Fling or paid/commercial sex

guruking · #1 22-12-2009, 07:20 PM

Fling or paid/commercial sex?

Been long in this 'industry'...i started to find commercial/paid sex boring.
What do i mean? Commercial/ paid sex with a pretty n sexy lass doesnt excited me anymore. But I start to find a fling with an average look lass excited me more. I suppose the process of getting a fling, the flirting, the get-to-know each other aspect can make me high. It is not about the money, I think is about the thrill and excitment.

Maybe just to share a fling which i enjoyed. I got to know her when she called me for some credit card promotion. Since she had a Lin Zhiling's type of voice, i decided to apply for it. Purposely tried to delay my application to get more attention and calls from her. Eventually managed to get her msn and we started to chat. To cut the story short, one fine day, she called her to meet. I never see her before and the excitment is undescribable. Meet up, kinda of disappointed with the look and she made up with her bubbly and outgoing personalities. The day passed with a few drinks and a few flirting action between us. Of cos and eventually, we ended up spending the nite together. I must admit, the sex is one of the better one in recent times. Frankly based on her look, i give her only 5/10 and she had a pair of only A+ breast.

In SB context, she would be worth only $60-80. Not because of the $ saved i give her an overall good rating. In fact I think i paid about $300+ for the dinner, drinks and hotel. Notwithstanding, now i paid $300-400, i dont seem to enjoy the sex.

Am I gone through the been there, done that stage? Isit times to look for more excitment? Hmmm.....I still thinking about the days i shared with the telemarketer although she is not my type of lass (in term of look).

Guys, pls give your 2 cents worth of comments and pls don't ask me for her contact.

To Miss Tele (if you are here),
I always remember your quote "Life is a journey without a destination"

Oralcraz · #2 23-12-2009, 10:42 AM

Bro, to me FL/HC/TN are a revenue to release our sexual urge. Of course, we do have our regulars which may over time give us a little gfe. That's about it. As long as no KC is involved, we usually don't think about it after the deed.

Having a Fling is different in a sense that our thoughts are that she is not a WL (i.e. we don't really know her background) and making out with her is like a gfe. Also, the process leading to bed is extremely heart beating and exciting. For paid/commercial sex, no leading up process at all. So, naturally, fling should be more enjoyable. Been through this only once in my late 20s with a married colleague 4 or 5 yrs my senior.

FB/mistress is also different. We need to put in time, money and emotional feelings into it. Not forgetting many sacrifices too. You also share both happiness and sadness. Is like starting anew in terms of courtship....like a fresh start to yr love life. Been through this once also for 6 months with a colleague.

However, with Fling or FB or mistress, these are very high risk relations especially if you are a married family man and if you love your family. For me, now, I go HC/TN for a JG/HJ release. Good enough for me. Good luck.

*FiReWoRkS* · #3 23-12-2009, 08:37 PM

I can empathize with TS as i'm hitting this patch right now...

i enjoy the process of knowing, understanding, flirting and plotting the girl to bed very much...somehow i seem to enjoy the sex with these girls more than those with a FL/WL even though when the latter is much more skillful..the feeling is more sensual and emotional...i do feel sad though when my adventures with these girls have to end...engage in paid sex when i have an unbearable urge to release...

ultimately I believe it depends on what you are seeking...emotional or sexual needs...

besides our choices depend largely on our situations too..if your OC happens to be a sharp eye eagle monitoring your every move guess the best bet would be to engage in no-frills paid sex rather than time & attention demanding flings...

life's short...don't worry be happy...

cheers

Gerald Tan · #4 27-12-2009, 04:31 PM

Hi Bro GuruKing,
First of all, my encouragement on your thread content; its a wonderful sexperience u faced becos "fling" is always the preferred journey than FL service. Pls continue to develop on for more flings..haha
2ndly, I will start to work on the fling contact u pass to me...will update u once got news yeah.

ct75 · #5 27-12-2009, 05:02 PM

Its simple.... flings have emotions involved and paid sex.. well up to u! haha u want to be emotionally involved also can. Dont want also can... but common sense tells u not to be emotionally involved.

For flings I guess it is the whole court a girl, get the girl thing all over again... only now if u are seeing some else... there is the risk of getting caught, facing the music and also in some perverse way... the thrill of the mention consequences that make it exciting.

singexpat · #6 27-12-2009, 05:12 PM

Bro.. this means u up a level liao ah..

Paying not shiok nw, need to enjoy e fishing..

I salute u on ur promotion..

pharoahbb · #7 27-12-2009, 05:40 PM

i myself prefer fling as the process of getting to know the opp partner makesit very fun. But the process of getting caught is high too and follow by the opp partner getting to love you more makes it worse. Thank god my came to an end as my opp when overseas while i and my current still together crazy but fun'

@h-BeN · #8 27-12-2009, 08:37 PM

Fling is definately better than paid sex... but sometimes for those married mens, they might not have time to "invest or follow up" for the freebies/flings, at times you need to keep on chatting or converse before you able to have your freebies...

For me is fling too, but too bad i no times to invest or follow up, therefore paid sex !! hehehe...

Just my two cents worth....

too_hot · #9 27-12-2009, 08:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by guruking

To Miss Tele (if you are here),
I always remember your quote "Life is a journey without a destination"

Bro, interesting subject to bring up and generally agree. With paid sex, its somehow at the back of my mind that its all for the money; the slow deep kisses, the sweet nothings she whispers in my ears - would feel better if i did not have to pay her for it.

But out of curiosity, did ms tele know from the start that you were just in it for short term or maybe just ONS? was she local, malaysian or filipino? wat if the person u fling with is serious abt it and u end up hurting her? In fact i once had a telemarketer whom spoke to me a few times and we became very frenly on the phone....i seriously tot of asking her to meet up, but in the end, let it pass. After reading wat u wrote, maybe next time, i ll try wat u did...

Cheers...

guruking · #10 27-12-2009, 11:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ct75

Its simple.... flings have emotions involved and paid sex.. well up to u! haha u want to be emotionally involved also can. Dont want also can... but common sense tells u not to be emotionally involved.

For flings I guess it is the whole court a girl, get the girl thing all over again... only now if u are seeing some else... there is the risk of getting caught, facing the music and also in some perverse way... the thrill of the mention consequences that make it exciting.

Even for fling, i dont put in emotion...to court is a wrong term to use but getting to know the person is exciting. The question of to be able to up or not make it more exciting.

guruking · #11 27-12-2009, 11:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gerald Tan

Hi Bro GuruKing,
First of all, my encouragement on your thread content; its a wonderful sexperience u faced becos "fling" is always the preferred journey than FL service. Pls continue to develop on for more flings..haha
2ndly, I will start to work on the fling contact u pass to me...will update u once got news yeah.

Too bad, the contact i gave u is not Miss Tele.....hahaha. Post a FR if there is any update

guruking · #12 27-12-2009, 11:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by too_hot

Bro, interesting subject to bring up and generally agree. With paid sex, its somehow at the back of my mind that its all for the money; the slow deep kisses, the sweet nothings she whispers in my ears - would feel better if i did not have to pay her for it.

But out of curiosity, did ms tele know from the start that you were just in it for short term or maybe just ONS? was she local, malaysian or filipino? wat if the person u fling with is serious abt it and u end up hurting her? In fact i once had a telemarketer whom spoke to me a few times and we became very frenly on the phone....i seriously tot of asking her to meet up, but in the end, let it pass. After reading wat u wrote, maybe next time, i ll try wat u did...

Cheers...

Maybe a FL should market themselves as a fling then after the action, u just paid and go. But time to FL is $$$ so i dont think anyone FL would do that.

For your curiousity. Miss Tele is a local and initially we did not mention is it a fling, ONS or FB. Just flow out from nowhere. Eventually, both of us agreed that we enjoyed each other company but somehow gals' emotions and feelings overcome their lust