girlfriend/wife who doesn't like sex at all - Page 5

singexpat · #61 13-10-2010, 04:47 PM

TS, i admire your patience and character that you can tahan this for 9 yrs..
Hwever, in the long term (inclusive of marriage), you have to think twice.
it sounds evil to dump a girl juz cos of no/low sex but that is precisely why men roam after marriage - insufficient SEX...

Be kind to others, but be KIND to urself TOO!

lightning · #62 13-10-2010, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by singexpat

TS, i admire your patience and character that you can tahan this for 9 yrs..
Hwever, in the long term (inclusive of marriage), you have to think twice.
it sounds evil to dump a girl juz cos of no/low sex but that is precisely why men roam after marriage - insufficient SEX...

Be kind to others, but be KIND to urself TOO!

TS, you can hint to ur GF saying that you heard that some frds who got married with sexually inactive gf who and in the end went to look for extra activities because their wives cannot provide sexual fulfillment. See how she react?

If she still does not get the hint and refuse to change, I got nothing to say.

samyboys · #63 13-10-2010, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by lightning

TS, you can hint to ur GF saying that you heard that some frds who got married with sexually inactive gf who and in the end went to look for extra activities because their wives cannot provide sexual fulfillment. See how she react?

If she still does not get the hint and refuse to change, I got nothing to say.

some woman will tell u if thats the case, go ahead and find, as thats what my other half told me when i drop hints

GoldenMonkey1 · #64 14-10-2010, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by samyboys

some woman will tell u if thats the case, go ahead and find, as thats what my other half told me when i drop hints

Drop the hints via emails or msn chats. That is black and white.

Frankiestine · #65 14-10-2010, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by zoop

yes. nothing of that. i do all the painting, all the action. but i get nothing bad but just aim and shoot. and she will always want me to end it fast. and if she cum first, i get nothing. cannot continue. isn't it depressing. but im not ready to cheat on her yet...

Sorry to burst the bubble but if you feel you not ready to cheat on her then i can guarantee you that once married you will...sexual compatibility is one of the important component to building a happy and successful marriage..

lightning · #66 14-10-2010, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Sorry to burst the bubble but if you feel you not ready to cheat on her then i can guarantee you that once married you will...sexual compatibility is one of the important component to building a happy and successful marriage..

Hi Bro Frankie, I could not agree no more and long time no see

Frankiestine · #67 14-10-2010, 01:48 PM

Hi bro lightning, how are things? Well hope TS take a hint from people like me who are now in a dysfunctional sexual relationship. The only relief are WL and FL but now I am working on a FB relationship.

lightning · #68 14-10-2010, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Hi bro lightning, how are things? Well hope TS take a hint from people like me who are now in a dysfunctional sexual relationship. The only relief are WL and FL but now I am working on a FB relationship.

Currently I already quit FL scene and currently concentrating on my career. good luck with ur FB relationship, hopefully I will either a GF or FB

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sidewinder2007 · #70 14-10-2010, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by zoop

anyone with girlfriend or wife who refuse or dislike sex? been with my gf for 9 years, throughout the relationship we seldom have sex becos she will always have 101 reasons not to. no sex, no petting. as if like friends except we hug and kiss (no french kiss, she say she don't like saliva)

sex will come as a bonus, use 1 hand fingers can calculate the time we had in a year. tried talking to her, but every time she will ask me go find another woman, don't be with her.

its frustrating getting rejected all the time, and she doesn't feel the need for intimacy. no sex nvm, petting also not allowed. now only way is to trust my good old hand. but i don't think i can take it much longer.

any advise?

serious reply only please.

not a good start in my opinion if u intend to get married eventually. whether she likes it or not, sex is important in ensuring a happy marriage and building the bond between husband and wife.
suggest u go look for a new GF.

Me Siam Bu · #71 14-10-2010, 10:17 PM

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Originally Posted by GoldenMonkey1

Drop the hints via emails or msn chats. That is black and white.

lol agree agree

Sex4Love · #72 15-10-2010, 01:18 AM

Here are a few ways for you to try to see if you can slowly turn her on:

(1) Talk to her

Talk just about the things that excite her. Knowing what can arouse your partner mentally will help you to work magic when the moment comes. When you need something or like some changes, be truthful about how you are feeling but be careful not to assign blame.

Tell her that she is lovely or compliment her on something she worked hard on such as her hair or clothing. Girls like to feel that you find them eye-catching. It makes them feel better about themselves and they have to feel sexy first before they can act sexy. This is entirely in reverse of the way men behave. For that reason you must appreciate this difference before you be successful at pleasing your woman.

(2) Give her a hand (if she stays/co-habits with you)

How time and again do you listen to her telling you she is pressured or exhausted? Whether or not she goes away to work, or stays at home to take care of children and household, or both, if at the end of the day, she is confronted with unclean dishes and unfinished housework, how can she feel sexy? Hence you ought to lend a hand to her. You can vacuum the carpet or wash some dishes. This thoughtfulness not only lightens her burden, it also demonstrates you care very much about her.

(3) Touch her often

When you stroll past her, run your hand across her back. Race your finger along her collarbone when she sits besides you. Hold her hand when you walk across the road, along the street or sitting in a movie. Offer her an affectionate hug will make her feel assured. Embrace her while she chats about her narrative of her day.

A quickie 5-minute massage on the neck, feet or back can be a wonderful way to let her know you care. Kiss her simply for the sake of kissing her and not meant for the purpose of initiating sex or humoring her. Look into her eyes for a lengthy period of time. Research has shown that prolonged eye contact builds up intimacy and this is what she desires to feel with you. These are the little signals that you want to touch her in non-sexual situations and make the transition on the way to intimacy a lot less abrupt.

(4) Play romantic games

A suggestion here is the 20 questions which is a simple yet perfect game played by kids, where you have to guess the answer by asking questions that can only be replied with "yes" or "no". Add a sexy twist to it and this game can make up for one steamy conversation! What type of questions would you have to ask to figure out what the sex position is, or what erotic gadget your partner is thinking of? This will work miracles to start the lines of communication and lead to mental arousal.

(5) Role playing

Fantasy can be tons of enjoyment and leads to mental arousal as well. Pretending you are somebody else makes it possible for you to venture to places you will not usually go. It means leaving your comfort zone and into another - acting!

Just see in your mind's eye yourself and your partner playing the role of headmistress and naughty pupil, getting into a fling with "secretary" and taking naughty photos, photographer and models, stripper and client.

Imaginations can run wild as expectations can be thrown out of the window and traditions conveniently disregard. The time you use up for role playing will be well-spent through communicating and pleasuring yourself and your lover.

Sextisfaction

My-Melody · #73 15-10-2010, 02:59 AM

I'm in the same situation as u do. Just that it's my bf who doesn't really get intimate with me. I tried talking to him about it and even suggested breaking up but things go back to the same situation after a while. I'm getting used to it though. Maybe u can try talking to her abt it first. Good luck to u!

lightning · #74 15-10-2010, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by My-Melody

I'm in the same situation as u do. Just that it's my bf who doesn't really get intimate with me. I tried talking to him about it and even suggested breaking up but things go back to the same situation after a while. I'm getting used to it though. Maybe u can try talking to her abt it first. Good luck to u!

U may pm to manny for help and look back for few suggestions as stated.

Sex4Love · #75 15-10-2010, 06:34 PM

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