: Give Him Sexual Power Over You . . .
OK, this hint is actually a little bit of an extension of number 2 (insert Extenz one liner here) but fundamentally men get off on being able to give women an incredible time in bed without necessarily having to do any work for it.
Actually, here's a funny example.
A few weeks ago I was hanging out with a couple I know in California.
The woman (a hot single mom from Eastern Europe) had gotten one of my programs.
She decided to test it out.
"I can't stop thinking about your arms and how safe I feel in them. You're amazing."
Then she heard the rapid steps on the stairs as her boyfriend RAN to see her. He busted open the door with a lustful smile on his face ready to sweep her into his arms . . .
And then got red faced and a bit embarrassed when he saw my program on the screen.
Anyway . ..
Notice a recurring theme in these "3 Hints?"
They're psychological.
Just like for women, for men sex is 95% in the mind. No amount of "weird tricks" or running your nails down his
chest is going to affect a man as understanding the primal desires of his mind.
Best,
Mr. Sex Guru
Thanks for reading. Comments n criticisms will be appreciated.
I agreed that we only young once and should make full use of our youth to enjoy life. In fact age is a number and no matter what age we should just enjoy.
Agreed too that marriage is the beginning of long commitment. If no conviction better refrain from marriage.
Here to learn from all the tai kor and hope to pickup more tips.
Cheers.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Bro abugga,
Make the best of your youth. You're young only once.
My health is fantastic for a man my age.
My BP, weight and waistline are the same as when I was 20. Actually, my BP of 110/70 is better than when I was 20. I'm not on any medications except the judicious use of a very small dose of Cialis. I may not need to take it. I make love 25 sessions or more a month, a lot more than when I was 20.
I just replied to a bro on my other thread. It's abt life n marriage.
<<<<<<<<<<<<<<Bro hehehaha,
Well said. Only those who are or hv been married can fully understand...
Marriage is NOT an end, it's the beginning of a long, often tough and painful journey plagued by the vicissitudes of life.
Look at your beautiful 18 yo bride now, supposing you're around 20, can you imagine spending the next 60 to 70 yrs w/ her? God bless if both of u can stay healthy for such long time. But can u visualize her when she is 40, 50, 60 or 70 yrs old? Still want to make love to her frequently?
I'm a man, a lao chee ko pek, but I greatly enjoy making love to girls who are 18-24. My two current full mistresses are aged 18 n 22. And I hv many other GFs, both here n in China n elsewhere.
These girls keep me healthy, youthful, energetic n optimistic. Every area of my life has improved and is improving. That is what life is all about. I may not be satisfied w/ them n will look for better genes to hv kids with.
No, I'm not apologetic. On the contrary, I'm fulfilling my duty and obligations of a filial great...grandson to my ancestors. I know they love and approve of me. This is great karma.
Thanks to bro WB for a detailed account of the damage to bao a mistress per month.
Awful loads of moolah to play the field.
Congrats to those who can and dare.
Cheers.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good morning!
I just answered a bro's questions on BY-ing girls.
Bro,
It varies, from 6K to 15K a month if the girl doesn't work at the night scene n doesn't see any other men. She must be at my beck and call. She is a full time mistress.
The damage doesn't include rental of master bedroom/studio, visa fees, school tuition, meals and gifts (optional).
The lower range is generally for girls whom I import directly from China. They hv much lower expectations and often dare not come unless they come in pairs. Of course, more experienced and professional ones may ask for more. But everything is subject to negotiation.
In the last 7 yrs, I hv caught sight of only one girl KP in SG who is worth more than 15K a month in SG. I met her early last yr when I went to lease a master bedroom for my Fujian lao po WX at City Square, who was due to return to SG in 2 days. KP was kept by a man at the time n was going to leave SG in 10 days. WX had to stay in a junior master for a wk first. So they did meet. This is what WX said abt KP: 年轻漂亮， 高挑，很白。他男朋友大约40 岁。Never met her man. She had natural looks w/ no make up n no facial surgery. If I ever see KP or someone equally attractive, anywhere in the world, I'll make an offer she can't refuse. BTW, rental for the master rm was 2,400 a month.
There is something else I like to add. KP looked fantastic in part because I saw her only briefly n in part because she was beyond my reach. She may not look so attractive if I see her again.
If a girl continues to work in the night scene, a part time mistress, you should offer only half the full time rates. This doesn't work for me as it's very difficult to monitor her activities. And don't ever buy such a part time mistress any gifts. For me, it's all or nothing. A girl is either exclusively mine or she is not mine. Doing ST is better than having a part time mistress.
Please dun blame me for re-post a long GURU forum below.
Awesome loads of info inside.
Cheers.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good morning!
A famous Ang Moh relationship guru just sent me this e-mail. His methods work well w/ every healthy heterosexual female.
QUESTION (from a reader)
Just wanted to share a little bit of what your
lessons have done for me. I read your book and
started concentrating on what I thought was my
weak points. I did as your book recommended and
started picturing myself as the cocky funny
person I wanted to be. I even did the whole
daydream practice thing everyday. I work at a
fitness center so I see lots of hot women all
the time. My biggest weakness is that I look
away quickly after eye contact is made. I
decided that before I started trying to
approach women I would make it my goal for a
couple of weeks to just make eye contact and
hold it until they looked away. Ok, here is the
good part. After practicing eye contact for a
couple of weeks and doing the whole mental
exercise thing, I was at work one day working
out after my break and was practicing my eye
contact thing between sets with this really hot
girl near the dumbbell rack.
I knew she noticed but it never bothered me cause
I had no intentions of acting. Well, I had to go
over to get a set of dumbbells for my next
exercise and as I got close to where she was, she
suddenly turned around and said "I have a
boyfriend" and turned around. Normally I would
have just stood there in shock and said nothing
but, I guess all that mental practice paid off.
Without even thinking or pausing, the words just
came out. I said "Hey that's great I am happy for
you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is
probably a major accomplishment for you but to
the rest a the world this is kind of normal so you
might not want to go telling every stranger you
see." Then I just walked off with my weights to
do my sets. 5 min later she comes over to me and
apologizes and asks for my number. Turns out she
didn't have a boyfriend but was just tired of
being picked up by losers while she was trying
to do a workout. Thanks for the pleasant
surprise!
XXY
Ang Moh guru's cooments:
Niiiiice one.
Your letter is really a wonderful affirmation and summary of some of my favorite concepts:
1) Read my book, "Double Your Dating"
2) Actually use the material and mentally
rehearse
3) Start from where you are
4) Be Cocky & Funny
5) Show complete indifference
6) Use illogical Jedi-Level mind power to create
ATTRACTION.
I'm going to talk more about eye contact and body language in a moment, but if you'd like to get the ultimate education on how to be Cocky & Funny, then you MUST take a minute and get this.
OK...onward.
First of all, your story would make NO sense at all to most guys. They would say, "Yeah, whatever. She was probably abused as a child and
wants you to be her daddy" or "Well, if I worked at a gym, I could do that too."
Of course, you realize that this had nothing to do with it...this was a result of you learning about how women are, then preparing, and then taking action.
I couldn't be more impressed.
Now, let's talk about some of the things that were happening that most people would MISS when reading the story...
You mentioned your exercise of keeping eye contact until women look away. This is very powerful. I am guilty of not addressing this
issue more often and I'm glad you mentioned it here.
If you can learn this skill, it will communicate powerfully for you. Great job.
You said, "I guess all that mental practice paid off. With out even thinking or pausing the words just came out."
This is the result of preparation and mental rehearsal. This wasn't "luck". Even though the words were unique to the situation, the MESSAGE
was delivered clearly. By learning how to better communicate in the language that women understand, you created magic.
And, as for the words themselves...
You just got to love saying: "Hey that's great. I am happy for you." (Pause - and in a lower tone) "I know this is probably a major accomplishment for you, but to the rest of the world, this is kind of normal. So, you might not
want to go telling every stranger you see." to a hot woman at the gym!
You INSTANTLY took a situation that would normally strip a man of all his composure and personal power, and then REFRAMED her words in a
way that caused HER to look like the socially inept one.
Then you did something equally powerful:
YOU WALKED AWAY.
In effect, you busted on her, then PROVED BEYOND THE SHADOW OF A DOUBT THAT YOU COULD TAKE HER OR LEAVE HER. Actions really do speak louder than words...most guys would have messed up that situation by standing around waiting for her to say something. You did the right thing by walking away.
When you combine all of these factors together, you get a totally illogical outcome:
ATTRACTION.
She realized that you weren't just some other loser who hoped to maybe get a date by kissing up to her...You turned out to be one of the
EXCEPTIONAL men in the world who have more personal power than her, and one of the even MORE exceptional men who also know how to create
ATTRACTION.
This combination made her feel a feeling that you can't create by DECIDING that you want it. It can only be created by TRIGGERING IT.
Finally, I'd like to comment on the fact that SHE asked YOU for YOUR number. You realize that it's not typical for a woman to approach a man,
apologize, and then ask for his number.
Women will often ask a man for his number just to get rid of him. But not in a situation like this one. This was different. She apologized, then told you that she's tired of being picked up by losers...then asked for your number. This was, in effect, her telling you that she sees you DIFFERENTLY.
All because of your eye contact, followed by a perfect execution of the Cocky and Funny attitude, followed by an excellent physical demonstration of indifference.
Again, to most men this would make no sense at all. If you consulted most relationship books, they would argue that this type of approach would
NEVER work. I mean, men are supposed to "court" women, compliment them...pursue them with gifts and favors, right?
Yeah, right.
The problem is that the mainstream relationship books forgot to TITLE the chapter that suggests this kind of behavior:
"HOW TO BE THE WUSS WOMEN RUN FROM"
...or...
"HOW TO CONVINCE THE WOMAN YOU DESIRE THAT YOU HAVE NO BACKBONE AND WOULD PAY ANY PRICE FOR HER ATTENTION"
...or...
"SIMPLE TECHNIQUES FOR GIVING A WOMAN YOUR REPRODUCTIVE EQUIPMENT ON A PLATTER".
The question I have for you is...
CAN YOU PUT ASIDE YOUR PRECONCEIVED NOTIONS ABOUT WHY MEN AND WOMEN "SHOULD" BE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER LONG ENOUGH TO SEE WHY THEY ACTUALLY ARE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER?
And, can you do what it takes to get yourself from where you are, to where you actually need to be, in order to attract the kinds of women that you would like to meet and date?
It can be done, but you're going to have to do it.
As I mentioned above, the first step is to read my online eBook, "Double Your Dating". That's the best head start I can give you.
You'll be reading it within just a few minutes.
And get yourself a copy of my fantastic program "Body Language For Success With Women And Dating".
You will learn the "animal magnetism" secrets that guys who are "naturals" with women use to attract women using COMMUNICATION ALONE.
My exact sentiments, age is just a number, enjoy while we can.
Hope to learn more from Bro WB too, and thanks for this excellent thread.
Cheers!
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Originally Posted by oxytocin
Bro WB,
I agreed that we only young once and should make full use of our youth to enjoy life. In fact age is a number and no matter what age we should just enjoy.
Agreed too that marriage is the beginning of long commitment. If no conviction better refrain from marriage.
Here to learn from all the tai kor and hope to pickup more tips.
I was thinking abt why some men would pay big buck to ST or BY very ordinary women. I don't need to cite examples, we hv all seen them.
Yesterday I received an e-mail from a guru on seduction, the danger of getting too attached to any one woman n why men should never chase women...which struck a chord with me.
Hi Bro Warbird,
................................I was reminded of one of the most important lessons of both sales and seduction then: don't over-invest in any one prospect, and don't get too attached.
The rookie's folly, of course, is that he allows himself to get too attached to one prospect.
One prospect who is guaranteed to give him precisely nothing.
Rookie salesmen and seducers alike are flying blind through inexperience, and struggling with desperation and an utter lack of abundance mentality. Thus, when they strike upon a customer or a girl who shows even a smidgen of interest, they very often do their best to latch their claws on, and pull out all the stops to try to close the sale.
And there begins the process of investing too much in a girl, and getting too attached to a girl.
Though there are a few exceptions, by and large attachment is formed in direct proportion to the amount of emotional "pursuit" energy you put into a thing.
The more you allow something to affect you emotionally as you pursue it, the more attached to it you will become.
That's why I tell men don't chase women. When you're chasing women, not only are you causing them to flee (you can't give chase if she isn't running first), but you're also getting yourself tied up in emotional knots... that are going to bind you to her.
Except, it's not a two-way bind.
You don't bind her to you by getting emotionally attached to her yourself. To the contrary... the more emotionally attached to a girl you become, generally, the less attached (and interested) she'll be in you.
The more time you spend emotionally pursuing something or someone - and any time you even vaguely "want" something, it's emotional, at least to some degree - the more power you give that something or someone over you.
And what happens when someone has power over you?
She realizes it................................................ .......
I can look at how a girl's interacting with me and tell you almost instantly if she's wasting my time (that is, trying to slot me into a role in her life I'm not interested in occupying) or not. When you're new, you do not have this ability. I certainly didn't always have it.
In fact, I'd say it probably took me a few years of dating lots of different women before I was able to get a fairly reliable read on when my time was being wasted and when any difficulties I was seeing were just the vagaries of life and the girl herself was still interested and committed to moving things ahead.
So there is some amount of paying your dues to get there.
Every rookie salesman wastes time with customers who lead him on and lead him on and never pan out, or wear him down into giving them the deal of a lifetime - and one he ends up regretting having given them later.
Likewise, every rookie ladies' man wastes time with women who lead him on and lead him on and never pan out, or wear him down into accepting a "just friends" role with them, or quietly waiting in the background for her to finish up with her string of all-wrong bad boy hookups and realize that, really, he was the one she wanted all along, she just hadn't seen it (cue romantic music).
These experiences get coded into your memory as "lessons", and you need them there to stand as examples of what not to do, and where you don't want to end up going again in the future.
So don't think you're going to have a few hookups or a girlfriend or two under your belt and be immune to this. It takes time, experience, and getting burned at least a handful of times first before your radar really starts going up and getting attuned to the proper signals.....................................
Those caveats aside, let's talk about the one rule to follow to ensure you don't end up getting too attached to a girl:
As the time it takes to bed her INCREASES, the effort you put into doing so must DECREASE.
Most men take the opposite tack.
For most guys, as the time they put into a girl goes up, the effort into her remains constant, or goes up too.
And that's how chasing happens. An escalating or never-decreasing level of investment as a woman stretches things out and strings the man along.
Likewise in sales - a customer stretches things out longer and longer, piling on more and more demands, and rookie salesmen continue investing the same levels of effort, or more.
My advice - both to greenhorn sellers, and to new-to-the-game seducers - is to reduce your effort in direct proportion to the amount of time that's gone by and investment that's been asked of you.
Getting too attached to a girl before she's yours leads to:
You chasing hard (and her running away)
You becoming tentative and awkward; her meaning more and more to you
You becoming an emotional mess, subject to the whims of her availability
You passing up loads of opportunities with other, more interested women
That last one's the real kicker. All the time you spend chasing a woman with an ever-decreasing probability of ending up with you (the longer the courtship, the less likely it is to ever be consummated) could have been spent on women with a much higher probability of ending up yours - including women prettier, smarter, more fun, and more amazing than the girl you've currently fallen into the attachment trap with.
In sales, you miss out on more and better sales by wasting time on finicky customers who probably aren't going your way anyway, or are going to give you something that's not really worth the time and effort you put into it if you soldier on through and finally get it.
The same is so in seduction - sacrifice your time and energy for a girl you've messed up on or who is not very interested, and you will end up paying $500 for a $10 item.
Don't let yourself get too attached. Be cognizant of when you're spinning your wheels, and decrease effort as time increases.
Then instead of wasting time, you'll save it - and save yourself from the draining emotions of chasing after women who aren't interested (or have lost interest), too....................................
Best,
Your Guru
"You will end up paying $500 for a $10 item." Hahaha, that is how many men hv ended up paying much more than what some women are really worth.
IMHO, never ever get too attached to any one woman, regardless of your RS w/ her n whether you've known her for 3 minutes or 30 yrs, hahaha.
Have a great day!!
Bro WB
Bro WB
Thank you for a wonderful thread.
The above was a long forum but contains plenty of facts.
That is really bad news! The good news? You're in great company haha. You're one of the billions of men, in the last 5 thousand yrs of recorded history, who find themselves in this painful predicament.
Let me repeat. If a man is more emotionally attached to a woman than she is to him, he is the one caring more in the RS, he will lose power n she will become less n less attracted to him. What happens next is predictable. He will become needy n desperate for her affection n company...like a drowning man trying to cling to anything that will keep him afloat. And how would she react? She will lose whatever attraction n affection she had for him initially...very soon she will find him repulsive n would break away asap hahaha.
What I hv described is true whether he has been w/ her 30 minutes or 30 yrs. I hv seen a rich, tall n handsome SG friend who was dumped by an ugly PRC whore in her 30s simply cuz he lost his control n power in the RS. He was madly in love w/ her! He even offered to give her money upfront n marry her!! I would say he kena gong tao. She despised him n flatly rejected him n chose to continue to be a whore back in PRC!!
Take home lesson? A man must hv power in any RS, n he should be the one who cares the least n he must be prepared to walk out for good, no matter how much he loves the woman.
Hope + Uncertainty = Attraction (Passion)
Understanding this formula is more important than your looks, height, age, status, money, intelligence, education, masculinity, personality, character, skills, strategies, experience, etc put together. And if u could give her PVO, more prolonged n more intense than any other men, she will be sexually n emotionally addicted to u, even if u look like the Hunchback of Notre Dame, hahaha.
Where is ur emotional control n self mastery?
Bro, STOP contacting the woman who is causing u pain. Never ever ctc her again. Let her make the first move. If she doesn't, forget her n find other younger, prettier n safer pussies. If she is living w/ u now, give her 24 hrs to move out, hahaha. Be firm n heartless. Doing so gives u the best chance to turn the table on her n for her to become attracted to u. She may even fall for u soon. There r no other ways.
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