My marriage life is getting boring

[PinkUmber]

After married for only 3 months, I am getting a bit bored with my marriage life, a.k.a sex life. Same position every time. Boring. Is there some way that I can spice it up without hurting my wife's feelings?

[cawca]

Wahhh..... only 3 months and you're bored. That isn't a good sign.

Anyway, you can try watching porn together or bring her out to somewhere secluded where you can make love. Just remember that the creativity doesn't just start and remain in the bedroom.

Good Luck!!!

[TigerGeneral]

Originally Posted by PinkUmber

After married for only 3 months, I am getting a bit bored with my marriage life, a.k.a sex life. Same position every time. Boring. Is there some way that I can spice it up without hurting my wife's feelings?

Why not watch some jap av porn with your wife ?

[maxsee]

Remind me of a friend last time..also like tat...end up filing for divorcing after 2 years of marriage....some ppl just more suitable to be single so tat can swing around...usually found out after marriage....

[Xgenre]

Well, both husband and wife add up then got sex life right? So if sex life got problem, then both husband and wife should work together to solve the problem right? If you don't tell her what the issue is from your angle, she won't know. Some girls think that they spread legs, guys will be happy already. The key, I feel, is how you let her know you aren't happy. What exactly are you not happy about? She doesn't want to try new positions? I thought the positions and timing are normally controlled by the man.

If you scold and shout and make a big hoo-haa, she might turn defensive and either stop sex altogether or have sex grudgingly. Wah lau, suck cock where got use teeth one? 1 night 1 time only ah? Why you so lazy? My previous gfs all better than you <--- this one sure die.

If you praise her a lot, say she is sexy and all and it will be wonderful if we can vary our sex life so as to keep the sex life fresh, she might be more open. I am so lucky to have such a sexy wife. You are so lucky to have me as your husband as I will put in effort to make our sex life better so that we can both enjoy each other more.

[sta1100]

3 month you are flat, you still have a long way to go. please don't compare your wife with WL/FL

[oahpekahsom]

Try talking to her....making love is not equal to sex...so a lot of comms is involved.....and dun be selfish.....make her come a few times and later u see how she is willing to please you back...have fun communicating

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Well, both husband and wife add up then got sex life right? So if sex life got problem, then both husband and wife should work together to solve the problem right? If you don't tell her what the issue is from your angle, she won't know. Some girls think that they spread legs, guys will be happy already. The key, I feel, is how you let her know you aren't happy. What exactly are you not happy about? She doesn't want to try new positions? I thought the positions and timing are normally controlled by the man.

If you scold and shout and make a big hoo-haa, she might turn defensive and either stop sex altogether or have sex grudgingly. Wah lau, suck cock where got use teeth one? 1 night 1 time only ah? Why you so lazy? My previous gfs all better than you <--- this one sure die.

If you praise her a lot, say she is sexy and all and it will be wonderful if we can vary our sex life so as to keep the sex life fresh, she might be more open. I am so lucky to have such a sexy wife. You are so lucky to have me as your husband as I will put in effort to make our sex life better so that we can both enjoy each other more.

Nice classy post Braddah. Braddah TS have learned how to eat pussy? Braddah, that usually is the key to better sex with your wife or GF.

[(o)(o) Tuner]

This happens to all the men out there. You have to think of new ways to sex her up. Have you tried cum on her face? If you have not, I encourage you to try it. I bet it will excite both of you.

[Alantino]

Introduce toys and buy kinky nightwear for her.

even maybe try to know her sexual fantasies.

kitchen / living room / store room / kitchen are places you can play with.

outdoor is possible too if u guide her slowly.

just my 2 cents

[CumExplorer]

Originally Posted by (o)(o) Tuner

This happens to all the men out there. You have to think of new ways to sex her up. Have you tried cum on her face? If you have not, I encourage you to try it. I bet it will excite both of you.

haha, bro that is a good suggestion

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by (o)(o) Tuner

This happens to all the men out there. You have to think of new ways to sex her up. Have you tried cum on her face? If you have not, I encourage you to try it. I bet it will excite both of you.

Braddah, that won't work on a conservative gal like that. I think the TS need to eat her out and get her to climax or lead up to it with regular sex to orgasm Braddah.

[idiot888]

TS..u marry her as a wife loh.. is also more than just sex.. u want sex..go look FL/WL/GL/FB etc.. 3mth and u feel bored... i worry for u leh.. u marry her for sex only huh ??
probably think back why u marry her, and u can find the sparks again. sex is not the position, but the enjoyment of being with her.. watch porn..try those style together lah..candle..SM..lol..wife r quite open minded if u share your thot..

just my 1c thot....

[5ag1_Boar]

Piangz eh... this kind of topic suddenly so often in here.

I just posted this in a sis thread:

... Early in my first marriage, I had very boring sex with my wife, although she was not frigid, but she was inexperienced. I tried initiating new positions like doggy, but she complained pain and was not keen (she was wet, we could do it in missionary). I shaved my pubes, she said "eeee". No blow jobs, sex was always missionary. After that I stopped experimenting in bed with her. I tried hinting her with sex articles from her own womens magazines, but she never got it. Naturally, our sex life pretty much died. When we divorced she told me she thought i had low sex drive. ...

Well, with my gf's before and after her, I have never been accused of low sex drive nor boring in bed. After that marriage and a tumultuous relationship with another gf, I finally learn to communicate better and is having a much better relationship with my current gf. Also helps that she is the communicative type.

The main thing is communication. I never really communicated thoroughly with my ex-wife about sex (or anything else in our lives really).

Don't be surprise if you find out your wife is confiding in her friends that your sex life is boring too. Or one day, some guy manages to bed her and show her how exciting sex can be (touch wood).

The question is how to communicate? Obviously talking is one of them. However, sex is a sensitive issue, depending on your wife and her attitude about sex and how open she is about talking about sex.

Coming on her face without warning may not be a good idea... it could backfire. Buying toys, watching porn together, etc ... broach the idea gently first. (No offence to other bros giving advice.)

You know your wife better than any of us. You should know better how to approach this with her. Talk to her and ask her what she thinks about your sex life? Does she feel satisfied? Does she want to make it more exciting?

If yes, good. Then you can start talking about what she likes, how she likes it, fantasies. Go get a TASTEFULLY done sex-book that has positions, sex ideas, etc (E.g. Dorling Kindersley type of books... go any major bookshop in Singapore and look in their self help, relationship sections) and read together.

If no, still can. You have to start slowly and coax her into more sextifying sex. Make it your personal project to give her the best sex ever. Don't just fuck her. Make love to her, worship her body with caresses, licks and kisses, tease her, prolong your love making, find her secondary erogenous zones. Tell her she looks sexy. Tell her which of her existing clothes you like to see her in, and why (like "I like how this shorts shows off your sexy bum"... but don't be crude).

Of course don't just tell "you are sexy" then try to jump her straight away. This is a long drawn process.

Make her feel loved, not just lusted after. Most women want to be loved first, then lusted after. Do loving things like text her in the middle of the work day to say that you are thinking of her, missing her or just "I love u". Make sure you give her a good kiss in the morning when you leave for work. Things like that.

I recommend this book: 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. You can Google for the website for a introduction of his theory which I find really makes sense. He also has other 5 Languages of Love book which deals with teenage children, etc... so get the right one which is just titled "The 5 Languages of Love".

If you want a sexy wife, treat her like she is sexy now. She will become sexy when she starts feeling it. If you want better sex, give her better sex first.

When you start this campaign, be careful that she don't get the impression you only want sex or that you are badgering her for sex.

[Constable]

I've been married for 16 years. It's boring. But life is not just about sex.