FB? FwB? NSA? Sex Partner?

[Reoxy]

Originally Posted by smartke

lolx... u hv bcome the MODERATOR of my thread... muahahahaha...

but u also disturb disturb, not discussin anything on the topic ler...

I have completed my contribution to the discussion. Now I am just browsing through to see if there are any interesting discussions on this topic. So far everything is pretty cliche.

Many people wants FB with some emotional attachments yet without the emotional burden. That is NOT what FB is about.

I suggest people start recognizing this fact.

So I contribute a NEW term for those seeking a fuck with some emotional support but without the responsibility:

NEBGRS - Non-Exclusive Boy-Girl Relationship with Sex

Originally Posted by zacarie

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I have no interest in Gay Bars

Pls let me know if you can get discounts for KTVs with hostesses.

Originally Posted by hickeybites

To an extent I agree with Reoxy; such terms do seem more relevant when one or both of the parties are either attached or married to someone else. If both parties are single, wouldn't they become more invested and the attempt to form a more "recognized" relationship be stronger?

Thank you. To me 2 people having sex is just 2 people having sex. Sex is a simple thing so I try not to be too complicated on how I term it.

To me, there are only 2 kinds of sex: Legal Sex & Illegal Sex

Legal Sex - Sex with my Lawful Wedded Wife
Illegal Sex - Sex with ALL other Women

To me, there is no such thing as Free Sex. My Sex are all Paid Sex - one way or the other.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by Reoxy

So I contribute a NEW term for those seeking a fuck with some emotional support but without the responsibility:

NEBGRS - Non-Exclusive Boy-Girl Relationship with Sex
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To me, there are only 2 kinds of sex: Legal Sex & Illegal Sex

Legal Sex - Sex with my Lawful Wedded Wife
Illegal Sex - Sex with ALL other Women

To me, there is no such thing as Free Sex. My Sex are all Paid Sex - one way or the other.

wah lao... ur NEW term damn long ler... can shorter abit or not? also very diff to rem lor... jus fyi... all the terms discussed here r actually "non- exclusive". NONE of them r "exclusive"! think u better stick to "FwB" la.. more suitable for u... wif emotional, but no commitment nor responsibility... lolx...

on the other hand, i do agree wif u on "there is no such thing as Free Sex". its paid, one way or the other; or directly / indirectly. tats y there's a new meanin for FOC. NOT Free Of Charge, but, Fuck On Credit...

btw, pls share ur exp la... since u mentioned tat all the discussion r pretty cliche.

[Reoxy]

Not interested in emotional. I just what to shoot my cum.

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by hickeybites

I don't think men in general really care... but as a lady I prefer to treat my friend as a friend & not just some tool!

I dun think it's fair to stereotype like that.
To me, it all boils down to (mutual) respect ... without this respect, how can & why would any relationship between 2 humans continue (or even last longer than a ONS)?

To me, my fundamental objective is to find sexual gratification for myself ... but due to my own circumstances, I play by the rules & expect the other party to do the same. It is for this reason that it is of utmost importance I know the other party understand (without a doubt) the differences between FB, FwB, lover, etc.

From there onwards, we can set the rules right, from the very onset ... & I will play the game abiding by that very set of rules.
However, I'm seasoned in this aspect & so, am rather immune ... as in I can whisper "I love you" into the ears of the other party just so she can reach her most intensive multiple orgasms, but without even meaning a single letter of those 3 taboo words.
As for the fresher ones (being humans afterall), they may well 日久生情 & begin to push the envelope originally defined by the agreed rules. This is the reason why I, just like you, always prefer to have FwB relationships (rather than other combo) ... simply because they last the longest & are almost always void of expectations.

Originally Posted by hickeybites

But when it came to my own turn & after the whole thing had wrapped up, I realized that it did make a bit of a difference.

Yes, a lot of things in life is like that ... for example, people readily condemn extra-marital affairs until they themselves are entangled in one. I'm not about to suggest what is right or what is wrong ... most of the time, many things are just plain different shades of gray.
However, things are just gonna so much less complicated if we can categorise them simply in "confirmed black", "maybe black", "maybe white" & "confirmed white" ... hence, your realising the relevance of the subtle differences.
That you have been there & done that before, it's another good score in your score-card from the University of Hard Knocks. At the very least, it just made your life story a tad bit more colourful than the rest of the folks around you ... & if really nothing else, it'd impressive reading for your grandchildren in the years to come.

Originally Posted by hickeybites

When I say recognized it's like going out on the streets & holding hands, exhibiting all forms of PDA (public display of affection) -- doing all the things that couples do.
With my ex-FwB, we kept all "beneficial" activities strictly discreet. Otherwise he's really one of my good friends and thankfully remains so to this day (we're just friends now).

Speaking for myself only (& not any of the other guys) ... but I readily exceed your stated conventions.
Whether it's FB or FwB, I always hold hands openly & almost always french when waiting for the lights to turn green ... not that I want all the attention I can get but I need the other party to know that she's not a paid whore to me - yes, like what has been pointed out recently, payment is not restrcited to monetary terms only.
However, they are still certain "recognition" which is out-of-bound to me ... but that's ofr me to know & you (as in whoever is interested) to find out.

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by Reoxy

To me, there are only 2 kinds of sex: Legal Sex & Illegal Sex

Legal Sex - Sex with my Lawful Wedded Wife
Illegal Sex - Sex with ALL other Women

To me, there is no such thing as Free Sex. My Sex are all Paid Sex - one way or the other.

Allow me to share my perspectives ... albeit in a very naughty manner.

Legal sex = sex with any willing woman above age 16
Illegal sex = sex with any unwilling women, sex with women under 16 or both

Where legality is concerned, illegal sex can get you thrown into jail ... but I'm sure your having sex with any woman other than your wife would not land you in jail.
So, what you really wanted to express should be whether certain sexual indulgence is legit for you ... but all this boils down to one's own moral conventions, which is similar to the world of gray I talked about in the previous thread.
Take this for example, I can bonk any willing married woman without batting an eyelid ... but at the same time, I'd be preaching to her about the virtues of being a responsible mummy too.
So, am I a devil or am I an angel?

[smartke]

Originally Posted by Reoxy

Not interested in emotional. I just what to shoot my cum.

hmmm... y m i not surprise... anyway, thks again for ur support! appreciate it.

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bros & sis, thk u for sharin for ur views, opinion & experience. can see more & more constructive discussion. keep it comin & hope to see more ppl join in to share their views & experience as well.

thks again to all who hv contributed. cheers...

[Reoxy]

Originally Posted by KingEros

So, am I a devil or am I an angel?

I think you are just a very talkative man.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by Reoxy

I think you are just a very talkative man.

at least, he shares his views as married man. i hv not rch tat stage yet, so, his views r quite impt to me, as a learnin stage.

[smartke]

somethin to share...

a fren once told me abt 5 languages of Love: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Gifts, Act of services & Physical touch. (not sure if i rem all of them correctly..)

anyway, my point is... has anyone (guys & gers) applied all the above in their r/ship, b it FwB, BGR or marriage?

jus a thot...

[tan-tan]

Originally Posted by smartke

a fren once told me abt 5 languages of Love: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Gifts, Act of services & Physical touch. (not sure if i rem all of them correctly..)

anyway, my point is... has anyone (guys & gers) applied all the above in their r/ship, b it FwB, BGR or marriage?

Most guys speak all the 5 languages of love at some point in time. The problem is if you don't use the languages often enough, it starts to erode away. Not sure how many people can maintain the fluency in all 5 of them. When more pressing problems hover above my head, the only language I speak is !@#$%^&*.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by tan-tan

Most guys speak all the 5 languages of love at some point in time. The problem is if you don't use the languages often enough, it starts to erode away. Not sure how many people can maintain the fluency in all 5 of them. When more pressing problems hover above my head, the only language I speak is !@#$%^&*.

lolx... probably u can create "5 languages of problem" instead... shldnt b diff for u...

anyway, which of the 5 Love languages, is/are most commonly used by u then?

[tan-tan]

Originally Posted by smartke

anyway, which of the 5 Love languages, is/are most commonly used by u then?

It always starts with the first 4 languages. Subsequently, I use mostly physical touch.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by tan-tan

It always starts with the first 4 languages. Subsequently, I use mostly physical touch.

a typical guy reactions! lolx... of cos, there r minority who dun la...

hmmm... i wonder which of the 5 tat the gers wld prefer?

[BiRd13]

Originally Posted by smartke

somethin to share...

a fren once told me abt 5 languages of Love: Words of affirmation, Quality time, Gifts, Act of services & Physical touch. (not sure if i rem all of them correctly..)

anyway, my point is... has anyone (guys & gers) applied all the above in their r/ship, b it FwB, BGR or marriage?

jus a thot...

Bro.. should be Words of Affection ba... hehe

I do apply for my FB... which she's my wifey now... =)

[smartke]

Originally Posted by BiRd13

Bro.. should be Words of Affection ba... hehe

I do apply for my FB... which she's my wifey now... =)

see... somehow i gotta feelin somewhere wen wrong...

bro bird, thks for the correction, & gd to know tat u apply for ur wifey now.
btw, may i presume tat u apply all of them till date? sorry if i hv asked too much...