Yes you are right. If a man meets "the one" he must control himself. If one ends up like the male lead in the classic Michael Bolton song "when a man loves a woman" , the consequences can be impending doom.
Thank you for your kind words bro wb. We ended up going for 10 rounds that night. She and I are now in different countries and she is yearning for me. Next month we will be meeting in eastern Europe. Will update more in detail of my experiences!
Bro WB
Michael Bolton classic songs " When A man loves a woman"
If you can go 10 rounds with any woman then you are not the claimed lao chee kor pek.
"The true test of a man's self mastery is when he meets his Special One." - really lovely quote.
Thanks and be happy.
__________________ My idol - Sir Alex Ferguson (THE BOSS)
I thought death means end the SUFFERINGS. Living means you have to accept both happiness and sufferings. As mortal we have no choice because of inevitable accidents, illnesses, broken-hearted loves, etc.
I like to share something interesting from an Ang Mo guru on the #1 trait women universally want in a man.
Hi, Mr Guru,
You’re really awesome, man. I read your newsletter every day
and have invested in most of your programs! You really share
great stuff. I have a question for you. What do you believe is
the #1 trait women universally want in a man? And how do I
develop it? Thank you.
Your Disciple
***
Hi, Mr Disciple. Thanks for the kind words and TAKING
ACTION. :-)
Wow! It’s a GREAT question.
There are many traits women universally find
attractive. Leadership, sense of humour, confidence,
and so on…
BUT if you ask me for the #1, the MOST
important, the HOLY GRAIL, if you prefer, here’s
it is:
A WINNING ATTITUDE.
Because without it, you can’t develop the others.
There are 5 components to a winning attitude.
1. Take 100% responsibility for your life, results,
emotions, the good, the bad, and everything in between…
I mean, 100% ABSOLUTE TOTAL RESPONSIBILITY.
You don’t blame mommy, daddy, your high school
teacher, your ex, your friends—NO one.
2. Never give up. (Hint: This is what separates guys who
become great with women from the others)
3. Take action… FAST. Don’t wait for the stars
to align or the permission of someone.
4. Have a sense of humour about yourself. Don’t
take yourself too seriously.
5. Ambition. Go after something, have a dream,
vision and goals.
You build a winning attitude over time.
Women can tell when someone is like that, because
the attitude triggers her subconscious survival mechanism.
Then, she can’t help but be open to you.
That’s also how you keep her forever.
So few men are like that.
Great news! That means that if you just make
a little effort, you’re better than 99% of men
out there.
That’s it for today.
Have an amazing day!
Mr Guru
IMHO, you can't hv a lasting winning attitude unless you hv awesome self mastery.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bro WB
Very good forum above.
"You build a winning attitude over time.
Women can tell when someone is like that, because
the attitude triggers her subconscious survival mechanism.
Then, she can’t help but be open to you.
That’s also how you keep her forever."
What is more important than excellent or optimal health?
IMHO, it's survival and preservation of life. This is no 1. One must avoid accidents and situations that may threaten one's very survival.
Let me give u one example. There was a 42 yo cardiologist, originally from China, who often rode bicycle out on the road for fitness in Washington state, Gotham country. He was killed by a truck several years ago. There are many, many other tragic cases. You get the idea.
No 2 would be excellent or optimal health.
Everything else is of secondary importance.
I just received an email from a Gotham guru on:
How Often Should You Ejaculate?
An interesting new study from the epidemiology department at Harvard has me changing my mind (and my recommendation) about ejaculation...
In general it's been known, and I've been saying, that there is nothing wrong with ejaculating as often as you enjoy it-- either through sex or masturbation.
I teach men exercises for learning how to have "non-ejaculatory orgasms", which, as the name implies, means that you have an orgasm, but without the mess.
The REASON for learning how to have orgasm without ejaculation as a man is that when you don't ejaculation, there is no "REFRACTORY PERIOD" (which is that 30-120 minutes right after ejaculation where you can't maintain your erection and you lose interest in sex)... which means that theoretically when you do this practice, you can just continue having sex as long as you want and have as many orgasms as you can handle.
Which is GREAT! And FUN!
But...
One of the strong recommendations in the program is that to learn how to have non-ejaculatory orgasms you should abstain from ejaculation for at least a week (more for older guys).
In fact, I personally had been on a regimen where I ejaculated only once about every 7-10 days in order to maximize my non-ejaculatory orgasms, my libido, and the quality of my erections. Practicing this way WORKS, and it's extremely enjoyable.
Only thing is, according to the latest (and most complete) research, men who ejaculate more than 21 times/month have a LOWER RISK FOR PROSTATE CANCER.
This is extremely significant.
While prostate cancer is generally not fatal for most men who get it...
Most men DO get it.
In fact, many men who have prostate cancer don't even know they have it. They just suffer from some of the symptoms as they age, but it doesn't kill them.
The numbers look like this: 1 in 3 men will have it by the time they reach their 50s, and 80% of men will have it by their 70s.
And symptoms include loss of sexual function, difficulty achieving erection, and frequent need to pee (which can mess up your sleep, which leads to a series of many other problems).
And BELIEVE ME, even if you're not in your 50s now... you are not going to want these problems when you get to your 50s.
And here's the kicker:
While your chances of getting it in your 50s are about 1 in 3 (30% ), there's virtually NOTHING that is PROVEN to lower to risk.
Many supplements and herbs (particularly lycopene from cooked tomatoes) are seen as "promising" to reduce the risk, NOTHING is proven effective...
Until now.
The new study shows a decrease in risk of a whopping 20% in men of all ages, all activity levels, and all ethnicities from ejaculating more often (at least 21 times/month).
How significant do I think this is?
Well, I've personally started to change my own habits to ejaculate at least 5 times/week.
Yes, it makes non-ejaculatory orgasm much more challenging for me. But on balance I think it's worth it. Obviously you may decide otherwise--this is a very personal decision.
But for the majority of my readers I'd say this is good reason to keep your girlfriend up late more frequently, or just break out the lube and take care of business yourself.
For Passion (and your health),
Mr Guru
Bro WB
I shall tried to ejaculate as often as possible to prevent prostrate cancer.
"You build a winning attitude over time.
Women can tell when someone is like that, because
the attitude triggers her subconscious survival mechanism.
Then, she can’t help but be open to you.
That’s also how you keep her forever."
I was reading the forum below and felt I should comment.
Sexual Urgency VS Sexual Pressure.
Really eye opening.
Hope to learn more from experienced brothers here.
Cheers.
Quote:
Originally Posted by warbird
Good afternoon,
I just received the following email from Mr Guru.
SEXUAL URGENCY VS. SEXUAL PRESSURE
This time I'm going to let you in on what may very well be the
"secret of the universe" when it comes to creating mutual sexual
attraction between a woman and yourself and acting on it.
Let it be known that this may not fully register the first time you
read it. You may need to peruse this whole enchilada a couple of
times for it to really hit home.
So with that in mind, let's hurry up and go for it. I'll keep it
as concise as possible.
Now obviously, all of us have seen a woman and realized instantly
that we were sexually attracted to her. We may have even felt
something move in our boxers right there on the spot.
Well, when that sort of thing has happened to you, what was going
through your mind?
Somehow I doubt it was to the effect of, "You know, that's one sexy
chick. Someday when I feel like it, I'm going to have to get
around to having sex with her."
My bet is it was more like, "Whoa...I'd love to get her naked and
do unspeakably naughty things to her RIGHT NOW."
Let's face it. Horniness is NOT patient, is it? That's just how
biological urges roll. The same holds true for hunger, thirst,
breathing, sleeping, etc.
So let's call that impulse in the moment "sexual urgency".
"Sexual urgency" = "fervent desire to have sex ASAP"
This is perfectly NORMAL.
It's just like when you're hungry you want to EAT.
If you happen to find yourself at the bottom of a swimming
pool, you'll probably scramble to the surface and BREATHE
as quickly as you can.
But unlike other physiological needs we all have, sex is unique:
When satisfied in the most fulfilling manner (i.e. not through
masturbation), it requires the active participation of someone
else.
(For what it's worth, some of you may feel like issuing a rebuttal
to that last statement. But ultimately, I find it really hard to
believe you'd "rather jack off" than be with a real, live woman.
For most men that's a cheap substitute, so I invite you to shelve
any bitterness toward women that you may be feeling, if only long
enough to consider the real point here. Cool?)
So this means that in order for your desires to come to fruition,
she's going to have to agree to help satisfy them.
She's not like the air around you that you can breathe freely
without its permission, or the can of ravioli you buy at the
grocery store and wolf down without its express consent.
Now, for the record, I'm firmly of the belief that MOST women
aren't exactly going to get a room with any and every horny
guy who introduces himself and suggests doing the "wild thing"
together.
Let me be the first to admit that in the homo sapiens species there
tends to be a process associated with any sexual end result.
At this point in the whole train of events, you're hot for a
certain woman and yes, you therefore need HER to be hot for YOU as
well.
So what many, many guys do is to enact a strategy of exerting
SEXUAL PRESSURE on her.
This idea of "sexual pressure" is based on the desperate hope of
making a woman give us what we want (i.e. sex).
Welcome to where infamous pickup artist terms like "escalation",
"building compliance" and "sealing the deal" come from.
Think about it: Every single one of those terms implies a focus on
getting one's own needs met, preferably with as little negotiation
and/or resistance from the "target" as possible.
Again, this is actually the LOGICAL, and dare I say NORMAL "knee
jerk" response on the part of our reptilian brains to the
biological problem we perceive to be at hand.
But it's the WRONG one. In fact, it's the diametric opposite of
what's really going to work.
Remember, deserving what you want is almost ALWAYS the key to
success with women.
As discussed so far, both sexual urgency AND sexual pressure are
all about US and OUR needs. The former leads to the latter.
BUT...here's the big takeaway for you.
The more evolved and more effective way to proceed is to turn your
attention from how you might PRESSURE her to meet YOUR sexual
needs...and instead consider how you might create a similar sexual
urgency in HER.
That's right. Instead of trying to make her "comply", how about
influencing her to WANT YOU as badly as you want her?
After all, if BOTH of you feel that sexual urgency, what's stopping
either of you (at least at the biological level, if not the social)
from acting on it?
This couldn't make more sense, right? There's zero awkwardness, no
conniving and certainly fewer hard feelings when we genuinely
seduce a woman at her core rather than pressuring her.
Consider how needy and desperate it must look trying to "seal the
deal" with a woman by "escalating" her into "compliance". I mean,
what part do HER natural, human sexual urges play in all of that?
Such a lame-o strategy is clearly favored only by men who assume
they have NO CHANCE at creating real, sexual attraction in a woman.
That's a rookie mistake if there ever was one.
The next time you find yourself sexually attracted to a woman, get
a hold of yourself. Recognize your animal instincts, call them
out, and take control over both your emotions and your actions.
Relax, take a deep breath, and start trusting your own natural
masculinity to create SEXUAL URGENCY in her.
Trust that it will take less time than you suspect, and that
because she's a woman your masculine presence will function as
nature designed it to.
Be that "big four" man. BELIEVE confidently in your masculine
power, and then be sure to help her feel comfortable in your
presence. Show enough character to consider her HUMAN role in the
whole matter.
Sexual pressure has the OPPOSITE and more detrimental effect, by
the way. So less pressure and more masculine charm actually equals
a greater chance of sexual activity between a man and a woman.
And what do you know? That outcome is exactly what you wanted to
begin with.
Only this way SHE wants it every bit as badly as you do. What
could be better?
I finally have some time now to pen down my recent experiences, I have now been spending a full month in a foreign country with my new found love. The following are my earnest and honest thoughts in detail
As per earlier posts, my new girl is a beauty in her own right, big expressive eyes, extremely fair, shapely body and does not need any make up at all when she goes out. No make up at all!
She earns her own keep, spends her own money and is frugal. All this time together the most expensive meal I ever had to pay for was only 50 sgd for the two of us. She doesnt mind a simple cheap street stall even if she is all made up for the night.
Now I am in her country, she has rented a new apartment in the name of us, I have all access to the apartment and car. She is devoted to her man and takes care of me in every way, I.E, cooks when I am hungry, forbids me to do the housework. I am certainly sure girls like that will be hard to come by in Singapore. And I will not be sorry for what I am going to say, I still think Singaporean girls are detrimental to the genetic pool of the country, with the exceptional of a rare small portion. From my observations, many "pretty" Singaporean girls rely excessively on make up. I wonder why so many boys pansie up to them. I am most certain if they have emotional and self mastery they will not belittle their own position as a man and know they have many choices, both in Singapore and overseas.
On a side note, I have been giving her a lot of PVOs, my dear lads, it is true what dear Bro WB has been stressing all along, when you give a woman PVO, it has all the benefits that come along with it. From my own experiences it is a mental game, not a physical one, you can pump and thrust all you want for an hour and a woman won't even have an orgasm at all. But if you do it right, within a few minutes of penetration, tada.
I have recently read a book titled " the prince " by Niccolo Machiavelli, and I edited a quote in it for all of us. - " fortune is a female and if you want to stay on top you have to slap and thrust, for she allows herself to be mastered by those who are adventurous rather than those who are afraid to offend. She is therefore, a woman-like, a lover of MEN, because they are less cautious, more wild and violent with audacity to command her. "
Tks for sharing. You're indeed a young master of pussies!
I must admit there is some truth about your statement on SG gals n genetic pool haha. The prettiest n sexiest SG gals either marry sons of very rich families or some Ang Mos, unfortunately.
Yes, if a man doesn't give his girls/women PVOs or more scientifically, Copulatory Vaginal Orgasms CVOS, she will be miserable, sooner n later, and he will hv to face the unhappy consequences...
I have read the Prince by Machiavelli. The quote I remember is a bit different n I hv looked it up.
"My opinion on the matter is this: it's better to be impulsive than cautious; fortune is female and if you want to stay on top of her you have to slap and thrust. You'll see she's more likely to yield that way than to men who go about her coldly. And being a woman she likes her men young, because they're not so cagey, they're wilder and more daring when they master her. (25.10)"
Yes, fortune n beautiful young women favour the BOLD.
My encounter with KTV gal wasn't a pleasant one. I thought I had found someone who was not bother about my family status. When she went back after her WP, I flew over to meet her as and when schedule permited. Lots of emotions and $$ involved over the past years. Things went terribly wrong when she returned to SG as a mummy. Real colour shows. A gold digger and two timer. I was native enough to give in to the excuses she gave for not meeting me outside her club. A painful lesson learnt.