Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[evoking88]

Originally Posted by VietnamLover

If she is previously married and later divorced, then ask her to show you the divorce certificate. Do you understand?

To make sure that she is not yet married or is really divorced, you can go to province department in her hometown to check her martial status. All you need to give is her full name, birthdate and her ID number (số chứng minh nhân dân in Vietnamese).

Hope that it is really clear to you.

much clearer now. thanks very much.

will the staff at the province department understand english? coz i can only speak basic viet for now

[Honey Boon]

no need so kan cheong la, wait a few years for a clearer picture. the gal still young, she can wait. one thing, vnam mei mei has no patience. if she is not up to your standard, everything will surface up. then the next one will be better, you will be spoilt with better choices. no worry

if she know you have other alternatives, she will "treat" you better

Originally Posted by evoking88

probably true that small head overriding big head. think i will go consider more before committing.

and it is also true that i dun understand vn culture and law yet, which is why i am here to learn.

[evoking88]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

no need so kan cheong la, wait a few years for a clearer picture. the gal still young, she can wait. one thing, vnam mei mei has no patience. if she is not up to your standard, everything will surface up. then the next one will be better, you will be spoilt with better choices. no worry

if she know you have other alternatives, she will "treat" you better

vn mei mei no patience? means she will run away if i drag too long? haha. then i think better drag longer. after all if she run means she not serious alr.

thanks for the good advice

[VietnamLover]

Originally Posted by evoking88

much clearer now. thanks very much.

will the staff at the province department understand english? coz i can only speak basic viet for now

Almost all offical staffs at the province department won't know English at all. You need someone who know English and Vietnamese to help you.

[evoking88]

Originally Posted by VietnamLover

Almost all offical staffs at the province department won't know English at all. You need someone who know English and Vietnamese to help you.

i see. thanks very much for the info

[Honey Boon]

ya la, no patience, today know you, tomorrow want to have baby with you, then the day after want to get marry liao. Tarik a bit.....

Originally Posted by evoking88

vn mei mei no patience? means she will run away if i drag too long? haha. then i think better drag longer. after all if she run means she not serious alr.

thanks for the good advice

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

no need so kan cheong la, wait a few years for a clearer picture. the gal still young, she can wait. one thing, vnam mei mei has no patience. if she is not up to your standard, everything will surface up. then the next one will be better, you will be spoilt with better choices. no worry

if she know you have other alternatives, she will "treat" you better

this is a goot goot...experienced bro in Vn scene...must listen...

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

ya la, no patience, today know you, tomorrow want to have baby with you, then the day after want to get marry liao. Tarik a bit.....

haha...this sounds so familiar...

alot of newbies nvr go to Vn to understand the Vn culture and thinking of marrying them...ask yourself the questions...

1) do you understand her and her family
2) can you afford to feed her and family
3) is it love or lust (small head thinking and not big head)
4) do you doubt that the marriage will succeed or doomed to fail
5) do you know that once married the Sinkie women charter law apply
6) ask yourself how long the marriage can lasts
7) how you intend to apply LSTV, PR, Citizen and what happened if kena rejected...
8) if 7 fail then can you live apart and make frequent trips to Vn..
9) can you accept the Vn culture
10) many more questions to ask yourself...why dun take time to observes and watch...

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

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alot of newbies nvr go to Vn to understand the Vn culture and thinking of marrying them...ask yourself the questions...

1) do you understand her and her family
2) can you afford to feed her and family
3) is it love or lust (small head thinking and not big head)
4) do you doubt that the marriage will succeed or doomed to fail
5) do you know that once married the Sinkie women charter law apply
6) ask yourself how long the marriage can lasts
7) how you intend to apply LSTV, PR, Citizen and what happened if kena rejected...
8) if 7 fail then can you live apart and make frequent trips to Vn..
9) can you accept the Vn culture
10) many more questions to ask yourself...why dun take time to observes and watch...

Bro, I salute you. You are so concern for newbies but not sure they do appreciate your advice.

[evoking88]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

1) do you understand her and her family
2) can you afford to feed her and family
3) is it love or lust (small head thinking and not big head)
4) do you doubt that the marriage will succeed or doomed to fail
5) do you know that once married the Sinkie women charter law apply
6) ask yourself how long the marriage can lasts
7) how you intend to apply LSTV, PR, Citizen and what happened if kena rejected...
8) if 7 fail then can you live apart and make frequent trips to Vn..
9) can you accept the Vn culture
10) many more questions to ask yourself...why dun take time to observes and watch...

very valid points that i have to think about for a long time. thanks for the kind advice

[xyman]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

understand... good to investigate further.
i came across a sillypore guy who married my girlfriend niece w/o knowing that the small kid in the family is her fresh and blood. I am always putting on a show with them whenever this guy is around.

sometimes back, i do think whether my girlfriend family is putting up any show when I am around.. but its been nearing 5years... so be it.
I trusted my girlfriend and I stopped all sorts of wondering liao

My current girlfriend told me the first day we met that she got a one year old son. She tell me she and her husband not together but yesterday she admit they are in the midst of divorcing and take another 6 months. Her hubby message me yesterday from Vietnam talking about some nonsense, today call me a few times but I no pick up. My girl ask me to believe her and she will never break my heart like my previous vn girlfriend and singapore ex wife.. Forget to tell her that they tell me the same thing..

Guess I need sometime to assess this if she good to me.

[Golden question]

newbie or guy who have just got a viet girlfriend,either a wl or normal girl,should hear the advise from sincere old bird here.they really give very good and TRUE advise from their experience with them.Especially ts,bro SINGVET.Out of 10 things he say about viet girl,9.5 is the truth.

[bswuming87]

me and my gf going to rom soon in may..

my gf voluntarily went to her province govt to get a document to proof that she is single all along and has never married or divorced before.. she is also translating the document to english soon..

To bro evoking88.. get your gf to get this document to proof that she is single.. it can be done in a single day..

[SingViet]

I wouldn't want to marry a WL who is only 20. She is immature and most probably has other agendas. At 20, she knows she can still make more money as a WL with her youth, why will she want to settle down ? Unless the fact that bro evoking88 has been giving her an impression that he is very rich. I am not sure on how old bro evoking88 is, but if a wrong impression is given, she may well be thinking that she can squeeze more money out of you than her working as WL. If bro evoking88 is indeed from a very rich family, then congrats. But if not, I can tell you that these viet WL can jump out of a marriage as fast as they can jump in.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question

newbie or guy who have just got a viet girlfriend,either a wl or normal girl,should hear the advise from sincere old bird here.they really give very good and TRUE advise from their experience with them.Especially ts,bro SINGVET.Out of 10 things he say about viet girl,9.5 is the truth.

Thanks for the encouragement. I hope that fellow bros who has experience with Viet gals can continue to share, so that other bros can benefit.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

ya la, no patience, today know you, tomorrow want to have baby with you, then the day after want to get marry liao. Tarik a bit.....

hahhah bro, very true. One more thing to add... `By end of month want to divorce roi.'