Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Relative to the Vietnamese , singaporeans are surely more law abiding and more GONG. Haha Being more GONG means it's easier to be their ATM

correct i agree,but some sg man simply is not gong but like to show off to those girl they are rich.gong in a sense that they think they are smart hahaha

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Seletar

May be true.Last month I went to my gf ' s house at the province for 2 days.Her mother everyday cooked good dishes for me e.g crabs, prawn, curry chicken, soup.... I asked her is it everyday they eat so good food.She said no because only I come her mother welcome me so cook nice food, may be we singapore people are their ATMs

so bro u know huh,eat full already then suck u dry just joking.btw they normally treat foreign ppl like that so is normal

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by Golden question

yah correct,thats why when i told my friend that my wife is a vietnamese,they will pause a bit.i look through their eye ....


....well this is our society whereby most people will judge by which country this foreign bride came from.from thai,viet and china,confirm wl or come here cheat sg man.from japan,korea or those 1st worls country confirm the girl is good one.

My sis in law also this type of people.Whatever concerning Vietnam is no good, nia mah very kay poh ask me why everytime go VN, becareful the VN girl con you. And talk bad about me.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question;60$$$$3

so bro u know huh,eat full already then suck u dry just joking.btw they normally treat foreign ppl like that so is normal

Yes you are right. All the good dishes are all included in the money you will be giving to them soon.

[lament]

Originally Posted by shysaint

I guess every country got GooD & got BaD ..... Sometimes it boils down to LucK & FaTe

2 Real Life Stories in SG to Share ...

1. A VB working in J51, got Pregnant to a Cheongster cum HowSiaoSter ....

2. A VB working in J/M51, got pregnant to her bf & subsequently abort the baby and now marries to Korea.

I believe there are many many untold stories in SG but they are NOT that serious to go to the News Headlines like Korea and Taiwan .....

I believe that WE should be a Responsible Cheongster ... Doesn't mean they are VB or WL ... we can 'Play' them & 'F**k' them & 'Toy' them ....

I believe that is Short-Term & Long-Term Karma .... Remember we will get married and have Sons & Daughters one day ... Imagined your Sons behaved like that and Your Daughter Being Treated like that ... How will you Feel ?

Bro, there are 1001 sob stories but end of the day, we can't help all .... we can feel sorry ...in the name of KC, never do anything that derided the good name of us ....

want to have a kid, even with no marriage, we must be ready to take up responsibility ......

use a condom else get Postinor the morning after pill ....

all my years, the only type I left something behind, I still taking care of it right now even though I have move on to other girls .....

Have Responsible Sex, Don't Leave Anything Behind !!!!

Imagine the amount of cursing and swearing that you get for the rest of your life from being irresponsible....not unlucky also become unlucky ....

[batty]

When Vietnamese wives ask for money for their:

Sick dear father
School fees for their brother
Roof repair for their parents' village house in Vietnam
Application and starting monthly rental for their mother to start a small shop in Vietnam
Bribes for the Vietnamese Government official
Etc...
(One or combinations of the above);

later, when a Singaporean husband married to them, visit them in Vietnam, is it true they really spend the donated money on the above? Or the Vietnamese wives/inlaws sometimes explain away why the donated money is spent but they actually stealthily pocket the money.

Are the average Vietnamese spenders or savers? Thank you.

On a separate matter, remember that young Singaporean Chinese man newspaper vendor? He found his Vietnamese bride from a marriage broker. They were 1 week away from their marriage. Unfortunately she met with a car accident while crossing a road in Singapore. She was in a coma. Her Vietnamese parents flew to Singapore. The Singaporean man wanted $XX 000 from her parents to release her to them. They did not agree and they did not have the money. They secretly removed her, still in coma, and flew her back to Vietnam. The man later told the New Paper reporter that he is now looking for a Japanese wife!

[lament]

Originally Posted by batty

Are the average Vietnamese spenders or savers? Thank you.

end of the day, it is about managing expectations.

most of this people being uneducated or have not travel aboard think the world of people beyond their shores. Look at the news they have on national TV, mainly domestic with 1 international news .....

naturally because of this, they tend to think that foreigners are rich, what I did was a round of education to them that all is relative to where we are from. we may earn more but cost of living is higher ....always let them know that you are not as rich as they think but then some idiots in the name of love give their wife everything...

I once had a friend whom despite my advice to take a while before getting married, rush into a marriage with a vb after 3 months. He was 40 plus and she was only 23. He told she love him like mad.

After staying in sillypore for a few months, she went back on the pretext that she missed her family and never came back. everytime he ask her back, there are untold problems and he needs him to send money to help. Once he told me that the wife's brother in prison and every month have to give @SGD500 as bribes...this is a complete utter bullshit from my sources, maybe SGD1000 to secure one complete release ......

The story ended with her telling him she had cancer. My friend borrowed heavily from loan-sharks to send her money like mad ....it ended with him helping the loan-shark and ending up in prison for it ....

the last I heard was her wife now had some properties in vn thanks to his kind donation.......

this is why my advice is "my money is my money", never let them know the true extent of your wealth......if you can trust them on matters of money then even pigs can fly ......

[SingViet]

There are much more Singaporean guys got cheated by Viet VB than the other way round. The thing is, abortion to the viet gals, is like eating COM TAM and drinking COCA. So there's no complaining about getting pregnant when they have chosen to be in this line. Even if pregnant, i am sure most of them are not sure who is the real father, so most of the time, they will just grab one `ready' one to carry the responsiblities. So if fellow bros get into such situation, the best is to carry out a DNA test upon the birth of the child to ascertain the identity of the child before you spend `bombs' to feed and educate someone else's child.

As for taking money from singaporean husband, there's 101 reasons to take money from Singaporean husband. Singaporean husbands should also manage the Viet spouse's expectations. Show them your pay slip and the many other BILLs to pay each month, do a calculation to show them. There's no need to be a hero, keep quiet and keep fulfilling their wants, and finally, find yourself becoming ridden by lots of debts. Why should you borrow money to give to them to enjoy? They enjoy there in VN and you slog like a dog here. I let my wife know how much i earn each month, what are the bills to pay and how much we can save. I have my own account, my wife has hers also and we also have a joint account. All the balances are clear to avoid misunderstanding. When my wife signs her VISA supplementary card, she will let me know what she signed for and how much. But she tries her best not to use the VISA and most of the time, she will use cash or NETS.

So communication is very important, especially these Viet Spouse are not too familiar with how things operate here. It will take time for them to understand, but for sure they will try to understand if they really love you and care for you and the kids.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by lament

Bro, there are 1001 sob stories but end of the day, we can't help all .... we can feel sorry ...in the name of KC, never do anything that derided the good name of us ....

want to have a kid, even with no marriage, we must be ready to take up responsibility ......

use a condom else get Postinor the morning after pill ....

all my years, the only type I left something behind, I still taking care of it right now even though I have move on to other girls .....

Have Responsible Sex, Don't Leave Anything Behind !!!!

Imagine the amount of cursing and swearing that you get for the rest of your life from being irresponsible....not unlucky also become unlucky ....

Well said ... Cannot don't agree more

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by batty

On a separate matter, remember that young Singaporean Chinese man newspaper vendor? He found his Vietnamese bride from a marriage broker. They were 1 week away from their marriage. Unfortunately she met with a car accident while crossing a road in Singapore. She was in a coma. Her Vietnamese parents flew to Singapore. The Singaporean man wanted $XX 000 from her parents to release her to them. They did not agree and they did not have the money. They secretly removed her, still in coma, and flew her back to Vietnam. The man later told the New Paper reporter that he is now looking for a Japanese wife!

haha...this matter I knew the story and wrote forum...nope he didn't marry Jap but instead got another Vn baxa...now a father to a boy more than 1 year old liao...also no longer selling newspaper...sold their 4 room flat and down graded...also moved away...

http://sbf.today/showpos...postcount=5084
http://sbf.today/showpos...postcount=5090
http://sbf.today/showpos...postcount=6320

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

haha...this matter I knew the story and wrote forum...nope he didn't marry Jap but instead got another Vn baxa...now a father to a boy more than 1 year old liao...also no longer selling newspaper...sold their 4 room flat and down graded...also moved away...

http://sbf.today/showpos...postcount=5084
http://sbf.today/showpos...postcount=5090
http://sbf.today/showpos...postcount=6320

i think this person is mentally sick

[teebs_darklord]

Originally Posted by SingViet

i think this person is mentally sick

I would think so too...

[Honey Boon]

even I myself, I try to use Cash so that I can feel the "pain", very effective as I save more now.

Originally Posted by SingViet

, she will use cash or NETS.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

even I myself, I try to use Cash so that I can feel the "pain", very effective as I save more now.

It is good to set credit limit to the supplementary card that you give to your viet wife, this is especially so if they are very much concerned about their viet family's financial situation and they go back Vn often. At the same time, do not give them the PIN number. You will not them to withdraw all from the credit card to give to their parents when they are in Vn.

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by SingViet

It is good to set credit limit to the supplementary card that you give to your viet wife, this is especially so if they are very much concerned about their viet family's financial situation and they go back Vn often. At the same time, do not give them the PIN number. You will not them to withdraw all from the credit card to give to their parents when they are in Vn.

Sure fully withdrawn if knew PIN.