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My wife has fibromyalgia and depression and she has been on antidepressants for a few years
She has no libido at all and we have sex once a month or less when she is relatively pain free..
She has sometimes joked that may be I should go to geylang , but she is not aware of my chionging and will definitely be hurt if I get caught
So I keep it discrete
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Originally Posted by TheIdesOfMarch
A lot of things in life is like that, the more you try the more you don't get. The moment you stop bothering to try actively for something, suddenly it happens for you.
Share my own personal story about my parents. My parents were married for more than 10 years before managing to conceive me. During that period of time they both tried everything short of doing IVF. Couldn't figure out whose body was the infertile one or the one that had fertility issues. I really respected my dad for sticking it out with my mum all throughout those years not just because it was a love marriage for him and my mum, but because he was doing it in the face of what frankly was very spiteful and callous treatment by his own mother (my fraternal side grandmother) who was telling him off for marrying a woman who couldn't give him a son or a child, and at various points in that 10+ years...
1) Attempting to psycho my dad to divorce my mum for other hopefully fertile women
2) Take a concubine/mistress and conceive a child with them whilst staying married to what would by then be his main/first wife (like some sort of Chinese imperial palace drama BS)
or worst of all...
3) Saying that he and his infertile wife could adopt one of their nephews or nieces to be their legal child (despite those nephews/nieces' parents both being still alive and capable of raising them well).
In the end after 10+ years my parents gave up trying and just accepted that they might be childless after all and finally booked their honeymoon to NZ, complete with polar/winter cruise. Guess what? They found out a few months before the trip that they finally had me, all natural conception no medication no TCM no IVF no nothing.
I've no doubt though that after I was born my parents basically had a sexless marriage out of just sheer exhaustion and being all done with sex for procreation purposes. I can barely remember any times my parents were ever physically affectionate in front of me beyond hand holding, and probably only one or two times my dad even bought my mum flowers. Our family dynamic was very stormy and difficult throughout my childhood years all the way to adulthood when I finally sort-of left the family nest by going abroad for uni. But all this time they still stuck through their marriage to the present day as life partners.
It's not a stretch to say that for my family and my parents' marriage the following saying is true: "这个家,有义没有情" (this family/home has duty but no love/sentimentality). We're who we are to each other because of duty and legal status, but there's little love lost and no sentimentality to speak of even between my parents as husband and wife.
Somehow me and my parents we make it work the way it does, but it's not something that people should be emulating by any means. Certainly it's left me very much emotionally stunted and ironically finding love and familial ties/relationships with extended family difficult to comprehend and understand compared to other people (one of a few other reasons why I struggle to hold down romantic relationships). Growing up in a nuclear family held together by duty makes me very independent and a solo lone ranger, but I tell you one thing it's a very much sad and lonely an existence.
you share something amazing bro
Whatever the problem, it is best to find a way to improve it and make each other happy. Even though humans sometimes have a selfish side, they feel that only themselves are worthy of happiness
Happy for you bro, sometimes don't have baby might be a blessing in disguise. Can have the free time to do whatever you enjoy. I have 3 young kids, wife super not happy with 3 baby
Yes. Recently no sex from wife too although we shared the housework and taking care of the little ones. Her work is already 8-7 and comes home after 8. Wake up at 6.30am on the next morning and life goes on.
Taking care of small kids is no joke. I just requesting a Bj at the end of the day, because I'm also very tired but the asnwer is always no.
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Having kids definite changed a couples life. I am together with my wife for 19 years, married for 13 years. I was all ok until i had 1st child. At that moment of my life started to cheong��. Ever since that, unable to stop. Seems pretty common married guys still cheong/cheating? Should I still look for girls or should find ways to suppress such urge?
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Yes. Recently no sex from wife too although we shared the housework and taking care of the little ones. Her work is already 8-7 and comes home after 8. Wake up at 6.30am on the next morning and life goes on.
Taking care of small kids is no joke. I just requesting a Bj at the end of the day, because I'm also very tired but the asnwer is always no.
So whos fault is if the husband looks outside? sometimes there is no solution for this. Cheating is wrong, but what if wife always say no ?
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Originally Posted by jamelim88
Having kids definite changed a couples life. I am together with my wife for 19 years, married for 13 years. I was all ok until i had 1st child. At that moment of my life started to cheong��. Ever since that, unable to stop. Seems pretty common married guys still cheong/cheating? Should I still look for girls or should find ways to suppress such urge?
If you want wise advice, then look for ways to fix it. because if you get caught it could make you lose everything. but if the advice is as a man, then keep cheating to maintain mental sanity. because I know sometimes being at home is stressful for wife. although this should be discussed
30-04-2024, 01:35 AM
can relate to so many of the posts..
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