For married bros: Trust, Tolerance, Quarrels & Sex

[heatingup]

Trust, Tolerance, Quarrels & Sex

This is a thread for married bros only. I did not open the thread in the poll section as I seek qualitative not quantitative responses and I wish to know some background factors.

Question 1:
Years u are married to your (present) wife: _____

Question 2:
Number of kids u have (if applicable): _____

Question 3:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing trust of your wife’s judgement?
In other words, on a particular matter, do you think your wife’s judgement improve or deteriorate over past three years?

Question 4:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off?

Question 5:
When u have quarrels with your wife, u do usually have cold wars or heated arguments?
In other words, do u keep mum & show black face for a few days, hoping she will know why u were angry, or u shout out at her why u were pissed off?

Question 6:
Do decreasing trust, decreasing tolerance & nature of quarrels affect your sex life with her even after reconciliation?


Thank you very much for your responses.

[Oralcraz]

1. 18 yrs
2. Confidential
3. No. Accept my wife lay back attitude.
4. Initially yes, less tolerance. Now, not so as see more open.
5. No. Initially, angry, quarrel, loss temper. Scream and Shout. Now, don't bother to quarrel. No more energy.
6. Yes. Of course. Now, one year less then 10 times

[heatingup]

Originally Posted by Oralcraz

1. 18 yrs
2. Confidential
3. No. Accept my wife lay back attitude.
4. Initially yes, less tolerance. Now, not so as see more open.
5. No. Initially, angry, quarrel, loss temper. Scream and Shout. Now, don't bother to quarrel. No more energy.
6. Yes. Of course. Now, one year less then 10 times

Thanks for being the first to reply.
Up u 4 humble points.

[vitruvius79]

Question 1:
Years u are married to your (present) wife: __5___

Question 2:
Number of kids u have (if applicable): __0___

Question 3:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing trust of your wife’s judgement?
In other words, on a particular matter, do you think your wife’s judgement improve or deteriorate over past three years?
I think we understand more about each other's strengths and weaknesses, so we put more trust in what is strong in the other.


Question 4:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off?
I think increasing tolerance.


Question 5:
When u have quarrels with your wife, u do usually have cold wars or heated arguments?
In other words, do u keep mum & show black face for a few days, hoping she will know why u were angry, or u shout out at her why u were pissed off?

Nah, we're quite hot tempered but we cool down pretty quickly, usually within 10 mins. Even for the big issues.


Question 6:
Do decreasing trust, decreasing tolerance & nature of quarrels affect your sex life with her even after reconciliation?

Not really. Though for my case, I've accepted my wife is not at all into sex, so I have learnt, painfully, to separate lust and love into two different emotions. and i satisfy my lust elsewhere.

[topcook1]

Question 1:
Years u are married to your (present) wife: __8___

Question 2:
Number of kids u have (if applicable): __2___

Question 3:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing trust of your wife’s judgement?
In other words, on a particular matter, do you think your wife’s judgement improve or deteriorate over past three years?Ans: Same..

Question 4:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off? Ans : decreasing

Question 5:
When u have quarrels with your wife, u do usually have cold wars or heated arguments?
In other words, do u keep mum & show black face for a few days, hoping she will know why u were angry, or u shout out at her why u were pissed off? Ans: Have cold war and show black face

Question 6:
Do decreasing trust, decreasing tolerance & nature of quarrels affect your sex life with her even after reconciliation?Ans : Yes





That is all about it....

[mldue]

Question 1:
Years u are married to your (present) wife: __4___

Question 2:
Number of kids u have (if applicable): __1___

Question 3:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing trust of your wife’s judgement?
In other words, on a particular matter, do you think your wife’s judgement improve or deteriorate over past three years?
it depends on the subject matter. holidays and food is all hers. of those matters that i rely on her judgement, she has improved

Question 4:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off?
increasing. in fact, notice less and less of pissed off things.

Question 5:
When u have quarrels with your wife, u do usually have cold wars or heated arguments?
In other words, do u keep mum & show black face for a few days, hoping she will know why u were angry, or u shout out at her why u were pissed off?
we know who's really at fault when that happens. automatically give in when the right opportunity comes.

Question 6:
Do decreasing trust, decreasing tolerance & nature of quarrels affect your sex life with her even after reconciliation?
sometimes it does get mechanical. but amazingly, there is effort occasionally to try to get things going again.

[yoursecret]

1. More than 10 yrs
2. More than zero
3. decreasing trust of her judgement (after having kids hormones scrambled her once sharp brain, so sometimes she can misfire totally)
4. at first more and more pissed off... now tolerance actually go up.
5. cold war, but that's a personality thing on my part
6. doesn't affect. prob coz it was flatlining on its own whether quarrel or not trust nor not also no effect.

[fattyman]

1. more than 7 yrs

2. 2 kids

3. increasing

4. increasing

5. cold war

6. no, better sex after reconciliation

Pls upped me hor, kekekekeke

[leecs]

Question 1:
Years u are married to your (present) wife: 4

Question 2:
Number of kids u have (if applicable):0

Question 3:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing trust of your wife’s judgement?
In other words, on a particular matter, do you think your wife’s judgement improve or deteriorate over past three years?

Netrual.

Question 4:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off?

Decreasing tolerance. But I 忍. Last few months I trashed it out with her. All these years I’ve been tolerating her sarcastic attitude. I told her 1 more time, it’s over between us
Question 5:
When u have quarrels with your wife, u do usually have cold wars or heated arguments?
In other words, do u keep mum & show black face for a few days, hoping she will know why u were angry, or u shout out at her why u were pissed off?

Previously, I keep mum & let her win because I don’t want to argue more. Now, I don’t give a damn. I keep quiet doesn’t mean I’m scared of her.
Question 6:
Do decreasing trust, decreasing tolerance & nature of quarrels affect your sex life with her even after reconciliation?

Maybe, maybe not. We do have sex once a blue moon. But not like last time, we’ll talk about it. Now after sex, I just sleep & don’t bother her.

[sundial]

seems like the same problems with local SG gers.
They should be educated in school on how to be a good wife.

Best group now to do this is AWARE !!!
AWARE should focus their education on making a good Singapore Wife rather than their SEX education which gets no where.

anyone from AWARE please change course !!

[nuclearkid]

Trust, Tolerance, Quarrels & Sex

This is a thread for married bros only. I did not open the thread in the poll section as I seek qualitative not quantitative responses and I wish to know some background factors.

Question 1:
Years u are married to your (present) wife:

7 (Am I entitled to the proverbial itch?)

Question 2:
Number of kids u have (if applicable):

1

Question 3:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing trust of your wife’s judgement?
In other words, on a particular matter, do you think your wife’s judgement improve or deteriorate over past three years?

She has gotten better over the years; more pragmatic and definitely more realistic. I think age, motherhood and the working life has contributed.

Question 4:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off?

My tolerance is dependent on the mood I happen to be in. But its usually benign and to answer your question, my tolerance has improved with greater understanding of the rationale behind her actions. Am one that believes the intention is more important than the final action.

Question 5:
When u have quarrels with your wife, u do usually have cold wars or heated arguments?
In other words, do u keep mum & show black face for a few days, hoping she will know why u were angry, or u shout out at her why u were pissed off?

We seldom quarrel in 7 years, less than 5 times and mostly in the first 3 years of the marriage. When we do, its usually a face-to-face talk, no voices raised, almost meeting-like. It may seem rather mellow but the outcome then were to go our separate ways (twice). So, less quarrel isn't always good.

Question 6:
Do decreasing trust, decreasing tolerance & nature of quarrels affect your sex life with her even after reconciliation?

[COLOR="Navy"]She's not into the do after the kid came along.

Are you doing an assignment, bro TS?

[patrickzapu]

Question 1: 15
Question 2: 3
Question 3: can't be bothered
Question 4: getting lesser
Question 5: very often
Question 6: i think she's trying hard at it to keep me off the streets............

hope it helps in ur research..............

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by heatingup

Thanks for being the first to reply.
Up u 4 humble points.

No Problem. Thks for the points.

[Spectrum17]

Question 1: Only 1 yr but with her for 8 yrs altogether.

Question 2: 0

Question 3: neutral

Question 4: increasing tolerance
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off?

Question 5:I just keep quiet. Wife is stubbon kind. Arguments will never ends.

Question 6: Like a earlier bro said, I separate love & lust.

PS: 1 yr b4 marriage, i wil involve with another girl. I want to break off w wife but wife threaten suicide. I back off. Thinking abt it now makes me feel unhappy with this marriage.
!&!!

[sounding]

Question 1:
Years u are married to your (present) wife: 4.5

Question 2:
Number of kids u have (if applicable): 0 at the moment

Question 3:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing trust of your wife’s judgement?
In other words, on a particular matter, do you think your wife’s judgement improve or deteriorate over past three years?
i shld say she got increased bit by bit.. sometime as a husband hv to influence or teach the wife. but mostly she will ask for my comments..

Question 4:
Over the years, do you have increasing or decreasing tolerance of your wife over things that pissed u off?
for those repeatly old cases, tolerance increased or shld say get used to it.. but she is a lovely good wife, sometime may do something that i feel not right.. but i don't think it pissed me off..

Question 5:
When u have quarrels with your wife, u do usually have cold wars or heated arguments?
In other words, do u keep mum & show black face for a few days, hoping she will know why u were angry, or u shout out at her why u were pissed off?
seldom quarrel.. if got anything juz cold wars for a night by keep quiet.. (no pt to talk abt whn both are heated up and won't accept the pt from each other) thn the nxt day turn back to normal..

Question 6:
Do decreasing trust, decreasing tolerance & nature of quarrels affect your sex life with her even after reconciliation?
hmm.. so far ok leh..