girlfriend/wife who doesn't like sex at all - Page 8

mentosmint · #**106** 10-11-2010, 10:36 PM

Hi TS,

Coming from a girl's view, and I was one who used to 'dun like' sex cos a few reasons，too young, dunno how to handle the sensation of sex etc are something that stops me.

Maybe Ur gf has some 'reasons' she has yet to share with u.
Try talking abt it in a light manner.

Relationship works not just with open communication, respect etc, sex is also something that cannot be missed out though.

Good luck!

pussylicious12345 · #**107** 10-11-2010, 11:01 PM

Something bad might have happened to her in the past which make her dislike sex... It could be some psychological issues which are bothering her... I think u need to speak to her and find out if anything had happened before she met u...

mvmhjki6 · #**108** 10-11-2010, 11:18 PM

Dear TS, IS your girl a nurse? Mine is and she works in the urology department and she sees more cock than i ever have. Sometimes she just tell me she is conditioned to it and no longer aroused. So maybe due to job?

old_turtle · #**109** 10-11-2010, 11:49 PM

it normal.. my wife is a dead dry fish. But i am satisfied with my fb and GL trips. No worry, even yr wife is super horny type, u will get sicked of it, and u risk being a cuckoo.

old_turtle · #**110** 10-11-2010, 11:50 PM

for mi , every week I go for Cat 40 ... better rite ?

sissy · #**111** 11-11-2010, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by mvmhjki6

Dear TS, IS your girl a nurse? Mine is and she works in the urology department and she sees more cock than i ever have. Sometimes she just tell me she is conditioned to it and no longer aroused. So maybe due to job?

I see different cocks of men on hardcore videos and I am still not conditioned leh. I do appreciate the different shapes and sizes.

perfection89 · #**112** 12-11-2010, 12:19 AM

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Originally Posted by tungsten

Imagine your daughter/sister tells you this, "My bf says that if I love him I will have sex with him.". What will you feel about this guy?

Seriously... if she is just your gf, then sex is really a bonus. She is not obligated to give you sex just because you are her bf.

If it is husband/wife relationship... suck it in... alot of us are facing the same problem. If after marriage sure got sex... I guarantee you that the sammyboy forum will lose at least half of its surfers.

first, i can conclude that this daughter / sister cfm is those teenage girls if she say it like that. in that case sex is illegal.

anyway, we are talking about adult (aka legal age and above) relationships..therefore the girl should have a mature mindset of what she want already mah. if she feel wants to save 'sex' for marriage, she shouldn't stop the other guy from releasing his stress outside mah. Its a kind of compromise for each other.

As for husband and wife, even the govt is encouraging sex and making babies. In that case, the wife / husband who don't want sex is actually disobeying out mighty gahmen orders already..so govt should make a law and punish these ppl dun u think

Whatever it is, most impt thing is to enjoy ur life with ur partners..cos life only got once...when u go heaven den u realise cannot have sex u oso llst liao. =)

mentosmint · #**113** 13-11-2010, 11:03 AM

Maybe u can try to tell her, human needs sex. Have urge.
If she cannot accommodate Ur request, then u have to opt or alternative.
Haha ask her if she is ok to 'outsource' to someone to help u with Ur urge.

May this might help wake her up.
Or.. Try a different route.

If u have any mutual friends, good if u both know a couple. U try to get the girl (thru her boyfriend or hubby) to bring up sex as a casual topic. Get her to sell fear to Ur gf. It might help.

Funny thing abt human, Is that we tend not to listen to our close ones, but treat them as though they nagging.
But when it comes to gossips, haha we somehow will register it in our brain.

JacqueMerlin · #**114** 13-11-2010, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by zoop

anyone with girlfriend or wife who refuse or dislike sex? been with my gf for 9 years, throughout the relationship we seldom have sex ... ... serious reply only please.

Bro, please allow me to share my friend's case with you. He courted a girl very enthusiastically and eventually won her heart after much efforts. Or I thought so. The girl is a church girl and has the sex after marriage mentality. She does not even allow my friend to hold her hand, hug or kiss her and of course, no sex. They are quite well to do and her brothers are all very highly educated. And she does not allow him to meet her family too.

When my friend's mother passed away, he was devastated but being a free thinker, he allowed his brother to run the funeral in his mother's native religion. And guess what, she refused to go to the funeral even for the sign of respect. When my friend asked her, she said he does not respect her religion. We all as friends told him to dump the girl because she will break up with my friend every now and then but return to patch things up with him when she felt lonely and no one to turn to.

My friend is not handsome. He is not wealthy at all and drives a very modest small japanese hatchback. But one thing good about him is his kindness and sensitivity towards the people around him. And he is very patient with everyone. He does not go out for wild grass/flower. But many of us couldn't stand it brought him along on our outings. But he will always shyly reject any opportunities for a sexual escapade. I can tell he's very keen but still he did not. He is still miserably attached to this girl and seeing him faithfully waiting for the wretch to change.

All I want to say is that it must be a 2 way thing in a relationship. If she demands respect from you, what about the respect you rightfully need? Don't stay with a girl who will not respect you at all. You never know when she will dump you for another guy when she thinks your 'respect' for her is enough.