Is it normal for married man keep looking for other girls?

[jamelim88]

I am married with my wife with since 23 years old, and I am 35 now. As for me,I start cheong since I had kids, until now still haven able stop,before that never cheong/cheated. Time to time I had been wondering is it normal for married guy to cheong/cheating?

Hope all Sifu here can share some of your thoughts, Thanks in advance

[realrandomguy]

Originally Posted by jamelim88

I am married with my wife with since 23 years old, and I am 35 now. As for me,I start cheong since I had kids, until now still haven able stop,before that never cheong/cheated. Time to time I had been wondering is it normal for married guy to cheong/cheating?

Hope all Sifu here can share some of your thoughts, Thanks in advance

if you ask a saint they will say it is not normal 😅 but if I were to answer, it could be normal because there are things we no get enough from our wife , but we dont want to hurt her by saying it.right bro?

[lornjourney]

I think there are a lot of faithful and consistent men. But I wasn't born to be one of them. Plenty of my type in this world. So, it is normal.

[Notanot]

Originally Posted by lornjourney

I think there are a lot of faithful and consistent men. But I wasn't born to be one of them. Plenty of my type in this world. So, it is normal.

only a few hahaha it's natural for men to have the talent to cheat

[jamelim88]

i thought once age older the battle of lust can be win, now at mid 30's seems the battle only lesser compared to 20's but still lose to lust.

But I limit myself to only go for fast food, no long term outside food.

[dman19]

Originally Posted by jamelim88

i thought once age older the battle of lust can be win, now at mid 30's seems the battle only lesser compared to 20's but still lose to lust.

But I limit myself to only go for fast food, no long term outside food.

Keep it up. But there will be times you find yourself keep going back to eat the same delicious burger. That’s where you need to exercise your mental strength.

[wahbiang123]

Originally Posted by jamelim88

i thought once age older the battle of lust can be win, now at mid 30's seems the battle only lesser compared to 20's but still lose to lust.

But I limit myself to only go for fast food, no long term outside food.

Thinking to stop play play lah . At age 30 more thinking about wife . Because we sill spend our life with her

[blahzzz]

There are many threads addressing to this topic. Many valuable wise words shared before. So do browse around…

[jamelim88]

thanks for the suggestion. I am going through Group for divorced/sexless marriage/singles. Saw some good points mention by sifu there.

[Hunkydunky]

Originally Posted by jamelim88

thanks for the suggestion. I am going through Group for divorced/sexless marriage/singles. Saw some good points mention by sifu there.

What points? Can share here bo?

[lornjourney]

Originally Posted by dman19

Keep it up. But there will be times you find yourself keep going back to eat the same delicious burger. That’s where you need to exercise your mental strength.

I need that Will Power too. I keep looking at helpers, neighbours and even flirt using online dating without revealing my true status. But I really enjoy that affair especially the other side though I’m a suitable candidate. It surely going to be a very expensive lessons. But I still play

[jamelim88]

Originally Posted by lornjourney

I need that Will Power too. I keep looking at helpers, neighbours and even flirt using online dating without revealing my true status. But I really enjoy that affair especially the other side though I’m a suitable candidate. It surely going to be a very expensive lessons. But I still play

seems u need look deep in yourself what you looking for actually. For me I notice myself looking for intimacy which cant no longer obtain enough from wife. therefore looking outside. Some guys are always keep looking for the kick of new experiences, so with same women long term also will boring. So probably can start identify your what u really want. i hope can strengthen my will power also, dont really wanna hurt my whole family

[Sakai11]

It's very normal

[fallen11]

looking for other girls also have different categories.

Are you looking for sex only?
Or something more, like a relationship outside of marriage? Maybe for the thrill of it? or just wanna re-live pre marriage love life again?

These 2 are actually very different things.

Got 1 more: have you always been intending to divorce your spouse, but dont have the courage to brave into post-divorce life uncharted territory? Waiting for a 3rd party to come along to help you pick up that courage to go ahead with divorce. This also very different from the 2 above.

[ghostcow]

Originally Posted by jamelim88

seems u need look deep in yourself what you looking for actually. For me I notice myself looking for intimacy which cant no longer obtain enough from wife. therefore looking outside. Some guys are always keep looking for the kick of new experiences, so with same women long term also will boring. So probably can start identify your what u really want. i hope can strengthen my will power also, dont really wanna hurt my whole family

What you highlighted in red is why i dread getting married because if sex starved in marriage of course need to settle outside. If caught then women charter come in full force.