Gals please respond

[Sirrus]

Originally Posted by brengsek

i luv my wife very much...
i'm gentle, considerate, understanding and romantic...
take her out for romantic dinner not only on special occasion...

gave her freedom... as to ensure her happiness...
help her with household & other chores...
make sure that she is fully satisfied when making kuv to her...

and yet...
i don't get to make luv to her as often as i'd like to...
i dunno wat else to do...
so i stop asking... directly or indirectly...
still maintaining all of the above & more...

juz wait for her to want to make luv to me...
as it hurts more wen rejected...
compare to wen u not getting it...

give up and divorce. just a matter of time u and her start to argue like mad and hate each other.

[maddogazubir]

Originally Posted by darylcch

How many gals here don't like to give sex to their husband/bf?
Is sex really a chore?
What's the thinking?

This is what my wife told me..which I really cannot accept.

Cannot be lah! If its a chore, she would have asked the filipino maid to do ti! haha!

[wolfberry2]

Originally Posted by Vjolie

Haha can't be. I am a girl but I think my sex drive is even higher than my boyfriend's! 98% of the times would be initiated by me hehe

Your bf must be beri beri happy...lucky guy.

[Hotcoffee]

Sometimes I don't understand at all. Why my wife can live without sex.

She can whatsApp with her sisters, watch movies on phone. Take tons of photos, edit them, surf net for hours on her iPhone. Then sleep. Had already hinted her I want to make love later but just now when lying in bed, she just yawn and fall asleep with 5 minutes. She knew it that I want to have sex. She even touch my cock and knew its hard.

Everyday sleep so early. Weekend also same, even she sleep late also no sex for me. When I touch her, she will say tired, no mood, stress, cheebye not wet!!! Same old fucking reasons over and over I heard.

Once in a while maybe she allows. But always rushing off to finish it!!!!! Seem like a chore to her rather then something she enjoy.

Yes, she works but so what! Work is so damn important that she has to exhaust herself and neglect me?

I missed e days we can make love for hours.

[Hotcoffee]

Originally Posted by darylcch

How many gals here don't like to give sex to their husband/bf?
Is sex really a chore?
What's the thinking?

This is what my wife told me..which I really cannot accept.

Pal. how's your situation? Hope yours had improved. I also don't know why they can behave like that. I really hope there is some guru out there why can advice.

I tried everything I can. Sigh.

[melomelody]

Most of the time it's because the guys neglected their wifes after a year into the marriage. They treat them for granted and the feeling fades. I guess you just have to rekindle the relationship to get her active.

[asdfghjkl]

going to show this thread to my sisters..

[sup3rm2n]

I am with my gf for several years and i am already seeing signs. I think i better not get married after reading all these.

My take is that dramas makes woman think that relationship is all about being loved (true), being pampered and that all, seldom drama shows couple having sex, its all about all romantic the guy is and bah bah bah.

porn on the other hand makes man think that sex is great, but the truth many of us knows it is that sex in real life can be quite sad, your partner can be as dead as a corpse, as quiet as a mute and sexually unactive like a monk.

I believe sex is a necessary in a relationship, that sometimes we, man measure the amount of love we feel by the quality and quantity of sex.

It might sound disgusting and degrading but its true.

[Hyper99]

Originally Posted by darylcch

How many gals here don't like to give sex to their husband/bf?
Is sex really a chore?
What's the thinking?

This is what my wife told me..which I really cannot accept.

Either they have not discovered their clitoris or the men are doing it horribly wrong.

Good news is there's solutions to both.

[Hyper99]

Originally Posted by darylcch

How many gals here don't like to give sex to their husband/bf?
Is sex really a chore?
What's the thinking?

This is what my wife told me..which I really cannot accept.

Either they have not discovered their clitoris or the men are doing it horribly wrong.

Good news is there's solutions to both.

[Hotcoffee]

Originally Posted by sup3rm2n

I am with my gf for several years and i am already seeing signs. I think i better not get married after reading all these.

My take is that dramas makes woman think that relationship is all about being loved (true), being pampered and that all, seldom drama shows couple having sex, its all about all romantic the guy is and bah bah bah.

porn on the other hand makes man think that sex is great, but the truth many of us knows it is that sex in real life can be quite sad, your partner can be as dead as a corpse, as quiet as a mute and sexually unactive like a monk.

I believe sex is a necessary in a relationship, that sometimes we, man measure the amount of love we feel by the quality and quantity of sex.

It might sound disgusting and degrading but its true.

Before marry we can have sex few times a week. Weekend best, can screw e whole night. When coming close to marriage number start to reduce.

After marriage getting bad to worse. I had our 11 days Europe hornymoon without even a handjob.

[takeshiblue]

Communication is most important thing than other. You need to booking some allowance time from ur wife, send your kids to ur mum house, put down all the thing that will interrupt both of you ( work, children, housework, etc ), then talk nicely & find out the reason. Normally in this kind of stress free enviroment, communication can be mostly successful. TALK, talk all the thing out, NO GUESS. Women always think that men should know what women thinking even when women no speak out. Please~~ Men not satelite, men's way of thinking different from women, sometime men unable conjecture women mind, women should speak out instead of angry, even women sometime unable conjecture men mind, men also need to speak out.

Before communication, both party should not have mindset that himself or herself is no wrong. Like this how to talk, u think u r right, u r no wrong, I also think I am right, I am no wrong, communication break down.........

If after communicate still cannot find the solution, then seeking counsellor is a MUST. Counsellor as a outsider sometime can find out the problem that the couple not aware. maybe can persuade the stubborn one.

[jsparrow]

My oh my....if its really true that there will be lesser sex after marriage...then i think i did the right thing staying single now.....and marry wen i'm 50...

[takeshiblue]

In my opinion, sometime ML also need to booking few day advance. No joking, I am serious! Because doing this will give both party allowance time & mental preparation to settle the neccessary thing before it, then can ML stress free. Both of you can go dating 1st, have a well dinner, watch some porn movie, then give serious foreplay, & ML hard. Spare some time for ML session, 1 time excellent quality ML feel equal to many time so-so quality rushing ML feel.

[power88]

I am also in the same situation as mentioned by many bros here...

Before marriage & during dating, making love & sex is alway not a problem, and most of the times were initiated by her, we enjoy sex so much and can just Do IT any places; be it lonely carpark at east coast, public toilet or parks, beaches, my home or her home and aso Once at her Msia kampung house Jungle!!

Now leh, like some bros mentioned, making love is like going thru motion..sometimes need to make appt first, see her mood and tiredness bor?

I feel partly aso due to Stress...as my wife alway complains to me, why she tend to look older than me when ageing...can sense that she is so stressful and worry...